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Any education folk got any pointers on how long it might take a typical school to respond / sort out bullying?
Or for that matter, what the process might be? ie how the school establishes whether what's actually happened is bullying or not? Some of it takes the form of violence, threats* or name-calling about his appearance, but some of it's much more subtle and carefully hidden by the perpetrators.
*Not so subtle was the threat to 'Shank' my boy made several times last Monday. Edit: made by an 8 year old to another 8 year old. Almost certainly stupid banter, rather than an actual threat, but we obviously can't live with that sort of talk either way.
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Has anyone ever looked at their own postings for last day or so? Oh my... so sorry. Was Ullaa
Have you thought about speaking to the parents? Anyone in their right mind would be horrified to find out their eight year old child is threatening to 'Shank' another child.
Whatever you do to resolve it, I hope it gets sorted. No one deserves to be bullied.
Hugely risky. The parents of the other child are very likely to assume their child has done no wrong. The right step is to go to the school authorities, preferably with the backing of another child/parent. My son was being bullied at school & the prime perpetrator was the son of a teacher at the school, which made it very tricky.
This is terrible, Ullaa. I feel for you and your son. You are doing the right thing to initially raise it with the class teacher. I presume you are right that the child using the threat has no idea what the threat means but you have to wonder where they have picked it up from.
If, having raised it with the class teacher, you are not happy with the outcome (that appears to be the stage you are at now), you need to take it up a level and be clear what your issues are. This could be the head teacher or (probably better) the safeguarding lead who will likely be an assistant head teacher or the deputy head.
State exactly what you are concerned about and what has been done and over what timescale. Explain your concern over the phrase used especially. Make sure you get back from them exactly what they will do. If you are still not happy then your next step would be to go up one level from there - the Head Teacher if it was not them; the Head of the Governors if it was.
At least your son has told you about this. Keep communication open and encourage him to speak to someone at school too - in fact ask who would be the best person for him to go to in school when this is happening or if he feels unsafe.
Feel free to pm if you need further advice afterwards.
Thanks Mr. Very good question on what I want out of it which has made me stop and think.
Has anyone ever looked at their own postings for last day or so? Oh my... so sorry. Was Ullaa
Bullying in schools on 19:12 - Jan 18 by Radlett_blue
Hugely risky. The parents of the other child are very likely to assume their child has done no wrong. The right step is to go to the school authorities, preferably with the backing of another child/parent. My son was being bullied at school & the prime perpetrator was the son of a teacher at the school, which made it very tricky.
If you know the parents, you might consider it. Either way the school needs to be fully aware. Where has the child picked the phrase up and to what degree does he understand it or not? It is a safeguarding issue that the school should be investigating.
Bullying in schools on 19:22 - Jan 18 by giant_stow
Thanks Mr. Very good question on what I want out of it which has made me stop and think.
You know what you want from it - you want your son to feel safe and happy at school. The bigger question is exactly how that can be accommodated. Be as clear as you can be about what you expect. Some schools are better at dealing with things than others but the more you can prompt them in the right direction the better.
You know what you want from it - you want your son to feel safe and happy at school. The bigger question is exactly how that can be accommodated. Be as clear as you can be about what you expect. Some schools are better at dealing with things than others but the more you can prompt them in the right direction the better.
Drop a comment into your next email that you're thinking of contacting Ofsted about their safeguarding policies.
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