| The Joy of Alzheimer's 12:59 - Apr 17 with 1299 views | Pendejo |
Ok nothing to be joyous about, it's eating away at my father's memory, luckily he still remembers who I am, but struggles with where I live - even though I'm only a few streets away from where he lived for the first 3 years of my life.
He stresses about knowing he has gaps in his memory, and I have tried the "King Foo Panda" logic - here and now is known as the present as every minute is a gift.
My sister messaged me yesterday, whilst reading the Sunday paper dad exclaimed Charlton (his team) lost 6-0 at Ipswich (my team) yesterday.
She replied "You were there"
He couldn't remember, it shouldn't but it made me laugh.
Can't wait til he see Ipswich Star today as another reminder! |  |
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:04 - Apr 17 with 1241 views | ArnieM |
Bloody bad isn’t it, and it’s happening to so many families now. It’s most definitely “the long goodbye.”
Very Best wishes to you and your family ( and naturally your dad)
Typo ( auto text ! ) corrected , sorry about that. [Post edited 17 Apr 2023 18:02]
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:06 - Apr 17 with 1224 views | Metal_Hacker |
I feel your "pain" if that's the correct term
My old man too ,since a bad illness 3 years ago ,has suffered with increasing Alzeheimer's effects
He lives in Nottingham with my Mum and has been a Notts County fan since year dot ( he actually took me to my very first "proper" game at Meadow Lane when I was about 3 I'm told , lifting me over the turnstiles and giving the bloke a couple of £'s - circa 1970)
Anyway I took him a couple of weeks ago because I might not get the opportunity again and he loved it nearly as much as I loved seeing him smile for 90 mins
Driving home though bearing in mind he's from Nottingham and lived 90% of his life there he didn't recognise the way home that I took - again it made me chuckle because I genuinely thought he was messing about - sadly not
Horrible disease
Keep em close fellas - we only get one Dad !!! [Post edited 17 Apr 2023 13:11]
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:10 - Apr 17 with 1202 views | farkenhell |
Same thing happened to my Nan. Don't ever feel guilty about laughing, it's a necessary pressure relief valve.
I remember my Nan berating my Grandad for not helping her look for her glasses - which happened to be positioned on top of her head at the time. Still makes me smile, even after so many years. |  | | |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:21 - Apr 17 with 1150 views | brazil1982 |
My Mother has it, it's so damn cruel. She can never remember where I live or what she had for tea but older memories can be quite sharp. |  | | |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:24 - Apr 17 with 1116 views | farkenhell |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:21 - Apr 17 by brazil1982 |
My Mother has it, it's so damn cruel. She can never remember where I live or what she had for tea but older memories can be quite sharp. |
That's so right. My Nan couldn't remember a conversation that we had 5 minutes before, but she would regale us with her war-time experiences in minute detail. | | | |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:30 - Apr 17 with 1062 views | homer_123 |
If you don't laugh you cry.
Alz is an absolute sh*tter. |  |
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:34 - Apr 17 with 1051 views | hammo56 |
This brings back memories of my late father-in-law. He kept going back to his childhood and the Christmas before he died both mother-in-law and him came to ours. I stayed up with him all night as he was pacing the floor and standing at the window looking out for the milk maid. He then decided to try and take down the Christmas tree!
Such sad times, especially for my wife and late mother-in-law. However, when we look back now both my wife and I have a laugh about what happened that night. All the best to you and your family. | | | |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:40 - Apr 17 with 1007 views | BlueandTruesince82 |
My grandad had Dementia which obviously has many similarities.
Its a horrible disease so I'm glad your finding the humor where you can |  |
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:42 - Apr 17 with 997 views | Metal_Hacker |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:34 - Apr 17 by hammo56 |
This brings back memories of my late father-in-law. He kept going back to his childhood and the Christmas before he died both mother-in-law and him came to ours. I stayed up with him all night as he was pacing the floor and standing at the window looking out for the milk maid. He then decided to try and take down the Christmas tree!
Such sad times, especially for my wife and late mother-in-law. However, when we look back now both my wife and I have a laugh about what happened that night. All the best to you and your family. |
It's a bloody nightmare
Only last weekend my Dad was painting the hallway walls in gloss paint whilst Mum was out shopping
Imagine her reaction when she walked back in !
He had also decided to change the batteries in the Sky remote (apparently that's his thing now is re-charging things or just batteries in general) anyway he couldn't get the back off the remote so ripped the back off with a screwdriver - remote was ferked !
Bless him ...and her | |
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:45 - Apr 17 with 981 views | Pinewoodblue |
You have to laugh it off. Can remember visiting my mother in hospital. She spoke to my wife, using her first name, telling her that I hadn’t visited her. |  |
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| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 13:52 - Apr 17 with 944 views | Tractor_Buck |
I can only sympathise. We recently lost my Father-in-Law at the age of 90. He'd been struggling with Dementia for three years or so but was mostly OK. He'd ask you the same question four or five times in half an hour, but get him onto his pet subjects of his childhood in Birmingham or his beloved Villa and he was away. I had the honour of taking him on a tour of Villa Park last year, and the memory of that will stay with me for a long time.
Suddenly, in the last four weeks of his life, everything crashed. He became mostly bed bound, uncommunicative, and would randomly do stuff like start emptying his wardrobe at 3 in the morning looking for something but not knowing what it was he was looking for. We had to arrange home care for him and it was heart-breaking to see this giant of a man who'd been part of my life for over 30 years suddenly cease to be him so quickly. I say this from a position of great love and respect - his passing was a blessing for him, my Mum-in-Law, and my wife.
God I miss him though. |  | | |
| The Joy of Alzheimer's on 14:12 - Apr 17 with 871 views | Churchman |
I sympathise and empathise. I’m going through a similar thing my dad. Similarly he knows who I am, but is disappearing piece by piece mentally. He hasn’t the faintest idea where I live and can’t remember Mrs Cs name despite seeing her Easter Sunday. My sister does most of the looking after and has far more patience than me.
Alzheimer’s, dementia, whatever the term is a cruel condition. Sort of death by a thousand cuts. However, I’m am lucky to have had my parents around for so long (my mother died in Asterbury care home five years ago from a variety of things including dementia at 92). I’m mindful of Mrs C who lost her mum at a very young age.
My dad and I shared so much, including a passion for the football club. He knows we are doing alright, but then he doesn’t really. He’d have been all over it not too many years ago, up the training ground, you name it. But there it is. I’m lucky to have had such a good time with him and that’s what I try and hang on to in the frustrating times. [Post edited 17 Apr 2023 14:14]
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