| Thoughts 13:43 - Oct 15 with 7214 views | IH_KGF |
A lovely couple we know are getting married, and we (as a family) have been invited to their special day.
Both are extremely passionate vegans, their life, fair play.
The menu is only vegan options. I'll eat anything. The children however, of the 2 options to pick from aren't going to be touched.
We've asked them if it would be ok if they picked something off the non vegan menu (at the hotel) told straight up no.
Now, i get their position, however on our own wedding day some years back WE ensured that their dietary needs were full catered for, paying extra for them to have something not on the menu. (the only people out of 80/90 that were vegans)
To ensure the peace is kept we've said to not bother with ordering food for the kids, and before/after the food we'll take the kids away from the main event to get them something to fill their tummy's... told that isn't an option.
As I see it;
- our kids not wanting that food is OUR problem
- we've offered a suggestion to them save money
- we've taken the worry away from them
- but they are basically saying they must order food from the vegan menu, not eat it, and can't leave the room after to get food that they would like.
Starting to think i might not bother going at this rate... but the great minds of TWTD might be able to tell me otherwise.
Oh, and its strictly alcohol free, not free as in drink all you want, free as in not a drop! |  | | |  |
| Thoughts on 23:34 - Oct 15 with 700 views | eireblue |
| Thoughts on 21:14 - Oct 15 by Clapham_Junction |
Are they really not prepared to allow someone to leave to go and eat? This seems hard to believe. I read the OP as saying that not ordering something is not an option (which might be the case if the venue says that the number of attendees = the number of meals), not that they can't leave.
(although I would question whether any of it is true, as TBH it just looks like an anti-vegan wind-up) |
There are vegan only wedding venues and catering companies.
Just like there are halal only wedding venues and catering companies.
I attended a venue where they were capable of ensuring that people with very strict allergies could be relaxed and assured. If a child wanted a bag of peanuts, there wouldn’t have been any in the entire hotel. |  | | |
| Thoughts on 08:05 - Oct 16 with 558 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 18:07 - Oct 15 by Herbivore |
What I'm taking from this is it's a bad idea to invite kids to weddings. |
and vegans it would seem, unless you missed the part about the work that went into ensuring they were feed at our wedding. | | | |
| Thoughts on 08:22 - Oct 16 with 548 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 08:05 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
and vegans it would seem, unless you missed the part about the work that went into ensuring they were feed at our wedding. |
Perhaps the amount of work didn't fully come across in your OP as it sounded like you just asked the caterers if they could do a vegan option and they said yes but it would cost extra. |  |
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| Thoughts on 08:31 - Oct 16 with 532 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 08:22 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
Perhaps the amount of work didn't fully come across in your OP as it sounded like you just asked the caterers if they could do a vegan option and they said yes but it would cost extra. |
And that's what it was, which is 100% more than what is being offered in return.
But I get it, you enjoy a little dig, whatever helps you through the day i guess.
Thanks for the input to the OP. Have a good day | | | |
| Thoughts on 09:01 - Oct 16 with 495 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 08:31 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
And that's what it was, which is 100% more than what is being offered in return.
But I get it, you enjoy a little dig, whatever helps you through the day i guess.
Thanks for the input to the OP. Have a good day |
I'm going to assume that your friends are vegan on ethical grounds in which case I would imagine they don't want animal products at their wedding. Which is fair enough, it's their wedding. Have you tried meeting them halfway and suggesting a plant based option that would be acceptable to your kids? I know kids can be fussy but surely they eat some plant-based food? | |
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| Thoughts on 09:08 - Oct 16 with 485 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 09:01 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
I'm going to assume that your friends are vegan on ethical grounds in which case I would imagine they don't want animal products at their wedding. Which is fair enough, it's their wedding. Have you tried meeting them halfway and suggesting a plant based option that would be acceptable to your kids? I know kids can be fussy but surely they eat some plant-based food? |
Are they also going to ask that their guests don’t wear leather shoes or belts etc. then? |  |
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| Thoughts on 09:12 - Oct 16 with 476 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 09:01 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
I'm going to assume that your friends are vegan on ethical grounds in which case I would imagine they don't want animal products at their wedding. Which is fair enough, it's their wedding. Have you tried meeting them halfway and suggesting a plant based option that would be acceptable to your kids? I know kids can be fussy but surely they eat some plant-based food? |
Its been discussed, at length.
Of course they eat food that isn't purely meat, be a pretty poor diet for a child if they only ate meat. But a roasted radishes and beet nut loaf isnt't something they fancy, unfortunately.
Anyway, after reading the advice, I'm taking them out after the meal to get them whatever they want. If they don't let me back in the room then I'll happily sit in the bar with a beer, the kids whilst posting updates on this thread. Everyone's a winner | | | |
| Thoughts on 09:13 - Oct 16 with 472 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 09:08 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Are they also going to ask that their guests don’t wear leather shoes or belts etc. then? |
HA! I hadn't consider this, my crocodile skin suit isn't going to go down well! | | | |
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| Thoughts on 09:17 - Oct 16 with 465 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 09:08 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Are they also going to ask that their guests don’t wear leather shoes or belts etc. then? |
I'd hope so but I can't really answer on their behalf, you might be better off directing that question to the OP who actually knows them. | |
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| Thoughts on 09:25 - Oct 16 with 447 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 09:17 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
I'd hope so but I can't really answer on their behalf, you might be better off directing that question to the OP who actually knows them. |
It was a hypothetical question in reply to your hypothetical “I imagine that …” | |
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| Thoughts on 09:28 - Oct 16 with 437 views | Bluesky |
| Thoughts on 14:37 - Oct 15 by IH_KGF |
We spoke to the kids and explained it all, they didn't care, said that the food sounds horrible and they are happy to eat later (and will eat prior to the event anyway, so hardly going to starve) I did say just eat it and don't be a pain, to which the youngest said "are we really the pain here Dad" - made me smile
We opened the reply with "your day is to focus on yourselves and have a great day, with that in mind don't worry about the kids, we'll sort them" - seemingly not a good enough answer :)
So likely that I'll eat 3 plates of vegan food. Pure flower power |
"to which the youngest said "are we really the pain here Dad" - made me smile"
I really like the sound of your youngest. He/she will go far in life. |  | | |
| Thoughts on 09:30 - Oct 16 with 433 views | WeWereZombies |
| Thoughts on 09:13 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
HA! I hadn't consider this, my crocodile skin suit isn't going to go down well! |
Take the edge off the formality though. maybe a T-shirt underneath...with a slogan like 'First rule of ecology - every living thing is potentially lunch for another living thing' ? |  |
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| Thoughts on 09:35 - Oct 16 with 427 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Thoughts on 09:12 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
Its been discussed, at length.
Of course they eat food that isn't purely meat, be a pretty poor diet for a child if they only ate meat. But a roasted radishes and beet nut loaf isnt't something they fancy, unfortunately.
Anyway, after reading the advice, I'm taking them out after the meal to get them whatever they want. If they don't let me back in the room then I'll happily sit in the bar with a beer, the kids whilst posting updates on this thread. Everyone's a winner |
A roasted radishes and beet nut loaf sounds quite nice to me.
Maybe your kids should try expanding their horizons! |  |
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| Thoughts on 09:56 - Oct 16 with 383 views | vapour_trail |
| Thoughts on 09:35 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
A roasted radishes and beet nut loaf sounds quite nice to me.
Maybe your kids should try expanding their horizons! |
Hmm. You don’t have kids do you. |  |
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| Thoughts on 09:59 - Oct 16 with 379 views | MJallday |
id take as many non vegan items in a cool box as i possibly could.
chicken ham or turkey sarnies
roast ox crips,
if you wanna be respectful. keep kids lunchboxes in the car
theyll be too busy with their own thing rather than policing your kids
and if they do, they'll look like right tw@s
"cant leave the room to get the food "
anyone told me what i can and cannot do with my kids they'd very quickly regret it |  |
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| Thoughts on 10:07 - Oct 16 with 363 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 09:59 - Oct 16 by MJallday |
id take as many non vegan items in a cool box as i possibly could.
chicken ham or turkey sarnies
roast ox crips,
if you wanna be respectful. keep kids lunchboxes in the car
theyll be too busy with their own thing rather than policing your kids
and if they do, they'll look like right tw@s
"cant leave the room to get the food "
anyone told me what i can and cannot do with my kids they'd very quickly regret it |
Those pesky vegans caring about cruelty to animals and the huge environmental impact of eating meat and dairy. Let's show those do-gooders by making sure we do the complete opposite. | |
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| Thoughts on 10:10 - Oct 16 with 351 views | Pinewoodblue |
| Thoughts on 08:05 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
and vegans it would seem, unless you missed the part about the work that went into ensuring they were feed at our wedding. |
No you went about it the right way and accommodated others.
In the past have had family Christmas meals with three Christmas puddings, a proper one, one alcohol free, and a vegetarian option. You do what you have to as it is the right way. |  |
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| Thoughts on 10:18 - Oct 16 with 328 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 09:35 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
A roasted radishes and beet nut loaf sounds quite nice to me.
Maybe your kids should try expanding their horizons! |
You're not a Dad, are you?
Its sounds alright to me too, as an adult. | | | |
| Thoughts on 10:22 - Oct 16 with 313 views | Cafe_Newman |
A whole wedding full of vegans and people eating vegan food... what on earth will the guests talk about? |  | | |
| Thoughts on 10:23 - Oct 16 with 315 views | ronnyd |
| Thoughts on 09:59 - Oct 16 by MJallday |
id take as many non vegan items in a cool box as i possibly could.
chicken ham or turkey sarnies
roast ox crips,
if you wanna be respectful. keep kids lunchboxes in the car
theyll be too busy with their own thing rather than policing your kids
and if they do, they'll look like right tw@s
"cant leave the room to get the food "
anyone told me what i can and cannot do with my kids they'd very quickly regret it |
You'd be on safe ground with the "crips" er, i assume crisps, as they probably haven't been within a hundred miles of an ox. |  | | |
| Thoughts on 10:26 - Oct 16 with 295 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Thoughts on 10:18 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
You're not a Dad, are you?
Its sounds alright to me too, as an adult. |
I knew this would be the defence and I have no answer to it because I'm not.
I do know people who started their kids on proper, decent, healthy food... and they got used to it and stuck with it. Plenty of parents start them off on chicken nuggets and the like (not saying that's you) and then it's no surprise they don't want the healthy stuff.
Just because I personally am not a parent is neither here nor there. I've seen that it's possible to get kids onto a healthy diet early, if you're so inclined. [Post edited 16 Oct 12:03]
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| Thoughts on 10:36 - Oct 16 with 271 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 10:07 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
Those pesky vegans caring about cruelty to animals and the huge environmental impact of eating meat and dairy. Let's show those do-gooders by making sure we do the complete opposite. |
Nobody’s objected to this couple’s veganism, or their wanting a primarily vegan wedding menu per se - it’s their extreme rigidity and punitive attitude towards their guests’ kids that’s understandably provoked a reaction. [Post edited 16 Oct 10:38]
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| Thoughts on 10:42 - Oct 16 with 246 views | DanTheMan |
| Thoughts on 09:56 - Oct 16 by vapour_trail |
Hmm. You don’t have kids do you. |
I don't, but I'd have been at least encouraged to try it before saying it sounds horrible as a kid, especially when someone else is paying for it.
I don't understand that couples attitude towards the kids being able to eat something different later but frankly the fact they are vegan dishes doesn't really come into it, it really boils down to they don't like what's on offer. |  |
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| Thoughts on 10:47 - Oct 16 with 237 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 10:26 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
I knew this would be the defence and I have no answer to it because I'm not.
I do know people who started their kids on proper, decent, healthy food... and they got used to it and stuck with it. Plenty of parents start them off on chicken nuggets and the like (not saying that's you) and then it's no surprise they don't want the healthy stuff.
Just because I personally am not a parent is neither here nor there. I've seen that it's possible to get kids onto a healthy diet early, if you're so inclined. [Post edited 16 Oct 12:03]
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"I do know people who started their kids on proper, decent, healthy food"
My children have a very healthy diet, something i don't need to explain really.
They just turn noses up at the previously mentioned option.
I sense a slight annoyance that you were questioned if you were a parent, I can only apologise if its touched a nerve for whatever reason (single, beyond the age of having children, too young to consider children, unable to have children) it's not my business either. | | | |
| Thoughts on 10:53 - Oct 16 with 229 views | Tractor_Buck |
That's awful. They want you to share their special day but only on their strictest terms? No mate, sack it off. It's supposed to be a day of celebration and enjoyment for everyone, not just them. |  | | |
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