| Matt Beard 13:39 - May 12 with 1135 views | OldFart71 |
Can't say I have heard of this fella, but apparently he was the Liverpool women's team coach and he took his own life.
Why I bring this up is to say we all have an obligation to be responsible for the comments we make with regards to others who they may be.
I don't know the reason for Matt taking his life. It was probably that for whatever reason he was in a dark place and it's not always possible that those close to these people even have an inkling that they will commit suicide.
Like myself I would imagine many know of a family member, a friend or the father of a friend who has committed this ultimate act. I certainly have.
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| Matt Beard on 13:43 - May 12 with 1073 views | Cheltenham_Blue |
As someone who was in a very very dark place a while ago, I can assure you that no-one close knows your intention.
You get very very good at pretending to be OK.
I'm fine now, but it's been a battle to get better. |  |
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| Matt Beard on 14:10 - May 12 with 928 views | Wright1 |
| Matt Beard on 13:43 - May 12 by Cheltenham_Blue |
As someone who was in a very very dark place a while ago, I can assure you that no-one close knows your intention.
You get very very good at pretending to be OK.
I'm fine now, but it's been a battle to get better. |
Can I ask how you got better? | | | |
| Matt Beard on 14:49 - May 12 with 740 views | OldFart71 |
| Matt Beard on 13:43 - May 12 by Cheltenham_Blue |
As someone who was in a very very dark place a while ago, I can assure you that no-one close knows your intention.
You get very very good at pretending to be OK.
I'm fine now, but it's been a battle to get better. |
I am so pleased you are feeling better and I hope you stay that way. We all have times when we feel down, I am lucky enough that I am able to get over it pretty quickly. The only time I ever felt desperate was when my ex wife walked out on myself and the kids as she was having an affair with a chap at work.
But I knew to do anything which meant my kids were on their own would in some ways be selfish.
I did have a work mate who committed suicide. He was a lovely fella. His wife had left him with two young kids. He brought them up and then committed suicide.
I know it's not easy and I am no expert, but if a person can try talking to someone. Your family, a friend or a professional. There is always a way out of whatever affects a person. I remarried and we have been together for over 30 years now. | | | |
| Matt Beard on 17:48 - May 12 with 395 views | Cheltenham_Blue |
| Matt Beard on 14:10 - May 12 by Wright1 |
Can I ask how you got better? |
Bit personal. But through a lot of counselling, grief and more generalised, changing my job to prevent me spending considerable time working and being alone, opening up to people and trying a series of different antidepressants until finding one that did the trick for me.
I have to say none of this happened until I snapped back into a rational mind and found myself stood in the loft with the hatch closed.
I won’t tell you the rest, it’s taken three years to feel ‘right’ | |
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| Matt Beard on 18:10 - May 12 with 314 views | IndependentlyBlue |
Always a really difficult thing to do but if you’re in that position open up to someone. Easy to say but hellishly difficult to do I know. But sometimes, just saying what’s happening to you to someone else can make all the difference. Even ‘outing’ yourself on here can help. It’s a start to breaking the cycle.
Too many people, and particularly guys, keep it to themselves. Please don’t.
Have always been amazed and heartened at the responses on here when someone does open up. Some absolute top sorts on here. Long may it last.
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| Better to stay silent and be thought a fool than open your mouth and remove all doubt |
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| Matt Beard on 19:09 - May 12 with 195 views | berkstractorboy |
| Matt Beard on 17:48 - May 12 by Cheltenham_Blue |
Bit personal. But through a lot of counselling, grief and more generalised, changing my job to prevent me spending considerable time working and being alone, opening up to people and trying a series of different antidepressants until finding one that did the trick for me.
I have to say none of this happened until I snapped back into a rational mind and found myself stood in the loft with the hatch closed.
I won’t tell you the rest, it’s taken three years to feel ‘right’ |
Great to hear you have managed to work through it. Brave of you to share this, should make us all think twice when getting personal with others over opinions. Take care C_B, | | | |
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