| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed 07:12 - Dec 13 with 3659 views | giant_stow |
.. To go to school?
Taking the duvet off him? Taking away Xbox? Making him go to bed earlier?
This is driving me crazy! |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 07:42 - Dec 13 with 3354 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
Promise them you'll support a cooler football team. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 07:43 - Dec 13 with 3359 views | Steve_M |
Threaten to take him to Carrow Road if he won't get up. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 07:44 - Dec 13 with 3351 views | Durovigutum |
In this house, when it gets bad, every minute later than 8AM that you leave the house you lose a day of Xbox. As that is all screen time controlled it is easy to enforce. Focuses the mind. I also have a standing rule that if anyone writes to me about behaviour (including being late) a week is removed.
It’s not all stick, but with these things I just can’t be bothered to do anything else. |  | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:05 - Dec 13 with 3258 views | giant_stow |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 07:44 - Dec 13 by Durovigutum |
In this house, when it gets bad, every minute later than 8AM that you leave the house you lose a day of Xbox. As that is all screen time controlled it is easy to enforce. Focuses the mind. I also have a standing rule that if anyone writes to me about behaviour (including being late) a week is removed.
It’s not all stick, but with these things I just can’t be bothered to do anything else. |
I like the phrase 'standing rule' in these circumstances and know exactly what you mean about not being bothered with it. He's just left and will be late - hopefully he gets a detention.
The Norwich stuff might actually work too! | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:10 - Dec 13 with 3234 views | Hugoagogo_Reborn |
Continuing on the Norwich theme, perhaps set up an alarm clock in the far corner of his room that blares out On The Ball City until you get up and physically turn it off? |  | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:12 - Dec 13 with 3220 views | Lord_Lucan |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:05 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
I like the phrase 'standing rule' in these circumstances and know exactly what you mean about not being bothered with it. He's just left and will be late - hopefully he gets a detention.
The Norwich stuff might actually work too! |
I know it's difficult but I would look into a possible reason why he doesn't want to go to school.
It's not easy because if you ask "Is anything wrong", they will just say "No".
At the risk of sounding like a big wet fart, you could try something like "What was the best thing that happened today"?, followed by "And what was the worse thing"?
He could of course just be a lazy sod. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:19 - Dec 13 with 3178 views | giant_stow |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:12 - Dec 13 by Lord_Lucan |
I know it's difficult but I would look into a possible reason why he doesn't want to go to school.
It's not easy because if you ask "Is anything wrong", they will just say "No".
At the risk of sounding like a big wet fart, you could try something like "What was the best thing that happened today"?, followed by "And what was the worse thing"?
He could of course just be a lazy sod. |
If you're being a wet fart, then so am I - exactly what I was thinking. Also, I got exactly the response you suggested was possible. He'll only talk about these things when he's reached his lowest ebb. Norwich duvet cover ordered - that'll learn him. | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:32 - Dec 13 with 3135 views | Help |
Its near xmas, its dark, why would anyone want to get up.
You could look into it deeply and see if there is a school issue.
Or it could be how we all feel sometimes. School is seen as a must do and no one wants to be told what they must do.
Possibly finding life difficult at the moment, and no child/teenager wants to tell their parents what is wrong. They may feel better speaking to a teacher/coach/similar. 77What and how many friends do they have, what are they like. Are his friends moaners and depressive, or upbeat?
How are they about things other than school. Do they enjoy out of school activities or are you finding that everything is rubbish?
If you are a dad we like to find solutions. Not everything has an answer. Mums listen and extract info which they may not tell you.
It of course could be a number of things. Even some or all of the things you mention. Trying getting children to bed at a sensible time to get enough sleep to wake up at a sensible time to get ready for school is an impossible task.
Do they find it difficult to get to sleep because of adrenaline from sport/ games console use. You know what it is like when you cant sleep or wake up during the night when something is playing on your mind. Same for kids.
Not really advice but food for thought.
Mental health is vitally important at all ages. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:35 - Dec 13 with 3093 views | blueasfook |
Put a big speaker in his room and blare out Delia going "COOOOOME ON, WHERE ARE YOOOOOOOO, LESSSS BE 'AVIN YOOOOOOOOO" over it when its time to get up. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 with 3020 views | giant_stow |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:32 - Dec 13 by Help |
Its near xmas, its dark, why would anyone want to get up.
You could look into it deeply and see if there is a school issue.
Or it could be how we all feel sometimes. School is seen as a must do and no one wants to be told what they must do.
Possibly finding life difficult at the moment, and no child/teenager wants to tell their parents what is wrong. They may feel better speaking to a teacher/coach/similar. 77What and how many friends do they have, what are they like. Are his friends moaners and depressive, or upbeat?
How are they about things other than school. Do they enjoy out of school activities or are you finding that everything is rubbish?
If you are a dad we like to find solutions. Not everything has an answer. Mums listen and extract info which they may not tell you.
It of course could be a number of things. Even some or all of the things you mention. Trying getting children to bed at a sensible time to get enough sleep to wake up at a sensible time to get ready for school is an impossible task.
Do they find it difficult to get to sleep because of adrenaline from sport/ games console use. You know what it is like when you cant sleep or wake up during the night when something is playing on your mind. Same for kids.
Not really advice but food for thought.
Mental health is vitally important at all ages. |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 09:05 - Dec 13 with 2969 views | hoppy |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:10 - Dec 13 by Hugoagogo_Reborn |
Continuing on the Norwich theme, perhaps set up an alarm clock in the far corner of his room that blares out On The Ball City until you get up and physically turn it off? |
You have to be careful with that, to make sure it stays in view. A Norwich one might struggle to stay where you put it, as they don’t like to stay anywhere near the top of the table… |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 09:22 - Dec 13 with 2912 views | BanksterDebtSlave |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. |
Or a boy with eyes wide open!
Probably best you get him medicated. | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 10:09 - Dec 13 with 2827 views | Lord_Lucan |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. |
Sport and exercise is a much underrated pick me up, is he sporty?
Failing that, what is he good at, what does he like? If, for example, he likes acting then take him to an out of school drama club etc etc.
If he isn't connecting with school then try and find things outside of school, he might meet and make new friends.
We would all like to be young again but being young isn't always what it's cracked up to be. | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 10:18 - Dec 13 with 2800 views | Help |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. |
Let's hope it is just general milaise and age. Good luck | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 10:31 - Dec 13 with 2775 views | leitrimblue |
If you get the answer let us know Stow. Especially if the same tips can be used for a 9 year old with a similar issue.. |  | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 10:45 - Dec 13 with 2741 views | _clive_baker_ |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. |
As others have said it could be a whole load of reasons, it might be that he's tired from staying up too late gaming in which case that's on you to set the boundaries and not take the path of least resistance (which I know is easier said than done). It could be something at school he particularly doesn't like and want to face in to which you can support with if you can extract that information. It might be a bit seasonal, or just feeling a bit under the weather which I'm sure happens to most of us at times.
I can't really remember being routinely like that at 11 but I dare say I wasn't desperate to get out of bed and go to school at that age either tbh. That's not to say I was depressed or hated school when I wasn't and didn't. Probably just a bit of a lazy toad.
Now look at me, I post on TWTD during my work hours :) [Post edited 13 Dec 2024 12:35]
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| Now look at me, I post on TWTD during my work hours :) 0 on 11:05 - Dec 13 with 2695 views | Help |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 10:45 - Dec 13 by _clive_baker_ |
As others have said it could be a whole load of reasons, it might be that he's tired from staying up too late gaming in which case that's on you to set the boundaries and not take the path of least resistance (which I know is easier said than done). It could be something at school he particularly doesn't like and want to face in to which you can support with if you can extract that information. It might be a bit seasonal, or just feeling a bit under the weather which I'm sure happens to most of us at times.
I can't really remember being routinely like that at 11 but I dare say I wasn't desperate to get out of bed and go to school at that age either tbh. That's not to say I was depressed or hated school when I wasn't and didn't. Probably just a bit of a lazy toad.
Now look at me, I post on TWTD during my work hours :) [Post edited 13 Dec 2024 12:35]
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Who would do that and for what reason?
Boredom, WFH, that 10 minute break from the screen every hour we are supposed to take.
TWTD forum is more interesting than work | |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 11:31 - Dec 13 with 2622 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
Open the bedroom door, open the kitchen door, cook some bacon. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 13:27 - Dec 13 with 2441 views | JakeITFC |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 08:48 - Dec 13 by giant_stow |
He is indeed finding everything a bit rubbish. I've got a depressed boy haven't I. Gawd.
Thanks all. |
Some good advice in this thread should he be down in the dumps, but just in the interest of balance I absolutely hated waking up early (in fact I still do) for school and it wasn't because I disliked going in or was depressed. Kids/teenagers need a lot of sleep and I don't think he will be out of the ordinary (especially in the winter).
FWIW my trick was to have my alarm on the other side of the room with a really annoying tune that I had to get out of bed to turn off. |  | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 17:01 - Dec 13 with 2101 views | SitfcB |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 11:31 - Dec 13 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Open the bedroom door, open the kitchen door, cook some bacon. |
Ohhhh yes. |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 18:24 - Dec 13 with 1983 views | LeoMuff |
Is he overdoing the sport ? I know my kids towards the end of term are exhausted and getting out of bed is a challenge, not help by some form of sport every evening on top of school. We have to be careful of not burning them out this time of year.
The flip side is cash rewards for every minute before 8am 😂 |  |
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| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 11:07 - Dec 15 with 1636 views | flykickingbybgunn |
Dad used to use a cold wet flannel and rub it over the face. Then open the window wide. |  | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 11:29 - Dec 15 with 1612 views | leitrimblue |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 11:31 - Dec 13 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Open the bedroom door, open the kitchen door, cook some bacon. |
Still the only way to get my sorry arse outta bed on a Sunday morning | | | |
| Grrr... Tips for getting an 11 year old old out of bed on 15:15 - Dec 15 with 1495 views | Leaky |
Tell wifi shutting down at 8am |  | | |
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