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I'm aware you didn't bring it up, which is an issue, as the points you raise shouldn't be made in isolation, as that would be foolish.
And don't forget that you originally replied to me, where I did mention the history. So I'm not willing accept this important point being removed from the conversation.
Who has taken account for the Hillsborough Disaster? Who has taken account for the cover-up?
Margaret Aspinall, who lost her son - “we’ve got death certificates with 96 unlawfully killed, but not one person has yet been held into account”.
"On 26 May 2021, Denton, Foster and Metcalfe were all found not guilty of perverting the course of justice by altering 68 police officers' statements"
The idea that this is decades old is a fallacy. It is an ongoing, current, perversion of justice.
If you want to make a Germany war comparison, it would be more akin to booing the German national anthem whilst Hitler et al are waltzing around Germany in comfortable retirement and ignorant people Andorra tell you to move on because they like a song and a monarchy.
Strange thing to wonder. I expect very few have even thought about it, let alone plan to forgo it. I doubt any of them plan on associating themselves with you over the bank holidays either.
Every EU nation has more bank holidays than the UK, which includes republics. So maybe if the UK abolished the monarchy and national anthem, they'd get more bank holidays.
This took me down a rabbit hole. Thought I'd be annoying and give a load of Scottish Premier League teams, but it reformed to the Premiership.
Then I decided to look up the longest not relegated from the top flight runs around the world... Celtic with 131 years or 124 seasons (assuming the gap is due to the wars).
Then I was wondering why Celtic is pronounced Seltic and not Keltic. Apparently from the 1500s it was Seltic, reflecting the French and Latin origins of the world. It was then reformed in spelling and sound to Keltic by language historians, who felt it should reflect the Greek roots of the word. The sound stuck in most official cases, but never caught on in spelling. Now just sports teams like Celtic, Celtic and Celtic use Seltic.
The electorate is equally responsible. For decades people like me have asked for one basic democratic need: Equality of voting power. This in the form off two main pillars. Reform of the voting system so MPs are elected with an equal amount of support. The cessation of private capitalists funding political parties.
An interesting discussion and one that resonates with me as my wife wanted a dog, promised to do certain things and doesn't. This led to some resentment on my side and put strain on our relationship.
Responsibility I get the tendancy to put the blame/responsibility on your daughter and then further distance that to the ex. But it is your fault. It is your fault on at least two levels. It is your fault because you own the house, where you make the rules and you said yes. It is also your fault because being apart of that decision making for bringing another life into the household means you are 100% accountable, and the actions of the other people in this scenario do not absolve you of that responsibility.
I say this in this way because it is what I would say to myself. Eg, my wife said she would walk the dog every day before work. Yet she went months without walking it in the winter. I did it, in the cold or rain. I could blame her. But I blame me. It was my choice to say yes and the promises mean nothing, I still have the responsibility to that life.
[Re-homing] Sounds good, sounds tempting. The hard work will just go away. In the somebody-else's-problem-field.
I was at a dog park two days ago. A bigger dog was naughty. It was territorial with a ball (my dogs) towards another dog (not mine). So this dog own hit their dog and aggressively told it off. The owner then turn to me and said "don't worry, he won't do anything to your dog"... I'm like "how do you know, when you teach your dog that violence is an acceptable way to discipline a less powerful being".
Point is, this person was a "dog-lover" and there was nothing to suggest prior that they would act like this. You giving the dog up to another person is a roll of the dice. They may end up with a better life, they may end up with a much worse life. You don't know. There are no guarantees. Taking that risk is irresponsible. I say this to myself as much as I say it to you.
Age
Your in your mid to late 50s. I hope you live long. Dogs are good for your health. Getting an hour's worth of exercise a day is going to increase your chances of not only living longer, but having a healthier life.
When you are feeling sorry for yourself, when you are cursing your luck, focus on positives like these.
holidays, care, etc Since getting a dog I have got a new dog, and part of the negotiation with the places I interviewed was two days a week wfh. My wife also got WFH and my office is dog friendly. Something to work towards. Part of your holiday planning will be getting your dog adequate care. This could be with a dog owner friend or a paid service.
Living in Canada it is a bit of a culture shock. Having to tip at places. Particularly noticeable when there is no additional service. Eg, I'm paying you to pour me a beer, yet you want a tip because you are pouring it.
I went to a fancy restaurant and the food and service was bad and people still expected me to tip. 5% was seen as an amount to be making a point. I didn't tip. It got me thinking though. I go to a cheap Pho restaurant run by a family relatively often and I used to resent paying a tip there. But after that experience I was thinking that even if I paid 5% in protest, it would have been more than I tip at this Pho place. So now I generally tip the lowest I can when I'm already paying a premium and more favourably at places where it is independent.
I also have no patience for tipping at a Subway! Or other similar places. Or anywhere that demands a tip before I consume what I've paid for.
I have a Brazilian friend, and he was telling me how when he first arrived he got a round of drinks. Went back later to get another round and the staff refused to serve him as he didn't tip the first time!! Wrong on many levels. Not part of your culture, your not providing an additional service such as waiting on a table, tip is by definition a "gift" not a right.
Good luck not tipping though, if you want to make something a regular experience.
Last rant/observation is takeaway charging delivery fee, service and expecting tip.
I say the last one... But you also have the situation where when you pay, people will then ask you what you are doing and be overly friendly, and some people just lap it up. It's clear it is just sales to get you to tip more.