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The cheap shot would be to say watching that sh1t can't be good for anyone's health. But in all seriousness it's good to see football clubs using their reach for good. Good on them.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 10:29 - Oct 10 with 6589 views
I know I'm not alone on this board having been in a pretty poor place at one point, and whilst I shared with my immediate family (although not my mum as she struggles and I didn't want to amplify her issues) and a few close work colleagues, I didn't shout from the rooftops about some struggles I had.
What was mad is that I have an amazing wife and family, good job, all that I really want, but something wasn't right, clearly knew I wasn't thinking straight.
I reached out to my doctor, got some help and even though I was massively sceptical about the help I was offered, it worked better than I could have possibly imagined.
I was lucky that I felt I could talk to my wife about it, you might not or might not even have someone, but I cannot stress enough about just taking the one step to make a phone call to your GP or the Samaritans.
Look after yourself guys and girls.
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Top boy dirtyboyers on 10:49 - Oct 10 with 6470 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 10:46 - Oct 10 by dirtyboy
I know I'm not alone on this board having been in a pretty poor place at one point, and whilst I shared with my immediate family (although not my mum as she struggles and I didn't want to amplify her issues) and a few close work colleagues, I didn't shout from the rooftops about some struggles I had.
What was mad is that I have an amazing wife and family, good job, all that I really want, but something wasn't right, clearly knew I wasn't thinking straight.
I reached out to my doctor, got some help and even though I was massively sceptical about the help I was offered, it worked better than I could have possibly imagined.
I was lucky that I felt I could talk to my wife about it, you might not or might not even have someone, but I cannot stress enough about just taking the one step to make a phone call to your GP or the Samaritans.
Look after yourself guys and girls.
Really important to talk to people innit, and frank posts like yours help de-stigmatise it all.
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 10:46 - Oct 10 by dirtyboy
I know I'm not alone on this board having been in a pretty poor place at one point, and whilst I shared with my immediate family (although not my mum as she struggles and I didn't want to amplify her issues) and a few close work colleagues, I didn't shout from the rooftops about some struggles I had.
What was mad is that I have an amazing wife and family, good job, all that I really want, but something wasn't right, clearly knew I wasn't thinking straight.
I reached out to my doctor, got some help and even though I was massively sceptical about the help I was offered, it worked better than I could have possibly imagined.
I was lucky that I felt I could talk to my wife about it, you might not or might not even have someone, but I cannot stress enough about just taking the one step to make a phone call to your GP or the Samaritans.
Look after yourself guys and girls.
Good post.
Never mentioned it before on here but 8 years ago I got into a bad state over the course of around a year. Got diagnosed with trichotillimania for my eyelashes (something I did mention at the time on here and was helped with by a few posters) and wasn’t in a good headspace. Ended up going to a train station half naked, not entirely sure of my intentions and some random man stopped me, talked to me for a while and calmed me down. I don’t remember if he gave me his name or how long we were talking for but I know I was crying at the time and can still picture his face. That episode ended up with me speaking to someone about the stuff going on in my head and then a few weeks later applying for university (after years of saying I didn’t want to go) knowing i needed a fresh start of sorts.
What struck me is I quickly realised at uni from talking to people that actually a lot of people who looked perfectly happy and ‘normal’ (just like I had back in Romford) had been through something to the extent where their mental health had suffered. Back in the olden days, the whole stiff upper lip thing meant everyone suffered in silence but in a world now where we know what it is, everyone should feel comfortable talking. It’s a tough world out there but humans are fortunate in that we can communicate our inner feelings with each other. For that we are lucky.
I know myself I feel lucky to have had that random man there at that exact moment. Thats the good side of human nature that he stopped and listened when I was at breaking point. And without sounding all hippy, we all need to be there for each other. My messages are always open for anyone who ever wants to talk.
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 12:31 - Oct 10 by The_Romford_Blue
Good post.
Never mentioned it before on here but 8 years ago I got into a bad state over the course of around a year. Got diagnosed with trichotillimania for my eyelashes (something I did mention at the time on here and was helped with by a few posters) and wasn’t in a good headspace. Ended up going to a train station half naked, not entirely sure of my intentions and some random man stopped me, talked to me for a while and calmed me down. I don’t remember if he gave me his name or how long we were talking for but I know I was crying at the time and can still picture his face. That episode ended up with me speaking to someone about the stuff going on in my head and then a few weeks later applying for university (after years of saying I didn’t want to go) knowing i needed a fresh start of sorts.
What struck me is I quickly realised at uni from talking to people that actually a lot of people who looked perfectly happy and ‘normal’ (just like I had back in Romford) had been through something to the extent where their mental health had suffered. Back in the olden days, the whole stiff upper lip thing meant everyone suffered in silence but in a world now where we know what it is, everyone should feel comfortable talking. It’s a tough world out there but humans are fortunate in that we can communicate our inner feelings with each other. For that we are lucky.
I know myself I feel lucky to have had that random man there at that exact moment. Thats the good side of human nature that he stopped and listened when I was at breaking point. And without sounding all hippy, we all need to be there for each other. My messages are always open for anyone who ever wants to talk.
Good on you both for speaking so bravely about your experiences.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 12:40 - Oct 10 with 5887 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 12:31 - Oct 10 by The_Romford_Blue
Good post.
Never mentioned it before on here but 8 years ago I got into a bad state over the course of around a year. Got diagnosed with trichotillimania for my eyelashes (something I did mention at the time on here and was helped with by a few posters) and wasn’t in a good headspace. Ended up going to a train station half naked, not entirely sure of my intentions and some random man stopped me, talked to me for a while and calmed me down. I don’t remember if he gave me his name or how long we were talking for but I know I was crying at the time and can still picture his face. That episode ended up with me speaking to someone about the stuff going on in my head and then a few weeks later applying for university (after years of saying I didn’t want to go) knowing i needed a fresh start of sorts.
What struck me is I quickly realised at uni from talking to people that actually a lot of people who looked perfectly happy and ‘normal’ (just like I had back in Romford) had been through something to the extent where their mental health had suffered. Back in the olden days, the whole stiff upper lip thing meant everyone suffered in silence but in a world now where we know what it is, everyone should feel comfortable talking. It’s a tough world out there but humans are fortunate in that we can communicate our inner feelings with each other. For that we are lucky.
I know myself I feel lucky to have had that random man there at that exact moment. Thats the good side of human nature that he stopped and listened when I was at breaking point. And without sounding all hippy, we all need to be there for each other. My messages are always open for anyone who ever wants to talk.
Strangers can change whole histories with a simple smile and kind word.
Good on ya for sharing, Rommers. And I hope the lashes have grown back ;)
It's worth remembering, that a lot of people suffering mental health issues, won't have it in them, to attend public events such as football matches.... If you have a neighbour or friend, that you don't see that often and just assume that they like to keep themselves to themselves. They could actually be struggling a bit.. If you've dropped someone, because every time you invite them out, they find an excuse not to go, they could actually be struggling a bit.. A PM, 2 minute phone call, text message, can go a long way to making that person feel like they have not been forgotten or cast aside. Even if they don't pick up the phone or reply to any message straight away.. They will appreciate it, all the same.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 13:33 - Oct 10 with 5622 views
Thank you for sharing this. Very powerful, very important.
As I’ve said before, mental health is a sort of shunned topic (poor words). People don’t as a rule talk about it and I was certainly brought up in a ‘stiff upper lip’ world. You ‘man up’, ‘show backbone’, be strong’. To this day, everything is internalised with me. What an idiot. What twaddle. A weak response and a really good way to head to a dark place.
I suspect most of us have done just that at some point in our lives. Some of course to the unimaginable, as Mrs C’s cousin did, despite having so much to live for. As a friend of his, could I have done more? Probably not, but I never even saw it coming.
Mental health like so many things is not funded properly and because you can’t always see the problem, it’s often ignored which is why that tweet is so powerful. It’s why I try and support it and am so pleased when people share experiences (another poor word) as some have in this thread. If sharing stuff helps just 0.1% it’s well worth it in my opinion.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 13:49 - Oct 10 with 5532 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 13:33 - Oct 10 by Churchman
Thank you for sharing this. Very powerful, very important.
As I’ve said before, mental health is a sort of shunned topic (poor words). People don’t as a rule talk about it and I was certainly brought up in a ‘stiff upper lip’ world. You ‘man up’, ‘show backbone’, be strong’. To this day, everything is internalised with me. What an idiot. What twaddle. A weak response and a really good way to head to a dark place.
I suspect most of us have done just that at some point in our lives. Some of course to the unimaginable, as Mrs C’s cousin did, despite having so much to live for. As a friend of his, could I have done more? Probably not, but I never even saw it coming.
Mental health like so many things is not funded properly and because you can’t always see the problem, it’s often ignored which is why that tweet is so powerful. It’s why I try and support it and am so pleased when people share experiences (another poor word) as some have in this thread. If sharing stuff helps just 0.1% it’s well worth it in my opinion.
I think anyone with mental health issues, feels more comfortable talking to fellow sufferers about their problems. There is a feeling of mutual understanding and equality... The more people that find the courage to reach out. The easier it will become for everyone.. I, too, grew up in a time where.... "you just got on with it"
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 14:15 - Oct 10 with 5423 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 13:33 - Oct 10 by Churchman
Thank you for sharing this. Very powerful, very important.
As I’ve said before, mental health is a sort of shunned topic (poor words). People don’t as a rule talk about it and I was certainly brought up in a ‘stiff upper lip’ world. You ‘man up’, ‘show backbone’, be strong’. To this day, everything is internalised with me. What an idiot. What twaddle. A weak response and a really good way to head to a dark place.
I suspect most of us have done just that at some point in our lives. Some of course to the unimaginable, as Mrs C’s cousin did, despite having so much to live for. As a friend of his, could I have done more? Probably not, but I never even saw it coming.
Mental health like so many things is not funded properly and because you can’t always see the problem, it’s often ignored which is why that tweet is so powerful. It’s why I try and support it and am so pleased when people share experiences (another poor word) as some have in this thread. If sharing stuff helps just 0.1% it’s well worth it in my opinion.
I had a similar experience with a colleague of mine, a classic example of 'you would never have known'. Hopefully he did have people to speak to, I wouldn't necessarily have expected him to open up to me as I didn't know him very well although I would of course have tried to help. From the outside it just seemed so unlikely and was so shocking. He was popular, late 20's, handsome chap who all the single girls fancied, doing well in his job etc. I had the pleasure of sitting next to him at a work dinner, got on well with the guy and nattered for a couple of hours with those around us. Less than a fortnight later I learned he had taken his own life.
Absolutely heartbreaking.
I would urge anyone who might be feeling down to talk. Appreciate it's not always as easy as that perhaps though.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 14:46 - Oct 10 with 5300 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 10:46 - Oct 10 by dirtyboy
I know I'm not alone on this board having been in a pretty poor place at one point, and whilst I shared with my immediate family (although not my mum as she struggles and I didn't want to amplify her issues) and a few close work colleagues, I didn't shout from the rooftops about some struggles I had.
What was mad is that I have an amazing wife and family, good job, all that I really want, but something wasn't right, clearly knew I wasn't thinking straight.
I reached out to my doctor, got some help and even though I was massively sceptical about the help I was offered, it worked better than I could have possibly imagined.
I was lucky that I felt I could talk to my wife about it, you might not or might not even have someone, but I cannot stress enough about just taking the one step to make a phone call to your GP or the Samaritans.
Look after yourself guys and girls.
This could very easily have been a post that I wrote.
I had my final (for now) therapy session just last week. As someone who used to (very vocally) be of the "pull your socks up and get on with it" school of thought on mental health, things need to change.
One of the positives of this forum, I've often felt, is that, regardless of the petty squabbles that go on, I do actually think we have a fundamental core of "good" folks on here. Think I've only me Phil and one other of you in the real world, but I'm glad you're all here.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 14:54 - Oct 10 with 5261 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 14:46 - Oct 10 by itfc_bucks
This could very easily have been a post that I wrote.
I had my final (for now) therapy session just last week. As someone who used to (very vocally) be of the "pull your socks up and get on with it" school of thought on mental health, things need to change.
One of the positives of this forum, I've often felt, is that, regardless of the petty squabbles that go on, I do actually think we have a fundamental core of "good" folks on here. Think I've only me Phil and one other of you in the real world, but I'm glad you're all here.
Nice words. All the best to you with your recovery bucks.
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I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 15:08 - Oct 10 with 5207 views
I know it’s a Norwich tweet but this is worth a watch on 14:15 - Oct 10 by Hipsterectomy
Nice video but it’s essentially this which is the best one I’ve seen
Not to be too critical but her delivery of “hey, just wanted to let you know….” Seemed a little too upbeat. Nitpicking of course and doesn’t dilute the strong message.
Fair play Nodge. Back in 2005/6, I had a s/t for me and my son in the family section in lower Cobbold. Next to us was a young lad of a similar age who went with either his Mum or Dad. After Christmas, the Dad didn't come any more, it was his Mum or Grandad. I learned that the father had taken his own life. I just regretted so much that I hadn't tried to speak to him more, who knows if it could have made a difference. Now in the SBR Upper, I'm sat next to a young man on his own who seems very quiet. I think I need to talk to him more, this short film has reminded me of what happened in 05/06 and that we can't just take for granted that our neighbouring fans are ok. Thanks for posting Rommers.
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