| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:10 - May 20 with 3112 views | BlueBadger |
Don't worry, they won't.
Or, most likley, they'll make a massive anouncement regarding funding, etc, etc which is, on close examination, drawn from the same source as original services and makes no real increase in funding. [Post edited 20 May 2021 17:11]
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:11 - May 20 with 3105 views | bluelagos |
I heard earlier today of a 15 year old boy who hung himself in Clacton a few days ago. Incredibly sad and am sure young (and old) will be in need of support more than ever.
I think "ticking time bomb" is exactly what it is Glassers :-( |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 with 3054 views | GlasgowBlue |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:11 - May 20 by bluelagos |
I heard earlier today of a 15 year old boy who hung himself in Clacton a few days ago. Incredibly sad and am sure young (and old) will be in need of support more than ever.
I think "ticking time bomb" is exactly what it is Glassers :-( |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:25 - May 20 with 3012 views | bluelagos |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Kin hell mate. Wish I could offer some advice, but it's not an area I know anything about. Other than to say I wish her and you well with dealing with it.
The school will hopefully have specialists or at least know where to go to access the help she needs.
These lockdowns have been so harmful in so many ways to so many people, no argument from me on that point. (not that you don't know that already) | |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:30 - May 20 with 2980 views | SpruceMoose |
"The government have to put in the resources to ensure every child gets help..."
Narrator in 2035: "They didn't". |  |
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"Imagine being a heterosexual white male in Britain at this moment. How bad is that. Everything you say is racist, everything you say is homophobic. The Woke community have really f****d this country." | | Poll: | Selectamod |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:36 - May 20 with 2945 views | gtsb1966 |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
I don't think a lot of people have thought how lockdown would affect young people. Most people shrug their shoulders and think that youngsters have got nothing to worry about yet forget that their whole body both physically and mentally is changing at a rapid pace and being a young teenager is a worrying time. Good luck to you, your daughter and the rest of your family. |  | | |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:41 - May 20 with 2886 views | SpruceMoose |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:36 - May 20 by gtsb1966 |
I don't think a lot of people have thought how lockdown would affect young people. Most people shrug their shoulders and think that youngsters have got nothing to worry about yet forget that their whole body both physically and mentally is changing at a rapid pace and being a young teenager is a worrying time. Good luck to you, your daughter and the rest of your family. |
I'd like to think a lot of people have considered the well being of younger people during the pandemic. Most of all have younger people in our families after all. I just have low expectations that many will remember to vote for people who will actually attempt to improve services for young people the next time they're at the ballot box. | |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:43 - May 20 with 2890 views | DanTheMan |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Whilst not for the same reason, I did end up self harming when I was younger. I knew a few others who did too.
I'm sorry to hear what she's going through.
On the mental health side though, my eyes have been opened since my partner started as a Mental Health Nurse. Awful pay, long hours, too many patients and not enough beds. [Post edited 20 May 2021 17:44]
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:56 - May 20 with 2833 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Sorry to hear this Glassers, horrible thing to have to confront. Conversations I have had with junior though and my own observations lead me to think that this is spread more by social media than by lockdowns. In her words...."everybody has to have a thing!" |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:04 - May 20 with 2801 views | Steve_M |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Oh. bloody hell.
I suppose the most positive way of looking at it is that you and the school now both know there is an issue and you can start to deal with it. Best wishes.
And, yes, very much agree on the wider point. Losing the best part of a year is frustrating enough as an adult but so much more significant for children when it may feel that life is very different to what they had come to expect. |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:15 - May 20 with 2749 views | Darth_Koont |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Genuinely sorry to hear that.
As a father of two teenage daughters, I think questions of identity are much harder to resolve than any others. And they’re often years away from the insight that comes way too late in life that it’s only your own view of yourself and what’s right for you that can ultimately matter.
On the plus side, there’s never been a better time to be young and gay/unsure of one’s sexuality. Even over the last decade, it seems to have become much, much more acccepted by peers and wider society.
Hope you all come through, stronger, better and happier. |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:17 - May 20 with 2729 views | J2BLUE |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:56 - May 20 by BanksterDebtSlave |
Sorry to hear this Glassers, horrible thing to have to confront. Conversations I have had with junior though and my own observations lead me to think that this is spread more by social media than by lockdowns. In her words...."everybody has to have a thing!" |
A thing? |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:20 - May 20 with 2702 views | BlueBlueBluex2 |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
She is certainly not alone mate. My daughter is 15 and due to anxiety has not been to school for three years.
She too is suffering from a gender crisis and her sexuality is a big part of that.
Just got to sit and listen and try and understand. |  | | |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:29 - May 20 with 2646 views | GlasgowBlue |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:15 - May 20 by Darth_Koont |
Genuinely sorry to hear that.
As a father of two teenage daughters, I think questions of identity are much harder to resolve than any others. And they’re often years away from the insight that comes way too late in life that it’s only your own view of yourself and what’s right for you that can ultimately matter.
On the plus side, there’s never been a better time to be young and gay/unsure of one’s sexuality. Even over the last decade, it seems to have become much, much more acccepted by peers and wider society.
Hope you all come through, stronger, better and happier. |
Thanks for all of the kind comments folks.
Obviously we had been aware that she was struggling over the past year. Just as she had chosen to "come out" all social interaction was put on hold for a year. That's a long time to be only able to see your friends via facetime and social media. Too much time spent in her room.
She was a carefree and happy kid who now gets bouts of being overwhelmed by sadness for no reason.
It's certainly a learning curve for us but we are there for her and she has two twin sisters who are 18. Very outgoing and bubbly. They are doing all they can to keep her in a positive mood.
edit. Meant to add that after hearing the news my wife took her away for a few days to Oxford. My wife had been due to go with her sister and mother anyway.
Three days away and no issues. One day of being back and we found the blade of a pencil sharpener by her bed. It hadn't been used but it's no doubt a way of her feeling some control. Having to do a sweep of her room every day when she's at school. [Post edited 20 May 2021 18:32]
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:35 - May 20 with 2566 views | SitfcB |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:11 - May 20 by bluelagos |
I heard earlier today of a 15 year old boy who hung himself in Clacton a few days ago. Incredibly sad and am sure young (and old) will be in need of support more than ever.
I think "ticking time bomb" is exactly what it is Glassers :-( |
A 17 year old jumped off the Orwell Bridge the other day :( |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:39 - May 20 with 2529 views | Ryorry |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
So sorry Glassers, awful tough times for you all. At least she has a loving & supportive family around her.
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:48 - May 20 with 2496 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Sorry to hear this, Glassers. Hope things get better quickly. |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:31 - May 20 with 2347 views | vapour_trail |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:29 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
Thanks for all of the kind comments folks.
Obviously we had been aware that she was struggling over the past year. Just as she had chosen to "come out" all social interaction was put on hold for a year. That's a long time to be only able to see your friends via facetime and social media. Too much time spent in her room.
She was a carefree and happy kid who now gets bouts of being overwhelmed by sadness for no reason.
It's certainly a learning curve for us but we are there for her and she has two twin sisters who are 18. Very outgoing and bubbly. They are doing all they can to keep her in a positive mood.
edit. Meant to add that after hearing the news my wife took her away for a few days to Oxford. My wife had been due to go with her sister and mother anyway.
Three days away and no issues. One day of being back and we found the blade of a pencil sharpener by her bed. It hadn't been used but it's no doubt a way of her feeling some control. Having to do a sweep of her room every day when she's at school. [Post edited 20 May 2021 18:32]
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That’s really tough to be dealing with, wishing her and all of you the very best. I’m sure you will all be there for her as and when she needs you, look after yourselves as well though, it’s a hell of a pressure to carry.
There’s lots of resources out there to support you all. I’ve done some work with this one below who I think are very good, plenty of others working in this space as well of course.
https://mollyrosefoundation.org/ |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:39 - May 20 with 2309 views | Guthrum |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Sorry to hear that Glassers. I know my 14-year-old niece was struggling during lockdown. She came under a lot of pressure from "friends" to break lockdown rules on meeting up, which she didn't want to do knowing her young brother was potentially vulnerable due to past health issues. She had to withstand a lot of flak over that.
Teenage years are very complicated at the best of times learning social structures and where you fit into them. Months of isolation is not an ideal thing in the middle of all that. |  |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:52 - May 20 with 2249 views | Funge |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Hold tight Glassers. Kindness from me your daughter, you and your family.
Some excellent advice from others on here, all of which I echo.
Adolescence is tough enough; COVID must only amplify that. |  | | |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:56 - May 20 with 2221 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 18:17 - May 20 by J2BLUE |
A thing? |
An issue of some sort....almost like a badge of identity. There is so much visibility on social media for things like self harming that it only takes one moment of a troubling thought to spark a "aha I know what to do now" response.
Tbh my personal thought is that in this ever connected (virtually) world, individuals have never been more alone and this will have been made even more exaggerated by lockdown. It's almost like society promotes exactly the wrong values regarding belonging and community. [Post edited 21 May 2021 7:57]
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:59 - May 20 with 2198 views | ArnoldMoorhen |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:56 - May 20 by BanksterDebtSlave |
Sorry to hear this Glassers, horrible thing to have to confront. Conversations I have had with junior though and my own observations lead me to think that this is spread more by social media than by lockdowns. In her words...."everybody has to have a thing!" |
That's not a particularly helpful response, even if you intended it to be.
A child becoming a young person becoming a sexually awakened adult is a complex journey with many factors involved, and trying to concentrate on any particular "whys" just appears to the young person that you are trying to explain away their lived experience and feelings.
Glasow's daughter will have had to overcome inner doubt and hesitancy so much just to open up to her parents about this, regardless of how loving they are.
It's a painful journey sometimes, and judgement free listening is often more important than answers or analysis. | | | |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 20:02 - May 20 with 2186 views | Romeo4 |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 17:22 - May 20 by GlasgowBlue |
I've not been on here much lately as we've had a bit of a shock. Last week we had a call from school to say that my 14 year old daughter has been self harming.
She has been struggling with her sexuality over the past year and a bit and lockdown has badly affected her mental health.
Wasn't going to say anything about it on here but when I saw the Sky News article which says that a quarter of people my daughter's age are doing the same, I thought it needed to be highlighted. |
Strong post. Sorry to hear this but bravo for being so open about it. Highlights a very worrying aspect of modern life.
Teenage years are hard enough even without the additional challenges that COVID has brought.
I wish you and your family well. I hope your daughter can find some peace. |  | | |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 20:08 - May 20 with 2169 views | HARRY10 |
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| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 20:26 - May 20 with 2074 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
| This is a ticking time bomb that is going to affect quite a few on 19:59 - May 20 by ArnoldMoorhen |
That's not a particularly helpful response, even if you intended it to be.
A child becoming a young person becoming a sexually awakened adult is a complex journey with many factors involved, and trying to concentrate on any particular "whys" just appears to the young person that you are trying to explain away their lived experience and feelings.
Glasow's daughter will have had to overcome inner doubt and hesitancy so much just to open up to her parents about this, regardless of how loving they are.
It's a painful journey sometimes, and judgement free listening is often more important than answers or analysis. |
My observation is on the general topic of the thread and not the specifics of GB's daughter. | |
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