| Thoughts 13:43 - Oct 15 with 9977 views | IH_KGF |
A lovely couple we know are getting married, and we (as a family) have been invited to their special day.
Both are extremely passionate vegans, their life, fair play.
The menu is only vegan options. I'll eat anything. The children however, of the 2 options to pick from aren't going to be touched.
We've asked them if it would be ok if they picked something off the non vegan menu (at the hotel) told straight up no.
Now, i get their position, however on our own wedding day some years back WE ensured that their dietary needs were full catered for, paying extra for them to have something not on the menu. (the only people out of 80/90 that were vegans)
To ensure the peace is kept we've said to not bother with ordering food for the kids, and before/after the food we'll take the kids away from the main event to get them something to fill their tummy's... told that isn't an option.
As I see it;
- our kids not wanting that food is OUR problem
- we've offered a suggestion to them save money
- we've taken the worry away from them
- but they are basically saying they must order food from the vegan menu, not eat it, and can't leave the room after to get food that they would like.
Starting to think i might not bother going at this rate... but the great minds of TWTD might be able to tell me otherwise.
Oh, and its strictly alcohol free, not free as in drink all you want, free as in not a drop! |  | | |  |
| Thoughts on 11:06 - Oct 16 with 908 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 10:36 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Nobody’s objected to this couple’s veganism, or their wanting a primarily vegan wedding menu per se - it’s their extreme rigidity and punitive attitude towards their guests’ kids that’s understandably provoked a reaction. [Post edited 16 Oct 10:38]
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Cue the customary downvote.
If you still haven’t got it H, I’d say the thread highlights why it’s not a good idea for people on a mission to try and ram it down the throats of others - it can be counterproductive.
Better to entice them to *want* to get on board. |  |
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| Thoughts on 11:10 - Oct 16 with 890 views | Pinewoodblue |
| Thoughts on 09:13 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
HA! I hadn't consider this, my crocodile skin suit isn't going to go down well! |
I was going to suggest a nice leather belt. |  |
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| Thoughts on 11:14 - Oct 16 with 885 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 11:06 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Cue the customary downvote.
If you still haven’t got it H, I’d say the thread highlights why it’s not a good idea for people on a mission to try and ram it down the throats of others - it can be counterproductive.
Better to entice them to *want* to get on board. |
Thanks for letting the vegans know how they should do veganism. Your input is greatly appreciated. |  |
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| Thoughts on 11:22 - Oct 16 with 857 views | MattinLondon |
| Thoughts on 10:26 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
I knew this would be the defence and I have no answer to it because I'm not.
I do know people who started their kids on proper, decent, healthy food... and they got used to it and stuck with it. Plenty of parents start them off on chicken nuggets and the like (not saying that's you) and then it's no surprise they don't want the healthy stuff.
Just because I personally am not a parent is neither here nor there. I've seen that it's possible to get kids onto a healthy diet early, if you're so inclined. [Post edited 16 Oct 12:03]
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Really? The food some parents say they feed their kids isn’t really the reality.
Most kids even young will eat most things but then they start to get fussy. |  | | |
| Thoughts on 11:24 - Oct 16 with 847 views | IH_KGF |
My intentions were not for this thread to turn into bickering.
I gather from a few threads I've seen on here, that some people just don't like one another, and have personal long standing battles.
Chill people, its the internet. | | | |
| Thoughts on 11:25 - Oct 16 with 841 views | MattinLondon |
If it’s a vegan event and alcohol free then you should respect their wishes. Seems a bit excessive regarding kids food but at least they have been honest and given you the option of either attending or not.
If you don’t want to go then don’t go. | | | |
| Thoughts on 11:30 - Oct 16 with 813 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 11:14 - Oct 16 by Herbivore |
Thanks for letting the vegans know how they should do veganism. Your input is greatly appreciated. |
Organisations that ignore feedback from potential customers/clients/voters are not going to do as well as they might. That’s not just my opinion - ask any successful campaigner, leader, entrepreneur, business person etc. | |
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| Thoughts on 11:34 - Oct 16 with 785 views | Herbivore |
| Thoughts on 11:24 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
My intentions were not for this thread to turn into bickering.
I gather from a few threads I've seen on here, that some people just don't like one another, and have personal long standing battles.
Chill people, its the internet. |
I'm more outraged that it's an alcohol free wedding to be honest. What kind of wedding is that?*
*Unless they are recovering alcoholics, in which case, fair enough. | |
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| Thoughts on 11:39 - Oct 16 with 755 views | Mookamoo |
Sounds like it is just very poorly planned. I've been to a couple of vegan weddings and they were absolutely fine.
Best one was each table had a massive vegan tagine and really nice bread and nibbles. Bit of communal eating helped everyone start talking etc. For those that wanted them, including the kids, there were veggie hotdogs and chips.
There were loads that didn't even realise it was all vegan. |  | | |
| Thoughts on 11:40 - Oct 16 with 753 views | leitrimblue |
I like to imagine the happy couple have been equally dry when selecting the musical offering for the evening.
The DJ will be playing a continuous loop of feck1n U2 and Coldplay and everyone including the kids must be sat in silence listening to every tune.
Vapours better get here quickly with that big bag of pills..
I'm also running outta pocket sausages and cheesy pineapples and I can't eat any more crisps or nuts  |  | | |
| Thoughts on 11:42 - Oct 16 with 749 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 11:06 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Cue the customary downvote.
If you still haven’t got it H, I’d say the thread highlights why it’s not a good idea for people on a mission to try and ram it down the throats of others - it can be counterproductive.
Better to entice them to *want* to get on board. |
Cue downvote from my regular stalker, who for ‘bantz’ no doubt, suggested taking a bag of pills in to sell to the guests.
Couldn’t make it up. | |
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| Thoughts on 12:09 - Oct 16 with 676 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Thoughts on 10:47 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
"I do know people who started their kids on proper, decent, healthy food"
My children have a very healthy diet, something i don't need to explain really.
They just turn noses up at the previously mentioned option.
I sense a slight annoyance that you were questioned if you were a parent, I can only apologise if its touched a nerve for whatever reason (single, beyond the age of having children, too young to consider children, unable to have children) it's not my business either. |
No, hasn't touched a nerve. Not in me anyway. The annoyance is it's an ad hominen attack. Whether I personally have kids or not is nothing to do with the point. I also haven't suggested your kids don't have a healthy diet, nor have I asked you to explain it. Seems it's acually you who's had a nerve touched. |  |
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| Thoughts on 12:13 - Oct 16 with 669 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Thoughts on 11:22 - Oct 16 by MattinLondon |
Really? The food some parents say they feed their kids isn’t really the reality.
Most kids even young will eat most things but then they start to get fussy. |
Yes. If kids are brought up on say a veggie diet, they don't start wanting turkey twizzlers. Kids get fussy and wanting cr@p because their parents give it to them. Cue the downvotes! | |
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| Thoughts on 12:14 - Oct 16 with 667 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Thoughts on 11:24 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
My intentions were not for this thread to turn into bickering.
I gather from a few threads I've seen on here, that some people just don't like one another, and have personal long standing battles.
Chill people, its the internet. |
You asked for thoughts... and you got them! | |
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| Thoughts on 12:18 - Oct 16 with 652 views | itfcjoe |
| Thoughts on 12:13 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Yes. If kids are brought up on say a veggie diet, they don't start wanting turkey twizzlers. Kids get fussy and wanting cr@p because their parents give it to them. Cue the downvotes! |
They also will start wanting stuff if they aren't allowed it, and maybe try it elsewhere.
'Kids' aren't all the same, even in the same family with the same parents and same upbringing they can have wildly different eating habits, tastes etc |  |
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| Thoughts on 12:19 - Oct 16 with 650 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 12:09 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
No, hasn't touched a nerve. Not in me anyway. The annoyance is it's an ad hominen attack. Whether I personally have kids or not is nothing to do with the point. I also haven't suggested your kids don't have a healthy diet, nor have I asked you to explain it. Seems it's acually you who's had a nerve touched. |
Ok thanks mate,
Have a great day | | | |
| Thoughts on 12:21 - Oct 16 with 646 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 12:14 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
You asked for thoughts... and you got them! |
From the very limited posts I've read from you on here, may I ask, are you always like this?
You come across very confrontational and, dare i say it, rude.
Sorry if I'm just getting that version of you currently, and you are normally a decent chap. | | | |
| Thoughts on 12:35 - Oct 16 with 608 views | vapour_trail |
| Thoughts on 12:13 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Yes. If kids are brought up on say a veggie diet, they don't start wanting turkey twizzlers. Kids get fussy and wanting cr@p because their parents give it to them. Cue the downvotes! |
You should start an advice service, you clearly know your sh1t. |  |
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| Thoughts on 12:39 - Oct 16 with 581 views | Pinewoodblue |
| Thoughts on 12:35 - Oct 16 by vapour_trail |
You should start an advice service, you clearly know your sh1t. |
Did you mean your or you’re. | |
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| Thoughts on 12:45 - Oct 16 with 549 views | vapour_trail |
| Thoughts on 12:39 - Oct 16 by Pinewoodblue |
Did you mean your or you’re. |
That’s very naughty pinewood. | |
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| Thoughts on 12:48 - Oct 16 with 547 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 11:24 - Oct 16 by IH_KGF |
My intentions were not for this thread to turn into bickering.
I gather from a few threads I've seen on here, that some people just don't like one another, and have personal long standing battles.
Chill people, its the internet. |
Isn’t it because it’s the internet that it’s *not* chilled?
Though I suppose there’s always the possibility that the feuders on here who’ve never met would dislike each other irl too  | |
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| Thoughts on 12:52 - Oct 16 with 518 views | Pinewoodblue |
| Thoughts on 12:45 - Oct 16 by vapour_trail |
That’s very naughty pinewood. |
I was seeking clarification, perhaps it would have been better to draw my own conclusions rather than risk side tracking what has been a very useful thread. | |
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| Thoughts on 13:01 - Oct 16 with 492 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 12:52 - Oct 16 by Pinewoodblue |
I was seeking clarification, perhaps it would have been better to draw my own conclusions rather than risk side tracking what has been a very useful thread. |
Thought it was just a grammar joke tbh, always enjoy one of those. | |
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| Thoughts on 13:08 - Oct 16 with 472 views | NthQldITFC |
| Thoughts on 13:01 - Oct 16 by Ryorry |
Thought it was just a grammar joke tbh, always enjoy one of those. |
I went to an Indian restaurant last night. After I had ordered, a little old lady came up to me and said, "Aren't you polite. You have such lovely manners."
It was my complimentary nan. |  |
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| Thoughts on 13:08 - Oct 16 with 468 views | Blueschev |
| Thoughts on 12:13 - Oct 16 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Yes. If kids are brought up on say a veggie diet, they don't start wanting turkey twizzlers. Kids get fussy and wanting cr@p because their parents give it to them. Cue the downvotes! |
It's really not as straight forward as that. My youngest would eat anything we gave him, which we encouraged, until he got a nasty sickness bug just before he was two. After that he would barely eat anything other than bread and butter. He's 12 now and much better, but it was a real struggle for a while. |  | | |
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