| Having kids 21:34 - Oct 15 with 5619 views | clive_baker |
I swear it brings with it a perpetual low level anxiety from the second they're conceived.
I know this isn't Mumsnet but feck me, the best thing in the world but I think I live my life in a permanent state of mild anxiety now. [Post edited 15 Oct 2020 21:34]
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| Having kids on 12:16 - Oct 16 with 620 views | monty_radio |
As someone whose kids have long grown up (though not too far away) I'd still recommend that, whatever the circumstances bring, enjoy them while you have them with you. Sometimes, when out and about, I'm saddened to hear people rowing in the street with their children. You don't have them long.
Incidentally, as Jasper Carrott once observed when such things were not frowned on from around and above, "Have you ever wondered why people take their children all the way to the supermarket to smack them?" [Post edited 16 Oct 2020 12:26]
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| Having kids on 14:42 - Oct 16 with 593 views | urbanblue |
| Having kids on 11:34 - Oct 16 by Swansea_Blue |
One's behaving like it! |
My daughter turned 13 last month and it was literally like that. My loving, good hearted little girl's hormones appear to be in overdrive and she now stomps up the stairs to her bedroom with a 'leave me alone' when we have a disagreement.
In fact, I do ... leaving her alone often works as she soon reappears as if nothing has happened.
I sent my dear old Mum a text on my daughters birthday jokingly asking for advice on dealing with a teenager and Mum replied simply 'Keep your mouth shut and move out!' That's from a woman in her 80's who's had 6 kids. Very droll eh.
As a single parent with shared care and a lunatic ex that I doesn't communicate it is ... erm ... challenging at times but all the love in the world wins every time. We do lots together, now have some great conversations about things we would never have talked about only a year ago and are very close.
Incidentally, it's interesting that when they are little there are all the worries but as they get older the earlier worries go away and are replaced by new ones. As said elsewhere by others on this thread my concerns now are to do with device use, social media, potential bullying/fall out with friends and diet. Device use is a constant relentless battle and she would ideally, I think, like to spend hours online while eating crap.
We do well though and I think the secret is not to continually moan, encourage them to self regulate, trust them and the most important thing of all LISTEN to them. Kids are all going through their own personal journeys and as parents our job is to be there to guide them as opposed to telling them what to do continually. |  | | |
| Having kids on 15:48 - Oct 16 with 559 views | eastangliaisblue |
Having kids is the best thing in the world, but as the OP says it brings a low level anxiety, that for me gets a little worse the older they get.
Mine are now at the age where I'm starting to worry about being bullied or bullying. (I don't think they'll be bullies as they are both quite soft.)
Getting involved in drugs and all what comes with it is my biggest worry. I dabbled myself when I was younger, only after leaving school mind. Todays generation seem ruthless with little morals when it comes to drugs, and they get involved at a much younger age. Mixed with a growing knife culture, scares the life out of me for my kids.
I think communication is key once they hit high school, so they feel they can talk to you about anything without fearing getting in trouble. My view is, if kids grow up with love and boundaries they will turn out alright. |  | | |
| Having kids on 15:56 - Oct 16 with 549 views | BigManBlue |
Yeah mate fully agree, mine is six months and I only started sleeping properly in August. Lucky I've got a big extended family on the wife's side who are all pretty good with kids. Mad though all the innocuous stuff that terrifies the life out of me now |  |
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| Having kids on 16:10 - Oct 16 with 532 views | BloomBlue |
| Having kids on 14:42 - Oct 16 by urbanblue |
My daughter turned 13 last month and it was literally like that. My loving, good hearted little girl's hormones appear to be in overdrive and she now stomps up the stairs to her bedroom with a 'leave me alone' when we have a disagreement.
In fact, I do ... leaving her alone often works as she soon reappears as if nothing has happened.
I sent my dear old Mum a text on my daughters birthday jokingly asking for advice on dealing with a teenager and Mum replied simply 'Keep your mouth shut and move out!' That's from a woman in her 80's who's had 6 kids. Very droll eh.
As a single parent with shared care and a lunatic ex that I doesn't communicate it is ... erm ... challenging at times but all the love in the world wins every time. We do lots together, now have some great conversations about things we would never have talked about only a year ago and are very close.
Incidentally, it's interesting that when they are little there are all the worries but as they get older the earlier worries go away and are replaced by new ones. As said elsewhere by others on this thread my concerns now are to do with device use, social media, potential bullying/fall out with friends and diet. Device use is a constant relentless battle and she would ideally, I think, like to spend hours online while eating crap.
We do well though and I think the secret is not to continually moan, encourage them to self regulate, trust them and the most important thing of all LISTEN to them. Kids are all going through their own personal journeys and as parents our job is to be there to guide them as opposed to telling them what to do continually. |
I thought you was going to say your Mum replied 'now you know what you put me through'  |  | | |
| Having kids on 16:21 - Oct 16 with 527 views | GeoffSentence |
| Having kids on 22:10 - Oct 15 by Swansea_Blue |
Absolute nightmare if you ask me. Sorry, but I can't do the Necwy bursting with love for my family approach. It's been nothing but hastle and hard work with very few benefits (yrs 1-3 aside) after 12 years in. Maybe it'll get better when they leave home and become financially independent! |
You think they will leave home?
Well, OK, maybe. |  |
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| Having kids on 16:51 - Oct 16 with 504 views | Mullet |
My boy fell off the toilet yesterday and had a bump on his head. Mrs was worrying and fussing whereas I was very nonplussed and always am when it's bumps and scrapes I guess. She's very close to him and dotes on him, but I find I worry about big things more.
He's about to be 3 and a couple of weeks after our 2nd is due. We haven't had an easy pregnancy. I had to sit in the rain in the park with a coffee whilst the Mrs had a needle in the womb to test for Downs. We had to weigh up the risk of DS vs. miscarriage and even for weeks after it was high alert all whilst locked down. It's only a fortnight ago they decided that the placenta was working enough and the baby has put on enough weight that it's not at a high risk of disability, something that has happened in my family previously.
The only times I've truly worried is when he was hospitalised, a couple of times he had a viral reaction where they had to rule out meningitis. He had a hernia where his guts just popped out one day and I thought it was because I'd been too rough with him. It took three days to operate and ended up being on his 1st birthday. I got really antsy when they put his op off twice and when they put the mask on to put him under the Mrs to bits and feeling like I couldn't for her was the worst moment of parenthood.
Compared to others on the children's ward we don't even move the needle, but just being on one for a couple of nights is a terrible experience. Having to relive some of that, and knowing I might still miss the birth of the 2nd one or major parts of it is plain sailing compared to the stuff during lockdown though.
He's just come in and made me play air trombone in his brass band, so y'know, it's not all bad.... |  |
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