| I lost a dear friend over the weekend 11:56 - Aug 26 with 4090 views | stickymockwell |
The 2nd friend this year to depression. I'm shocked to the core and unable to comprehend what he must have sunk to to take his own life. I'm trying not to make it a look at me post, I just want to say to anybody reading that if you are struggling at the moment please, please reach out to friends. We are all here if you need us.
Gutted
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:02 - Aug 26 with 3992 views | berkstractorboy |
Upvoted the sentiment of your message to talk to people not what happened.
Sorry for your loss. [Post edited 26 Aug 2024 12:08]
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:05 - Aug 26 with 3970 views | Keno |
So sorry to hear this
no other words, just a virtual hug
and you are always welcome to give me a call if you need a chat |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:05 - Aug 26 with 3956 views | fabian_illness |
Thinking of you mate.
Terrible news. |  | | |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:06 - Aug 26 with 3958 views | WeWereZombies |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:02 - Aug 26 by berkstractorboy |
Upvoted the sentiment of your message to talk to people not what happened.
Sorry for your loss. [Post edited 26 Aug 2024 12:08]
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Likewise.
And if looks like you have no one to talk to about these things you can always try something like this:
https://andysmanclub.co.uk
'ANDYSMANCLUB are a men’s suicide prevention charity, offering free-to-attend peer-to-peer support groups across the United Kingdom and online. We want to end the stigma surrounding men’s mental health and help men through the power of conversation. #ITSOKAYTOTALK ' [Post edited 27 Aug 2024 15:50]
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:07 - Aug 26 with 3933 views | stickymockwell |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:05 - Aug 26 by Keno |
So sorry to hear this
no other words, just a virtual hug
and you are always welcome to give me a call if you need a chat |
Thanks Keno | |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:16 - Aug 26 with 3837 views | Guthrum |
Seconded, it's always better to speak to someone and/or seek medical help. There's no shame or embarrassment in doing so.
Also, a surprisingly large number of people either are or have been in the same boat. The sufferer is by no means alone (Edit: As alone as they probably feel).
Very sorry to hear about your friends. [Post edited 26 Aug 2024 12:21]
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:20 - Aug 26 with 3762 views | Dubtractor |
Really sorry to hear that Sticky.
Thoughts are with you and his friends and family. |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:21 - Aug 26 with 3751 views | BloomBlue |
Sorry for your loss.
But as you say it really is important to talk.
I know I'm an old duffer, but I worry when I see people on their own in a pub with a drink just looking at their phone. Ignoring the Internet arguements, I just feel it's adding to people's isolation. As if 'I have problems but if I look at my phone I can pretend I don't have any issues as I have these billions of people on the Internet with me'
I always go over and say Hi in those situations. Admittedly the reaction can be extreme, from a friendly smile and chat, to a f**k off'. But I'm OK even with the f**k off, it's the human interaction, a couple of f**k offs has even continued into a long chat, with a few laughs about football teams.
Humans interact, go and chat.
While football wise I have a dislike of Norwich, that video they put out last season was brilliant about talking about your problems - and know I cannot find the link now. |  | | |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:24 - Aug 26 with 3734 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
So sorry for your loss. It must be very difficult for you. Good for you to share your feelings. Look after yourself too. |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 12:45 - Aug 26 with 3606 views | factual_blue |
So sad to read of your loss. Also sad to think of how many people are hit by depression to the point they see suicide as the only way out. Please, please remember it isn't. You hurt those you love. There is always help available. |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 13:11 - Aug 26 with 3483 views | Whos_blue |
Oh no.
Gutted for you and your friendship group.
Sadly got this t shirt too.
It just sucks. |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 13:42 - Aug 26 with 3380 views | Swailsey |
So sorry for your news |  |
| Who said: "Colin Healy made Cesc Fabregas look like Colin Healy"? | We miss you TLA |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 15:10 - Aug 26 with 3180 views | Relentless |
Depression takes lives. It is an often silent killer and the one illness many people spend the little energy they have, trying to hide from others. My sincere condolences for your loss. As painful as sharing this might well be, sharing such things and talking openly and honestly is the best way to fight back against this epidemic of modern life. Thank you for sharing. | | | |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 15:36 - Aug 26 with 3096 views | Pippin1970 |
So sorry to hear. I work in mental health sector . Men unfortunately even now don't talk about it, until it's too late. It's getting better but if you need any advice etc PM me.
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend (n/t) on 17:27 - Aug 26 with 2938 views | ArmaghBlue |
Accidental post initially. Sorry to hear about your loss. [Post edited 26 Aug 2024 17:34]
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 18:31 - Aug 26 with 2783 views | phillymark |
As someone who is currently going through depression and anxiety (though not anywhere near the levels of potential self harm or worse) I can chime in that seeking help through a friend, a psychologist/therapist, a psychiatrist and doctor approved medication can all be important tools. It took me a little too long to reach out to those things, but glad I have, all helping, but it will take time. Recommend the same to everyone else | | | |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 07:55 - Aug 27 with 2427 views | IndependentlyBlue |
So sorry to hear that. Must be devastating. Quite right about reaching out. Doesn’t matter who it is, just talk to someone. Lifts my own spirits to see the reactions when someone does reach out on here. Stay safe all |  |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 08:09 - Aug 27 with 2376 views | b1079blue |
Tragic,
I cant help but think social media and the internet has a massive part to play. I understand the "men dont talk argument" however we never did and I dont recall male suicide being such a massive thing.
In my humble opinion seeing everyone elses "perfect life" on social media and the promises of a better life if you just... do this are serious issues. The lack of hysical activity an online life gives also contributes.
Back in the day companies had sports and social clubs which were key elements to the working and social life of the average male.
I am in no way a supportor of that grifter mp in clacton but he has latched onto the male 35-60 who feel disenfrachised by changes in society. | | | |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 08:24 - Aug 27 with 2326 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 08:09 - Aug 27 by b1079blue |
Tragic,
I cant help but think social media and the internet has a massive part to play. I understand the "men dont talk argument" however we never did and I dont recall male suicide being such a massive thing.
In my humble opinion seeing everyone elses "perfect life" on social media and the promises of a better life if you just... do this are serious issues. The lack of hysical activity an online life gives also contributes.
Back in the day companies had sports and social clubs which were key elements to the working and social life of the average male.
I am in no way a supportor of that grifter mp in clacton but he has latched onto the male 35-60 who feel disenfrachised by changes in society. |
Contributory factors will vary but there is no evidence of an overall rise in suicide rate over time, possibly the opposite. There is plenty of evidence that male rates are consistently higher.
https://academic.oup.com/ije/article/39/6/1464/736597?login=false
"The highest male rates (30.3 per 100 000) were recorded in 1905 and 1934 and have since been declining. Female rates peaked in the 1960s (11.8 per 100 000), declining afterwards. In both sexes the lowest recorded rates were in the 21st century."
Although that study only covers to 2007. | |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 10:24 - Aug 27 with 2200 views | IndependentlyBlue |
As an extra to my previous post. I have had a lot of support from the guys at my local Men’s Shed. Important to say they don’t offer professional help re mental health and that they vary widely on what they do offer. However, as a place where blokes can go along and take part in doing stuff with other blokes, have a cup of tea and a chat, and feel part of a group rather than feeling alone they are definitely ‘a good thing’.
Aware that it’s not always easy when you’re depressed to try something new but would recommend to anyone as a possible first step.
Think there’s about 800 or so groups around the country. Try the UK Mens Shed Association for one near you
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 11:11 - Aug 27 with 2107 views | Swansea_Blue |
Ah balls, so sorry to hear this Sticky.
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 15:05 - Aug 27 with 1975 views | b1079blue |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 08:24 - Aug 27 by Nthsuffolkblue |
Contributory factors will vary but there is no evidence of an overall rise in suicide rate over time, possibly the opposite. There is plenty of evidence that male rates are consistently higher.
https://academic.oup.com/ije/article/39/6/1464/736597?login=false
"The highest male rates (30.3 per 100 000) were recorded in 1905 and 1934 and have since been declining. Female rates peaked in the 1960s (11.8 per 100 000), declining afterwards. In both sexes the lowest recorded rates were in the 21st century."
Although that study only covers to 2007. |
The point I was making and was awful in trying was the lack of society in these times and how much the local community be it work, pub, sports clubs supported men. | | | |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 16:14 - Aug 27 with 1904 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 15:05 - Aug 27 by b1079blue |
The point I was making and was awful in trying was the lack of society in these times and how much the local community be it work, pub, sports clubs supported men. |
The point the evidence shows is that men have always suffered the issues that have led to a higher suicide rate even with those existing in greater numbers. There are support groups in the community still but it is a much deeper issue than just that. Evidence suggests that a breakdown in society and community has not led to an increase in male suicide rates, or if it has the increase has been negated by other factors reducing them more. | |
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| I lost a dear friend over the weekend on 17:15 - Aug 27 with 1845 views | Ace_High1 |
Sorry for your loss. Although there is much more awareness than there was in the 90's when I lost a family friend, it does still seem to creep up on people too often and the person suffering reaches desperation before asking for help.
We all have more awareness but I still think people don't share/talk when they suffer, at least not early enough. |  | | |
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