| 8 years ago today... 11:34 - Jun 6 with 4643 views | hoppy |
Probably the single hardest thing I've ever had to face, as KJ and I had our little boy born sleeping. I know it's a personal thing, so sorry for that, but you have always been so supportive on here on what remains a very tough day to cope with.
Never got to know you, but never forgotten. Always loved.
Happy Birthday CT.
Love, Daddy xx
Will be up to spend some time with you later... sorry this is the closest I could get to a tractor!
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| 8 years ago today... on 16:32 - Jun 6 with 1024 views | hoppy |
| 8 years ago today... on 15:36 - Jun 6 by BloomBlue |
As I've mentioned before I hate the expression 'it will get easier'. I know why people say it, but for me it's never been 'easier', it's more a case of you accept the situation and somehow learn to continue living your life. Mrs Bloom eventually stopped writing birthday cards but we still have a shoebox in the loft full of unopened birthday cards. A lot of people thought she was insane for continuing to write them and was refusing to 'move on', what they never understood is writing those cards actually helped her move on. We've accepted life was/is never going to be the same, but we still had to have her in our lives and Mrs B writing birthday cards was part of that process.
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Thanks for your thoughts. Yes, everybody's coping mechanism is different - for example, KJ can't bring herself to go to the cemetery, even now, 8 yrs later, yet for me, I like to have that quiet time of "father/son" time, and I like to take a card up there for his birthday.
Yasmin asked me this morning if she could come too today, as she and her friends at school were also making a card, that she wanted to laminate for us to take up and put with the flowers. It doesn't get easier, and it's not a case of not moving on. We enjoy and celebrate the lives of our other children - Yasmin is constantly making us proud, as does my son, along with KJ's other two boys, but still wonder how CT would've been at 8 years old now. It's still a hard day, but I don't just sit and wallow - I've still joined in with some of the pun threads today (when wouldn't I?!) and have been warmed by the comments and care from people on this thread, but I've also had moments today when I've sobbed a bit too. I guess that's all part of the process as well. | |
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| 8 years ago today... on 17:06 - Jun 6 with 990 views | usm |
Thinking of you and KJ.
I cant imagine what its like but wish you all, all the best. |  |
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| 8 years ago today... on 18:53 - Jun 6 with 952 views | hoppy |
I might've blubbed a little bit more...
When Yasmin came to my office after school for us to go to the cemetery, she'd made a card, and got a load of her year 6 group to sign it, including her teacher... they were so supportive of her too, as she'd said it was for her little brother that she'd never had a chance to play with!
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| 8 years ago today... on 19:02 - Jun 6 with 905 views | Churchman |
| 8 years ago today... on 18:53 - Jun 6 by hoppy |
I might've blubbed a little bit more...
When Yasmin came to my office after school for us to go to the cemetery, she'd made a card, and got a load of her year 6 group to sign it, including her teacher... they were so supportive of her too, as she'd said it was for her little brother that she'd never had a chance to play with!
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Despite the heartbreaking sadness of the reason, that’s really lovely and made me smile. Thank you for sharing this. |  | | |
| 8 years ago today... on 19:15 - Jun 6 with 889 views | stickymockwell |
Lots and lots and lots of love to you and KJ |  |
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| 8 years ago today... on 19:29 - Jun 6 with 873 views | cvillageblue |
Best wishes on what must be such a difficult day. |  |
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| 8 years ago today... on 20:14 - Jun 6 with 849 views | bluebudgie |
Life can be cruel. Just surround yourself with the love and support of your family, and I'm sure your support and love will help them. |  | | |
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| 8 years ago today... on 20:33 - Jun 6 with 834 views | tractordownsouth |
Thinking of you Hoppers. |  |
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| 8 years ago today... on 23:10 - Jun 6 with 795 views | hoppy |
| 8 years ago today... on 20:33 - Jun 6 by tractordownsouth |
Thinking of you Hoppers. |
Thanks, and again to everyone else above. | |
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