| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? 23:08 - Nov 6 with 2078 views | Swailsey |
1?
5?
10?
Endless? |  |
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 23:13 - Nov 6 with 2037 views | redrickstuhaart |
I think that unless there is a really specific immediate issue that you can and should address, then this is probably a really unhealthy and self destructive question.
If its absorbing you, its time to reach out to someone asap. |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 23:28 - Nov 6 with 1964 views | Blueschev |
Without knowing the context, I don’t think that’s a healthy thought pattern do go down. Life is a complex tapestry, and from your posts on here you seem like one of life’s good guys. You may have hurt Cesc Fabregas though :) |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 23:37 - Nov 6 with 1919 views | WicklowBlue |
Like others have said, probably a more inner reflection on oneself and associating blame internally. Perhaps not a healthy question.
To answer you directly, I've no doubt hurt loads of people in my corporate life. In terms of redundancies, performance related issues etc.
However I've dealt with all sensitively and helped them where I can find new paths for them to explore.
How about switching the question around in a positive manner? How many people in your life do you think you have helped? If I recall you had some gigs recently, whether 1 person or many more listened to your music and enjoyed it?  |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 23:42 - Nov 6 with 1874 views | Swansea_Blue |
That sounds a bit deep, although I’m confident I’m under a million. I’m no Liz truss!
Impossible to know innit. I’m not aware of anyone. Potentially there could be 1-3 people max (failed relationships) as far as I’m aware. But it depends on how people have perceived and responded to my actions, which I wouldn’t be aware of. Maybe the milkman was hurt that I didn’t return all our bottles on Tuesday night lol? And what about timescales? Someone could be hurt in the moment but quickly over it and then not mind about whatever it was (e.g. un-returned teenage crushes and the like). Do you count them?
In short, it’s a bit of a dangerous path to go down. You can hurt people of course, but also people could take unreasonable offence at your actions, which you have no control over. So that’s their problem. also hurt can be temporary and not actually that meaningful. It sounds like a tricky subject that may be worth speaking to a professional about if there’s something specifically worrying you 👍 [Post edited 6 Nov 2024 23:56]
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 08:16 - Nov 7 with 1476 views | Meadowlark |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 23:42 - Nov 6 by Swansea_Blue |
That sounds a bit deep, although I’m confident I’m under a million. I’m no Liz truss!
Impossible to know innit. I’m not aware of anyone. Potentially there could be 1-3 people max (failed relationships) as far as I’m aware. But it depends on how people have perceived and responded to my actions, which I wouldn’t be aware of. Maybe the milkman was hurt that I didn’t return all our bottles on Tuesday night lol? And what about timescales? Someone could be hurt in the moment but quickly over it and then not mind about whatever it was (e.g. un-returned teenage crushes and the like). Do you count them?
In short, it’s a bit of a dangerous path to go down. You can hurt people of course, but also people could take unreasonable offence at your actions, which you have no control over. So that’s their problem. also hurt can be temporary and not actually that meaningful. It sounds like a tricky subject that may be worth speaking to a professional about if there’s something specifically worrying you 👍 [Post edited 6 Nov 2024 23:56]
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Nice to see someone else uses a milkman. Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays for us. Delivery is usually about 2.00am! |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 08:35 - Nov 7 with 1444 views | baxterbasics |
It's an impossible question to answer because this can be done unawares and hurt can also be subjective.
Are we including all possible forms of 'hurt'? So for example, emotional, physical, financial?
Did I 'hurt' my employer when I took a pen from the stationary cupboard for personal use?
What about my sister when as an obnoxious 10 yr old boy I said her glasses made her look like a geek?
My nan when I forgot her birthday?
My friend when I won a game of 'slaps'?
My wife when I lie about how much I actually spent on the graphics card for my PC?
Did I hurt the match referee when he heard me shouting and questioning the legitimacy of his conception, form the crowd?
When I voted Brexit did I hurt the entire nation?
If we're drilling down to these kinds of details then for many of us the answer will indeed be endless. |  |
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 10:48 - Nov 7 with 1286 views | Ftnfwest |
1, Robert Cross, i caught him a good right hook when i was about 12 |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 10:53 - Nov 7 with 1265 views | Keno |
Most of them and most have probably hurt me
but life is about finding ways of moving past hurt, finding a way to learn from them, finding ways to forgive yourself and, where you can, either forgive or forget others |  |
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 10:57 - Nov 7 with 1226 views | giant_stow |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 10:53 - Nov 7 by Keno |
Most of them and most have probably hurt me
but life is about finding ways of moving past hurt, finding a way to learn from them, finding ways to forgive yourself and, where you can, either forgive or forget others |
What a cracking post.
Op, hang in there fella, take note of the excellent points in this thread and remember to be kind to yourself. |  |
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 11:06 - Nov 7 with 1168 views | Churchman |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 10:53 - Nov 7 by Keno |
Most of them and most have probably hurt me
but life is about finding ways of moving past hurt, finding a way to learn from them, finding ways to forgive yourself and, where you can, either forgive or forget others |
Nah, I prefer the approach of Khan from Star Trek 2
‘To the last, I will grapple with thee... from Hell's heart, I stab at thee! For hate's sake, I spit my last breath at thee!’
‘He tasks me. He tasks me and I shall have him! I'll chase him 'round the moons of Nibia and 'round the Antares Maelstrom and 'round perdition's flames before I give him up!‘
‘Do you know the Klingon proverb that tells us revenge is a dish that is best served cold? It is very cold in space!’
Way to go…..
As for the OP, far too many is the only answer I can give. Re Keno’s second para, i think I learned to forgive, but never forget. It’s not in my nature. But essentially you are right. Accept, live with, learn, look forwards and move forwards. [Post edited 7 Nov 2024 11:15]
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 11:13 - Nov 7 with 1145 views | Whos_blue |
Jeez mate.
This one's a bit deep.
You'll never unravel this.
It's almost impossible in life to hurt no one.
For example, the person you didn't acknowledge for letting out you out in a queue of traffic could be one.
Just focus on being the best you. |  |
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| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 11:25 - Nov 7 with 1112 views | bsw72 |
Does it matter? As long as you have tried to be your best person you can’t worry about how people have reacted to you, else you will end up being a perpetual people pleaser seeking gratification for the reaction of others, which is not the way to happiness.
Be the best you can and accept that others will not like you and will get hurt by you no matter what.
People waste so much energy trying to be something else for others for acceptance. If people choose not to accept you for you, then move on. |  | | |
| How many people in your life do you think you’ve hurt? on 11:30 - Nov 7 with 1091 views | J2BLUE |
How many did you intend to hurt? I'm confident that number will be a lot lower. You're a good guy. You hurt me when I voted you POTY a few years ago and you didn't vote for me but it's ok, I am over it and completely forgive you.
F**k1ng pr1ck
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