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99 percent of the books are rubbish in the self-help industry, but there is the occasional gem. Anything that has hard science behind its ideology is usually pretty good. I'd recommend Haidt (the happiness hypothesis). Teaches about using CBT and Mindfulness, both useful tools with scientific backing on their usefulness.
I have no personal experience of CBT but the fact that it's a treatment which focuses on how your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes affect your feelings and behaviour is sound.
In view of that, turning off the biggest single shaper of our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes is a good place to start.
I'd say one of the worst things is to spend all day on a computer. If you have to do it for work then after work make sure you promise yourself not to turn the thing on.
As others have said, exercise whether it be at the gym or going for a walk, is very good for the mind as well as the body. It is much better to do it with a friend or friends too. Chatting about anything and everything takes your mind off any problems or worries you have. Anyway a problem shared is a problem halved.
Find a girlfriend J2. Being in love is the best thing in the world. If it is difficult in your line of work to meet people, join a dating site. I know it works as I have several friends who have found permanent partners that way. If it doesn't work romantically I am sure it is a way to make friend and meet meeting people.
Here is what I am NOT saying; be a bodybuilder, be a birdwatcher, be a stoic.
What I AM saying is; lift weights, get outside and pursue a healthy hobby, and remember how you are one of the luckiest people ever born.
I guarantee that if you are feeling down, stressed, unhappy then if you go to the gym and lift weights - not cardio, not machines, not foam rollers, but squat dead overhead and bench - then you will absolutely 100% feel better. Same with going out and pursuing a cheap healthy hobby. Same with having a positive mindset.
You feel how you think.
Agree, the best way of boosting your Testosterone level by an absolute mile is lifting heavy sh!t! So many men now have ever increasing E2 levels due to this awful lifestyle we now all lead....
Take of this what you will, but there was a study where they took the bloods from kids with incredible results...
I'd say one of the worst things is to spend all day on a computer. If you have to do it for work then after work make sure you promise yourself not to turn the thing on.
As others have said, exercise whether it be at the gym or going for a walk, is very good for the mind as well as the body. It is much better to do it with a friend or friends too. Chatting about anything and everything takes your mind off any problems or worries you have. Anyway a problem shared is a problem halved.
Find a girlfriend J2. Being in love is the best thing in the world. If it is difficult in your line of work to meet people, join a dating site. I know it works as I have several friends who have found permanent partners that way. If it doesn't work romantically I am sure it is a way to make friend and meet meeting people.
I was at sea when I was informed I would be going home to an empty house. The ex wife had met another bloke.
It has made me insecure, at times I am probably pretty close to ruining my relationship with MrsNewcy. I was probably pretty close this morning.
I went to the gym after watch and it helped immeasurably.
A relationship only makes you happier when you are able to love yourself for who you are.
I have too much time to think. I do a dangerous job and have Somali and Nigerian pirates waiting for an opportunity to have a go at my ship.
in my opinion, self help books wont give you the answers you need. everyones indidvidual, there isnt a magic bullet
it sounds from your post, you are unhappy. so you've got to figure out why * might be your job? * might be your relationship with partner/family/friends? * might be your in a rut - doing same thing over and over? *might be your fed up with towsn performances ? * might be a mix of things
whatever it is, you need to figure what it is making you unhappy. only you can answer that, not some book.
sometimes, a change is as good as a fix. in my early 20s i got like this, so on the spare of the moment, i just booked a flight to america, on my own - and went. 3 weeks i went out there, it was fab - came back a different person.
maybe just get away for a while? sounds like what you need is a change.
I'd say one of the worst things is to spend all day on a computer. If you have to do it for work then after work make sure you promise yourself not to turn the thing on.
As others have said, exercise whether it be at the gym or going for a walk, is very good for the mind as well as the body. It is much better to do it with a friend or friends too. Chatting about anything and everything takes your mind off any problems or worries you have. Anyway a problem shared is a problem halved.
Find a girlfriend J2. Being in love is the best thing in the world. If it is difficult in your line of work to meet people, join a dating site. I know it works as I have several friends who have found permanent partners that way. If it doesn't work romantically I am sure it is a way to make friend and meet meeting people.
That last part if you have a girlfriend do you have to love her ?
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