| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems 18:13 - Oct 4 with 1886 views | newcastlefan1984 |
Hello there, I was wondering if anyone ever had experienced any problems with their neighbours which required police intervention. I suffer from bipolar and I live in Ipswich. I have suffered a lot of verbal abuse since lockdown but reside at home with family and live in housing association accommodation. I just wondered if anyone knew of anybody please or organisations who could act as a voice or support. Be greatly appreciated. Thank you |  | | |  |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 18:30 - Oct 4 with 1808 views | floridablue |
Good luck and hope someone can offer you helpful advice. |  | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 18:56 - Oct 4 with 1741 views | dickie |
We have had a lot of trouble with our adjoining pensioner neighbours in our semi. Complaints about the noise we make, lots of mouthing off about us to other residents in the street, complaints if we park on the road (perfectly legal to do so) threats to call social services if our kids make noise, banging on the walls, swearing in my front my small children, shouting at my guitar students (mostly children when they turn up for a music lesson).
After she twice threatened to call social services we called the council to ask if our noise could be considered antisocial (not in the slightest was their response) however they strongly suggested that we log a complaint with the police in case she followed through with their threats and because her behaviour was abusive, antisocial and threatening. We phoned up the old bill and the next day the neighbourhood bobby turned up to talk to us and them. He reassured us that any noise and behaviours on our part had been perfectly reasonable and told our neighbours that - she was not impressed! Things since have been slightly better, frosty but mostly they just ignore/refuse to acknowledge us.
I kind of feel for them because the old lady we bought the house off had rattled around the place alone for decades so they'd have not heard a peep from her. We moved in and within 2 years have two small children. Equally, at any time she could have politely spoken to us about any issues she had but she's always been combative, confrontational and generally vile.
Long and short of it though, the council were a help, as were the police. Not resolved but at least we're confident that any official complaints won't be taken too seriously. Luckily they're old and will hopefully kick the bucket/move before my kids are teenagers and really give them reasons to hate us! Either that or the old hag will sustain life on bitterness and resentment and we'll never be rid of her! | | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:15 - Oct 4 with 1689 views | newcastlefan1984 |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 18:56 - Oct 4 by dickie |
We have had a lot of trouble with our adjoining pensioner neighbours in our semi. Complaints about the noise we make, lots of mouthing off about us to other residents in the street, complaints if we park on the road (perfectly legal to do so) threats to call social services if our kids make noise, banging on the walls, swearing in my front my small children, shouting at my guitar students (mostly children when they turn up for a music lesson).
After she twice threatened to call social services we called the council to ask if our noise could be considered antisocial (not in the slightest was their response) however they strongly suggested that we log a complaint with the police in case she followed through with their threats and because her behaviour was abusive, antisocial and threatening. We phoned up the old bill and the next day the neighbourhood bobby turned up to talk to us and them. He reassured us that any noise and behaviours on our part had been perfectly reasonable and told our neighbours that - she was not impressed! Things since have been slightly better, frosty but mostly they just ignore/refuse to acknowledge us.
I kind of feel for them because the old lady we bought the house off had rattled around the place alone for decades so they'd have not heard a peep from her. We moved in and within 2 years have two small children. Equally, at any time she could have politely spoken to us about any issues she had but she's always been combative, confrontational and generally vile.
Long and short of it though, the council were a help, as were the police. Not resolved but at least we're confident that any official complaints won't be taken too seriously. Luckily they're old and will hopefully kick the bucket/move before my kids are teenagers and really give them reasons to hate us! Either that or the old hag will sustain life on bitterness and resentment and we'll never be rid of her! |
Thank you very much for your help. Means a lot. Will give Sane a call and e-mail. | | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:16 - Oct 4 with 1681 views | factual_blue |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 18:56 - Oct 4 by dickie |
We have had a lot of trouble with our adjoining pensioner neighbours in our semi. Complaints about the noise we make, lots of mouthing off about us to other residents in the street, complaints if we park on the road (perfectly legal to do so) threats to call social services if our kids make noise, banging on the walls, swearing in my front my small children, shouting at my guitar students (mostly children when they turn up for a music lesson).
After she twice threatened to call social services we called the council to ask if our noise could be considered antisocial (not in the slightest was their response) however they strongly suggested that we log a complaint with the police in case she followed through with their threats and because her behaviour was abusive, antisocial and threatening. We phoned up the old bill and the next day the neighbourhood bobby turned up to talk to us and them. He reassured us that any noise and behaviours on our part had been perfectly reasonable and told our neighbours that - she was not impressed! Things since have been slightly better, frosty but mostly they just ignore/refuse to acknowledge us.
I kind of feel for them because the old lady we bought the house off had rattled around the place alone for decades so they'd have not heard a peep from her. We moved in and within 2 years have two small children. Equally, at any time she could have politely spoken to us about any issues she had but she's always been combative, confrontational and generally vile.
Long and short of it though, the council were a help, as were the police. Not resolved but at least we're confident that any official complaints won't be taken too seriously. Luckily they're old and will hopefully kick the bucket/move before my kids are teenagers and really give them reasons to hate us! Either that or the old hag will sustain life on bitterness and resentment and we'll never be rid of her! |
Fly an EU flag in your back garden; that should mollify your neighbours. |  |
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:33 - Oct 4 with 1631 views | NewcyBlue |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:16 - Oct 4 by factual_blue |
Fly an EU flag in your back garden; that should mollify your neighbours. |
You’re his neighbour aren’t you? |  |
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:49 - Oct 4 with 1602 views | rattram |
I had problems and contacted Citizen's Advice | | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:58 - Oct 4 with 1580 views | factual_blue |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:33 - Oct 4 by NewcyBlue |
You’re his neighbour aren’t you? |
Me, live in a semi-detached house?
I don't think so. | |
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:09 - Oct 4 with 1550 views | Ryorry |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 18:56 - Oct 4 by dickie |
We have had a lot of trouble with our adjoining pensioner neighbours in our semi. Complaints about the noise we make, lots of mouthing off about us to other residents in the street, complaints if we park on the road (perfectly legal to do so) threats to call social services if our kids make noise, banging on the walls, swearing in my front my small children, shouting at my guitar students (mostly children when they turn up for a music lesson).
After she twice threatened to call social services we called the council to ask if our noise could be considered antisocial (not in the slightest was their response) however they strongly suggested that we log a complaint with the police in case she followed through with their threats and because her behaviour was abusive, antisocial and threatening. We phoned up the old bill and the next day the neighbourhood bobby turned up to talk to us and them. He reassured us that any noise and behaviours on our part had been perfectly reasonable and told our neighbours that - she was not impressed! Things since have been slightly better, frosty but mostly they just ignore/refuse to acknowledge us.
I kind of feel for them because the old lady we bought the house off had rattled around the place alone for decades so they'd have not heard a peep from her. We moved in and within 2 years have two small children. Equally, at any time she could have politely spoken to us about any issues she had but she's always been combative, confrontational and generally vile.
Long and short of it though, the council were a help, as were the police. Not resolved but at least we're confident that any official complaints won't be taken too seriously. Luckily they're old and will hopefully kick the bucket/move before my kids are teenagers and really give them reasons to hate us! Either that or the old hag will sustain life on bitterness and resentment and we'll never be rid of her! |
Sounds like it's probably gone past this point, but might it be worth inviting her/them round for a cuppa in a bid to win them round? Or offer help in some way such as "we're just off to the supermarket, would you like anything bringing back?"
Might at least bring a softening, and/or enable you both to put your points of view - better than years of animosity and conflict. Maybe they have hidden problems they're struggling with? - illness, whatever. |  |
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:17 - Oct 4 with 1526 views | RegencyBlue |
Won’t the Housing Association help?
If they have other tenants causing you a problem to that extent they should surely act if you tell them what is going on or are these people not in Housing Association housing? |  | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:35 - Oct 4 with 1495 views | BlueBadger |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 19:58 - Oct 4 by factual_blue |
Me, live in a semi-detached house?
I don't think so. |
The country cottage that Facters bought on his platinum plated pension, right here.
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:47 - Oct 4 with 1464 views | dickie |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:09 - Oct 4 by Ryorry |
Sounds like it's probably gone past this point, but might it be worth inviting her/them round for a cuppa in a bid to win them round? Or offer help in some way such as "we're just off to the supermarket, would you like anything bringing back?"
Might at least bring a softening, and/or enable you both to put your points of view - better than years of animosity and conflict. Maybe they have hidden problems they're struggling with? - illness, whatever. |
We've tried that, and at the start of lockdown we put a note through their door with our phone number offering to get them shopping etc but it's definitely past that point. When the old bill came round we just wanted to log a complaint to cover our backs but the friendly bobby persuaded us that it would be best if he spoke to them - I think that was the nail in the coffin! | | | |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 21:01 - Oct 4 with 1451 views | Ryorry |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 20:47 - Oct 4 by dickie |
We've tried that, and at the start of lockdown we put a note through their door with our phone number offering to get them shopping etc but it's definitely past that point. When the old bill came round we just wanted to log a complaint to cover our backs but the friendly bobby persuaded us that it would be best if he spoke to them - I think that was the nail in the coffin! |
Ah right, fair enough, in that case you've done your bit by trying. Shame they're causing such a bad atmos - not what you want in times like this.
Hope things calm down a bit anyway 👠| |
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| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 21:05 - Oct 4 with 1438 views | dickie |
| Help regarding neighbours and facing problems on 21:01 - Oct 4 by Ryorry |
Ah right, fair enough, in that case you've done your bit by trying. Shame they're causing such a bad atmos - not what you want in times like this.
Hope things calm down a bit anyway 👠|
The other side are lovely at least! Except he's a Spurs fan | | | |
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