| Football, my dad and moaning 21:46 - Mar 18 with 2586 views | FrimleyBlue |
Firstly apologies for this post. Its a bunch of random words but my mind is in all different levels of confusion. Anger. Sadness, worry. Regret and more.
My dad whos been in and out of hospital through the last year. Erm im not quite sure how long he has left. Ive been down to see him and not quite sure how I feel about yesterday how I feel about anything really. I just don't know how to function right now.
But thinking of football and my time spent with my dad is something I'll always remember.
The first time he took my into the churchmans stand. The hot dog stall. The ham sandwich and drink in the bar thats now the george burley bar I think it is.
I remember my had always moaning. "Ah come on" hed screech. I can hear it just typing it. He used to wind people up with it. He always meant well he just loved ipswich but hed seen the good days so when we were drawing with a port Vale or a Grimsby He wouldnt take to it. I assume thats where my high expectations come from and can hear my dad when ever I sit on my sofa saying oh come on.
I remember the play off final. Getting the coach with him. Having chicken and chips before the game. Taking our seat and the coach back. I know I said thank you but if I could go back id say it better thank an expectatant teen.
My dad always tried to do what he could for me. Esp when it came to football. Year on year he got us season tickets. I never appreciated the stress he had of making sure he got them. I was expectant. God I wish I could go back and let him know at the time how much it meant to me.
I remember one time he was £100 short or something and he took me to a bookies. I stood by the door as he put a bet on hoping to win the money to get the ticket. In walked dyer to put 1k on a greyhound that didnt come in. He shrugged walked out. My dad.. just stood I could see the pain in his eyes. He didnt win the money that day. I wish I could have said dont worry. Its not needed.
He did indeed get that ST and again we shared weekly football witb town.
I wish I could turn back the time. Relive those years.
For all those that attend pr with your friends. Family. Kids. Enjoy them. Remember them and keep them as long as you can.
I dont know where to turn right now. I dont know how to feel. How to act. Whats right whats wrong. Theres no predicted time for this. No predicted date. Its clinging on to some miracle thwt he gets through it but at the same time in his 80s is getting through it the best thint for him. Then I feel guilty for thinking that.
I just dont know how to function right now. I dont even know why im sharing. I just dont really have people to air it too. I know I have wife and son but I cant load this on them.
Always sorry for this random post. Just needed to write down some feelings as been speaking them in my head all day.
Yours
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| Football, my dad and moaning on 09:22 - Mar 19 with 394 views | ArnoldMoorhen |
The hospital will have a Chaplaincy team who are used to listening to people of all faiths and none.
They are available to you if you want or need to talk some of these things through. |  | | |
| Football, my dad and moaning on 09:28 - Mar 19 with 379 views | football |
Sorry to read this - sounds a really tough time. My only suggestion is spend as much time as you can with him. My big regret was when dad was taken into hospital we left him there and completely forgot to give our contact details. I went to work the next day not hospital as it was Committee report deadline. My brother decided to phone the hospital and found out he had died. My regret which will always be with me was deciding to go to work and not hospital and as a result he died alone. He was I think completely out of it, but we'll never know.
This is the stark contrast to when my mum died and we were all there with her to the end. We all took a few days of work to spent time at the hospital on a rota so she was never alone. I will always be proud that we did that
With both - one relatively quick and the other long drawn out - I also at times which they would just die. I wanted them to be at peace and not suffer or it to drag on. Did at times make me feel very guilty.
Like you I remember football with dad. My first game we went to when returning from living in Germany was Coventy in the 1985 season, with my milk crate in Churchman's. I was hooked. He died in 2017 (I think!) so we had many years of games including the promotion season, trip to the san siro and the friendly at Fortuna. He really suffered some football highs but some absolute c**p (though luckily missed the last few years) but wow he would have loved these last few years
Make sure you look after yourself though as well....things like this really do hit hard | | | |
| Football, my dad and moaning on 11:42 - Mar 19 with 304 views | lurcher |
Look after yourself.
Most of us go through things like this, all part of getting older.
I hope the club give us all a little hope and magic Saturday. |  | | |
| Football, my dad and moaning on 12:40 - Mar 19 with 261 views | CM7blue |
Really sorry to read this. I lost my mum at the end of last year so I can sympathise with what you're going through.
The best advice I can give is to keep typing up and expressing your feelings.
I found it really helped (sending emails to work colleagues in my case). Don't ever feel bad about typing too much, there are some great listeners around!
Finally , as someone said above, don't forget to talk as well. I didn't talk enough, and I wish I had now. Regret isn't good.
Take care mate, best wishes to you and your dad. |  | | |
| Football, my dad and moaning on 17:12 - Mar 19 with 188 views | CM7blue |
Really sorry to read this. I lost my mum at the end of last year so I can sympathise with what you're going through.
The best advice I can give is to keep typing up and expressing your feelings.
I found it really helped (sending emails to work colleagues in my case). Don't ever feel bad about typing too much, there are some great listeners around!
Finally , as someone said above, don't forget to talk as well. I didn't talk enough, and I wish I had now. Regret isn't good.
Take care mate, best wishes to you and your dad. | | | |
| Football, my dad and moaning on 20:38 - Mar 19 with 113 views | Nutkins_Return |
Great post frimmers and never apologize. You probably help a number of people putting this down in writing. Hope it helped you as well. Sorry to hear about what you are going through. As others have said you just being with him at moments like the playoff final would mean the absolute world to him! | |
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