| Depression 17:27 - Sep 2 with 4430 views | ThisIsMyUsername |
Even by my own naturally depressive standards I am thoroughly unhappy at present and wondered if anyone can give me any practical tips please?
I have been through a lot recently. I lost my Dad in May after a traumatic 9 months, and 5 weeks ago me and my girlfriend broke up.
I've had no appetite for the last month and it takes me about 3-4x as long as usual to eat my meals, which are all smaller portions. A feeling of sickness/nausea/anxiety is present in my stomach about 90% of the time.
I'm currently not doing a lot because since finishing University 2 weeks ago I've at least another 5-6 weeks until I start my first post-grad job (although I'm in late 20s so have worked before).
I am occassionaly doing some of my exercise/activity-related hobbies but even that's a struggle as I'm not eating much.
Socially I am very isolated since moving back to my hometown from where I was for University. I do see people once a week when I go to [sporting activity], but my closest friends live quite far away and I'm not seeing them a lot lately. Also now I'm obviously not spending time with my girlfriend either, and I'm not feeling entirely like getting out there at the moment and meeting someone new.
I did go and see a counsellor recently (someone I've seen before) but there's not really a lot at the moment that they can really help me with as I talk about things on the phone/text with friends every now and again which has the same effect of getting it out of the system I guess.
I have 'thoughts' quite often but for me that's quite normal and nothing I am really alarmed about. I don't want to go to the Docs to get any medication because it's just like sticking a plaster on top and numbs me to the point of feeling nothing (would rather feel at least something).
Is it just a case of 'give it time' and 'keep busy'? If so I am trying to be productive but there's not a lot I either need or want to do at the moment. The last 2 or 3 days I've spent most of my time sitting on the sofa flicking through the TV/laptop for hours on end. I go for a long walk every day as a bare minimum, but that only kills half an hour.
Maybe I could look for some sort of voluntary work or something as a way to keep a bit busier and interact with more people.
Like I say, I have a long history with depression, but at the moment I have actual 'things' which have been stacked on top of that.
Just fairly angry with the world most of the time lately and fancied a rant and a request for advice. Thanks. [Post edited 3 Sep 2021 10:15]
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| Depression on 10:14 - Sep 3 with 606 views | ThisIsMyUsername |
Many thanks for the further posts with offers and bits of advice.
I've scheduled to finally get back into the gym this afternoon for the first time since Christmas (solitary home workouts just aren't cutting it anymore). Also contacted the GP for a general discussion so awaiting a call back. | |
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| Depression on 12:28 - Sep 3 with 511 views | Darkblue |
I'm really sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it at the moment. As someone in their late 20s with long term depression/anxiety I can really empathise with your situation!
It's interesting to hear about your situation since finishing university. I found one thing that I really was unprepared for when finishing uni and moving away from the city I'd been studying in was the complete sudden loss of social life. That paired with general post uni "blues" was really difficult so I can imagine how tough it must be for you at the minute with everything else that's been going on.
I can't offer too much advice but one thing that I found has really helped me is keeping a thought diary. I struggle a lot with overwhelming thoughts/emotions but I find writing them down using the format below to be really helpful:
https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/ThoughtRecordSheetAnxiety.pdf
That as well as regular exercise and taking time out for myself/time to be kind to myself doing the things I really enjoy help to make things better.
Please remember, as bad as you might feel now, this won't last forever. As much of a cliche as it is, time is a great healer - things can and will improve for you.
Take care and feel free to drop me a DM if you want to talk. |  | | |
| Depression on 18:23 - Sep 3 with 424 views | ITFCMonk |
Please DM me. I've been through very similar circumstances exactly as you've described. My advice - voluntary work was a saviour for me, especially as you also have something lined up. I would recommend medication on a low dose as I had a bad experience of a too high dose. You'll get through this, sometimes it takes time but keep following and doing the things you love. |  |
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