| Rate your 2024 10:30 - Dec 17 with 5459 views | artsbossbeard |
Ups:
* Trips to Hawaii, Vegas, LA & Southern Italy
* Met up with the Oz Relo's (relatives) in Hawaii
* Agreed to go down to a 4 day week from Jan next year & then 3 days if it all works well
* ITFC Promotion
* Still relatively fit and able to play 5-a-side a couple of times a week
Downs:
* The Big C has rocked a couple of very close friends and families
* Starting to realise that my parents aren't going to last forever
* My BFF losing his Dad after a long battle - one of the greatest blokes to walk this earth.
7/10
How was yours?
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| Rate your 2024 on 13:27 - Dec 18 with 1326 views | Whos_blue |
| Rate your 2024 on 12:44 - Dec 17 by Swailsey |
Ups:
Seeing town get promoted and a Hoopoe in consecutive days - two bucket list items
My cat is still alive
Completing 100% on all Spyro games
Surviving 12 months longer than I predicted I would this time last year
Downs:
Numerous health issues - having to almost cut all food out
A band breaking up
Massive heartbreak
Severe depression and some bad relapses
No end in sight to any of the sadness
Bit of a negative post, but probably all in 2/10. There have been times this year when I came close to jacking it all in. |
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| Rate your 2024 on 13:36 - Dec 18 with 1312 views | StochesStotasBlewe |
Ups.
Ipswich promoted.
Still here.
Holidays to France, Majorca and Bosnia.
Re connecting with a soulmate after 30 years.
Said soulmate is now my best platonic friend.
Son has gone on his travels and is having a blast.
Re connecting with my brother, we had been estranged for over ten years.
Still enjoying gardening work.
Downs.
Motherās deteriorating health.
Mrs SSB hasnāt been well on several occasions.
Two very dear friends diagnosed with cancer.
Lots to be grateful about when I see friends and family not so fortunate.
6/10 [Post edited 18 Dec 2024 13:37]
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It's very, very quiet.
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| Rate your 2024 on 13:53 - Dec 18 with 1258 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
| Rate your 2024 on 13:36 - Dec 18 by StochesStotasBlewe |
Ups.
Ipswich promoted.
Still here.
Holidays to France, Majorca and Bosnia.
Re connecting with a soulmate after 30 years.
Said soulmate is now my best platonic friend.
Son has gone on his travels and is having a blast.
Re connecting with my brother, we had been estranged for over ten years.
Still enjoying gardening work.
Downs.
Motherās deteriorating health.
Mrs SSB hasnāt been well on several occasions.
Two very dear friends diagnosed with cancer.
Lots to be grateful about when I see friends and family not so fortunate.
6/10 [Post edited 18 Dec 2024 13:37]
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Some great positives in there. Was it really 30 years!!
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| Rate your 2024 on 14:27 - Dec 18 with 1211 views | StochesStotasBlewe |
| Rate your 2024 on 13:53 - Dec 18 by BanksterDebtSlave |
Some great positives in there. Was it really 30 years!!
Love as always, Carol xx |
Thank you Carol.
Apart from the current Mrs SSB, she was the only woman I had truly loved. Strange how after all these years she is now a very important part of our lives in a totally different way. Iāve even set her up with an old friend of mine and itās blossoming  .
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It's very, very quiet.
I can walk to the pub. |
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| Rate your 2024 on 20:02 - Dec 18 with 1133 views | DBaldy |
Ups
- Going to the snooker world championship at the Crucible, a bucket list item ticked off
- Town being promoted obviously
- A brilliant family holiday to Barcelona
- Taking my son to see us play Liverpool in August ***
- Going to Ally Pally for the world darts championship, another bucket list item
Downs
- An incredibly difficult couple of months at work thanks to a high profile water utility company
- Mother in law continuing to have mental health problems & being moved into a care home full time
- Father in law being diagnosed with early stage dementia
- The effect of the above 2 on my wife
Overall 7/10 I reckon. I've had some pretty awful years in the past so try my best to make the most of opportunities to try something new.
*** unfortunately my son is a Liverpool fan. I've tried and tried to convert him to support Town, and while he likes Ipswich, he's not changing his mind. He got into football when they won the Prem in 2019/20 and we were in League One, so the timing couldn't have been much worse. So him being able to see his favourite team for the first time was great, even though we lost. I love ITFC but I love my son more! |  | | |
| Rate your 2024 on 21:08 - Dec 18 with 1093 views | Swansea_Blue |
Good thread, although its had me scratching my head.
Downs:
- health scare in the New Year, but luckily all clear. A worrying taste of whatās ahead when I donāt get any younger
- work was an utter š© with a massive financial shortfall (again), a major restructure I was supposed to help impose and redundancies (but led to one of the ups below)
- drank too much
- got really unfit and overweight by the summer (see above lol)
- Iāve not kept on top of the house/garden and boy does Mrs Swanners not let me forget
- struggled to see the Towen much thanks to our new found popularity
Ups:
- the football. What a fantastic year.
- I seem to have found myself in very early retirement, having had enough of the sector and how things were going at work. Iām not sure if it will last, but will be trying my hardest to make it last. I just need to find something else to do now lol.
- New Year skiing in France - it had been a few years and something I wanted to get back to. The snow was excellent. Another nice summer holiday in the Dordogne area.
- re-started running and swimming. Inspired by TWTDās Mark and others, Iāve got kind-of-fit for the first time in a decade and shed the beer belly and about 8kg
- My eldest smashed his GCSEs
- The family are all healthy, happy and doing well at work/school and play [Post edited 18 Dec 2024 21:09]
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| Rate your 2024 on 00:09 - Dec 19 with 1011 views | Churchman |
| Rate your 2024 on 21:08 - Dec 18 by Swansea_Blue |
Good thread, although its had me scratching my head.
Downs:
- health scare in the New Year, but luckily all clear. A worrying taste of whatās ahead when I donāt get any younger
- work was an utter š© with a massive financial shortfall (again), a major restructure I was supposed to help impose and redundancies (but led to one of the ups below)
- drank too much
- got really unfit and overweight by the summer (see above lol)
- Iāve not kept on top of the house/garden and boy does Mrs Swanners not let me forget
- struggled to see the Towen much thanks to our new found popularity
Ups:
- the football. What a fantastic year.
- I seem to have found myself in very early retirement, having had enough of the sector and how things were going at work. Iām not sure if it will last, but will be trying my hardest to make it last. I just need to find something else to do now lol.
- New Year skiing in France - it had been a few years and something I wanted to get back to. The snow was excellent. Another nice summer holiday in the Dordogne area.
- re-started running and swimming. Inspired by TWTDās Mark and others, Iāve got kind-of-fit for the first time in a decade and shed the beer belly and about 8kg
- My eldest smashed his GCSEs
- The family are all healthy, happy and doing well at work/school and play [Post edited 18 Dec 2024 21:09]
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That sounds a good 8/10 to me. Well done to your son re his GCSEs, getting fitter and for skiing again.its a great thing to do. The last point, health and happiness, is everything šš». |  | | |
| Rate your 2024 on 03:59 - Dec 19 with 963 views | Benters |
| Rate your 2024 on 07:47 - Dec 18 by BanksterDebtSlave |
Ups.
-After 7 years of looking we bought a lovely old house back in April (Miss Slave's inheritance after losing both parents), have been introducing it to central heating and the likes ever since and will sleep in it for the first time on Christmas Eve.
-Some fantastic away days, many up North with Junior who BTW makes me more proud every day.
- Another year of realising how lucky I got with Love.
- GB put me on ignore...
Downs
- We bought a house, haven't had a day off work since Easter and are skint.
- I turned 60, inescapably old and just read on here I'll be lucky to get another 10 years.
- As the year has progressed it has become unavoidable to admit that my mother is developing dementia.
- The World is going to hell in a hand cart.
- Junior revealed she has her own demons (she has faced them and is doing well)
- Apparently I now have to vote Conservative.....hence....
.....a solid 1/10. |
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| Rate your 2024 on 04:15 - Dec 19 with 960 views | Benters |
| Rate your 2024 on 20:02 - Dec 18 by DBaldy |
Ups
- Going to the snooker world championship at the Crucible, a bucket list item ticked off
- Town being promoted obviously
- A brilliant family holiday to Barcelona
- Taking my son to see us play Liverpool in August ***
- Going to Ally Pally for the world darts championship, another bucket list item
Downs
- An incredibly difficult couple of months at work thanks to a high profile water utility company
- Mother in law continuing to have mental health problems & being moved into a care home full time
- Father in law being diagnosed with early stage dementia
- The effect of the above 2 on my wife
Overall 7/10 I reckon. I've had some pretty awful years in the past so try my best to make the most of opportunities to try something new.
*** unfortunately my son is a Liverpool fan. I've tried and tried to convert him to support Town, and while he likes Ipswich, he's not changing his mind. He got into football when they won the Prem in 2019/20 and we were in League One, so the timing couldn't have been much worse. So him being able to see his favourite team for the first time was great, even though we lost. I love ITFC but I love my son more! |
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| Rate your 2024 on 08:24 - Dec 19 with 900 views | itfc_bucks |
Ups
*Son making the JPL Rep Squad for his age at football.
*Daughter being cast in a stage show.
*Taking our campervan through Europe for a fortnight in the summer.
*Big, exciting new job.
Lows
*New, exciting job being sht and having to leave through mental health.
*Having our pet cat run over just before Christmas.
*Having to go through therapy for sht mental health.
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| Rate your 2024 on 10:39 - Dec 19 with 816 views | Benters |
| Rate your 2024 on 08:24 - Dec 19 by itfc_bucks |
Ups
*Son making the JPL Rep Squad for his age at football.
*Daughter being cast in a stage show.
*Taking our campervan through Europe for a fortnight in the summer.
*Big, exciting new job.
Lows
*New, exciting job being sht and having to leave through mental health.
*Having our pet cat run over just before Christmas.
*Having to go through therapy for sht mental health.
*Losing a friend to Parkinsons |
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| Rate your 2024 on 11:29 - Dec 19 with 772 views | Churchman |
| Rate your 2024 on 04:15 - Dec 19 by Benters |
Dementia is a terrible disease I wouldnāt wish that on anyone or their loved ones. |
Agree Benters. Itās a dreadful thing to see somebody disappear in the true sense of the word before your eyes. Both my parents suffered from it at the end of their lives, my mother for about four years, though the signs were there before that.
It takes different forms. My mum lived in the past. Related old events in detail but in a distorted way, you could hold a conversation about something but it was always based on memory. Tell her youād see her tomorrow and write it down on A4 - she wouldnāt remember what youād said 20 seconds later and the following dayās visit would be a surprise. Turning a tv on or watering a plant? Couldnāt do it. My dad - the onset was rapid, probably in line with his cancer and reaching the end of the line with very old age.
We were lucky, despite mental disintegration both knew who we were to the end. Thatās not always the case. Visiting the care home for a couple of years you got to see people in various and varied stages of the illness. Dementia, Alzheimerās, mental this, that or the other I donāt think you could think up enough titles to cover what can happen.
So how do you deal with it? No answers Iām afraid beyond do the best you can. Most of the people in Asterbury didnāt get many visitors. My mum was lucky - she had a visit most days, mostly by my dad. I found with my mum that as long as you listened to the repeated stories and all the stuff you heard before, smiled and laughed in the right places sheād be happy. It was her time not mine.
I always tried on a visit to make her laugh at least once. Usually through the simplest of things. Her time. Trying to ācorrectā her behaviour as my dad did was the wrong way, but that was just his desperation. The care home had more difficulty with him than her in many ways (he health was good until a couple of years after my mum went). Watching and managing time was important. I could tell when my mum was getting tired and would leave it there. She had no concept of time herself so you kind of managed it for her, as of course the home did 24/7.
Patience is the other thing. I was a lot closer to my dad than my mum in my life, but when she fell ill I was able to deal with it all (including decisions that had to be made) pretty well. Iām not blessed with huge amounts of patience, but I had it with her. Not with my dad. Got far too much wrong looking back despite doing my best. I lost my temper far more than I should have. I might have had good reason, but regret it. You cannot change the past though.
Apologies for going off in a tangent on this and blathering on. Really, just do your best and do what you think is right and you wonāt go far wrong. Lastly, value your family. Enjoy them while you can; enjoy the now. [Post edited 19 Dec 2024 11:44]
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| Rate your 2024 on 05:44 - Dec 20 with 607 views | Benters |
| Rate your 2024 on 11:29 - Dec 19 by Churchman |
Agree Benters. Itās a dreadful thing to see somebody disappear in the true sense of the word before your eyes. Both my parents suffered from it at the end of their lives, my mother for about four years, though the signs were there before that.
It takes different forms. My mum lived in the past. Related old events in detail but in a distorted way, you could hold a conversation about something but it was always based on memory. Tell her youād see her tomorrow and write it down on A4 - she wouldnāt remember what youād said 20 seconds later and the following dayās visit would be a surprise. Turning a tv on or watering a plant? Couldnāt do it. My dad - the onset was rapid, probably in line with his cancer and reaching the end of the line with very old age.
We were lucky, despite mental disintegration both knew who we were to the end. Thatās not always the case. Visiting the care home for a couple of years you got to see people in various and varied stages of the illness. Dementia, Alzheimerās, mental this, that or the other I donāt think you could think up enough titles to cover what can happen.
So how do you deal with it? No answers Iām afraid beyond do the best you can. Most of the people in Asterbury didnāt get many visitors. My mum was lucky - she had a visit most days, mostly by my dad. I found with my mum that as long as you listened to the repeated stories and all the stuff you heard before, smiled and laughed in the right places sheād be happy. It was her time not mine.
I always tried on a visit to make her laugh at least once. Usually through the simplest of things. Her time. Trying to ācorrectā her behaviour as my dad did was the wrong way, but that was just his desperation. The care home had more difficulty with him than her in many ways (he health was good until a couple of years after my mum went). Watching and managing time was important. I could tell when my mum was getting tired and would leave it there. She had no concept of time herself so you kind of managed it for her, as of course the home did 24/7.
Patience is the other thing. I was a lot closer to my dad than my mum in my life, but when she fell ill I was able to deal with it all (including decisions that had to be made) pretty well. Iām not blessed with huge amounts of patience, but I had it with her. Not with my dad. Got far too much wrong looking back despite doing my best. I lost my temper far more than I should have. I might have had good reason, but regret it. You cannot change the past though.
Apologies for going off in a tangent on this and blathering on. Really, just do your best and do what you think is right and you wonāt go far wrong. Lastly, value your family. Enjoy them while you can; enjoy the now. [Post edited 19 Dec 2024 11:44]
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No problem.
Yep itās awful the Father in Law really suffered at the end,poor old boy it wasnāt a pleasant thing to see.They reckon from the time of diagnosis you have a maximum of 7 years.Itās the medication they refuse to take it,the yanking of tubes out in Hospital,it was awful.
The Mother in Law (who Iād never really got on with) cared for him so well,so much so it nearly cost her her life.They thought sheād had a stroke but it turned out she was just exhausted.But seeing her care for him and me being kind to her has brought us closer together somehow.
Now we have moved her into a retirement complex sheās loving it although some of the other residents do her nut in,itās funny however old you are you always have a particular pecking order.This one does that,that one doesnāt like this one,you have to be 70 years of age to get in,so they have to be between 70 and 100 š
Honestly itās like being in School or on here !
Take care. [Post edited 20 Dec 2024 5:46]
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| Rate your 2024 on 09:35 - Dec 20 with 547 views | itfc_bucks |
| Rate your 2024 on 10:39 - Dec 19 by Benters |
Crivens Iād give that a 3/10. |
I'm trying very hard to not agree with you and 3/10 was the score I had in my head.
That said, during the really crappy times, when I genuinely considered some dark things, I focus on things that have really brought me joy and they outweigh the negatives.
I saw my sons team comprehensively beat Norwich's Academy 4 games on the bounce.
I've watched him achieve his sporting goals and finding new ones.
I've seen my daughter sing a solo in the West End.
I've driven a campervan through the south of France and through the Alps.
Life is the good stuff that happens between the sht.
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