| Cancer is a cnt 21:06 - May 7 with 2676 views | chrismakin |
Father in law has survived 3 brain surgeries over the years.
Survived an aeroplane crash.
And now gets told at 68 hes got terminal cancer.
Fken cancer fk off. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:07 - May 7 with 2639 views | DropCliffsNotBombs |
Jeez, sorry to hear that. Hope you are holding up as well as can be expected. This place is great at coming together if you need to reach out. |  | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:07 - May 7 with 2636 views | J2BLUE |
Really sorry to hear that mate. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:11 - May 7 with 2614 views | chrismakin |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:07 - May 7 by DropCliffsNotBombs |
Jeez, sorry to hear that. Hope you are holding up as well as can be expected. This place is great at coming together if you need to reach out. |
Thanks mate.
Lost is the feeling.
Its knowing how to support the Mrs which is the hardest thing. I've been through deaths but this is something I've never gone through so no idea how to deal with it
Do I try keep her mind off it? Let her be now she wants to be... I just dont know what my job is through this. I know that sounds stupid but I've no idea what I'm doing | |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:14 - May 7 with 2598 views | DropCliffsNotBombs |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:11 - May 7 by chrismakin |
Thanks mate.
Lost is the feeling.
Its knowing how to support the Mrs which is the hardest thing. I've been through deaths but this is something I've never gone through so no idea how to deal with it
Do I try keep her mind off it? Let her be now she wants to be... I just dont know what my job is through this. I know that sounds stupid but I've no idea what I'm doing |
For me, it's not a problem you can solve for her so most important thing is to be there for her in whatever guise that takes. Look after her, your family but also make sure you look after yourself. | | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:16 - May 7 with 2585 views | Guthrum |
It is indeed. Really sorry to hear that. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:26 - May 7 with 2535 views | Darth_Koont |
Terrible news. Best wishes to you, your wife and the family.
He sounds like a tough bloke having gone through all that. How is he taking it? |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:27 - May 7 with 2536 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
Sorry to hear that CM. And that's such a young age. My dad had it (at 83) but they caught it early and he's just been given the all-clear. He said it was incredible... he was in and out the same day, and they removed it all with computers. That blows my mind.
Sorry that it's not much help to your situation but all the money many of us have donated to cancer research is having an affect and things are improving over time. Cancer is such a scary word when you hear it related to someone you love. I believe it won't be too long until we have a cure. |  |
| Trust the process. Trust Phil. |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:30 - May 7 with 2526 views | chrismakin |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:26 - May 7 by Darth_Koont |
Terrible news. Best wishes to you, your wife and the family.
He sounds like a tough bloke having gone through all that. How is he taking it? |
Thanks mate
" well I suppose he upstairs has finally figured out how to get me"
Bless him. So right too. | |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:33 - May 7 with 2505 views | factual_blue |
Sorry to hear that. Lost more friends/colleagues to it than I care to think about. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:38 - May 7 with 2489 views | Churchman |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:11 - May 7 by chrismakin |
Thanks mate.
Lost is the feeling.
Its knowing how to support the Mrs which is the hardest thing. I've been through deaths but this is something I've never gone through so no idea how to deal with it
Do I try keep her mind off it? Let her be now she wants to be... I just dont know what my job is through this. I know that sounds stupid but I've no idea what I'm doing |
I went through the same situation with the misses some years ago. It is hard. There’s a ‘semi detached’ feeling to it which is hard to describe.
For me it was very much let her do what she feels she needs to do. Be there for her. Suggest without insisting. Listening. Without overdoing it, make sure she knows that whatever she needs from you, you will sort it. Make sure there is food in the house and do the basics she’d normally do if her time is take up with stuff. That sort of thing.
That worked for me and in reverse a few years ago when my mum died. There was stuff I needed her to do which she did without question. She suggested stuff when I asked and dealt with things when I was away, was there with wise advice when I needed it - basically supported me. A team effort.
You will know what you are doing. You will know what to say and what to do. I felt exactly the same way as you when my father in law was ill and I don’t wish it on anyone. But you will get through it. |  | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:44 - May 7 with 2465 views | Darth_Koont |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:30 - May 7 by chrismakin |
Thanks mate
" well I suppose he upstairs has finally figured out how to get me"
Bless him. So right too. |
Haha! Yes, finally ... although that’s what they thought last time.
How long does he have left according to the oncologist/doctor? | |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:54 - May 7 with 2443 views | chrismakin |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:44 - May 7 by Darth_Koont |
Haha! Yes, finally ... although that’s what they thought last time.
How long does he have left according to the oncologist/doctor? |
I'd imagine he will find out Tuesday he has another appt which my wife is going along to.
Today was the visit for the immediate results. | |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 21:58 - May 7 with 2429 views | Bluespeed225 |
Sorry to hear this, its so indiscriminate. Lost my Mum to Hodgkins back in 81', treatable now if caught like so many things, but cancer still cuts through our lives no matter how well you live, treatment you can afford. |  | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 22:45 - May 7 with 2368 views | jeera |
Sorry to hear about your father-in-law.
That is rough.
It is certainly one of those illnesses that affects most of us at some time in our lives, directly or otherwise.
Having witnessed it myself close up I know what it's like and sympathise. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 00:02 - May 8 with 2228 views | Darth_Koont |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:54 - May 7 by chrismakin |
I'd imagine he will find out Tuesday he has another appt which my wife is going along to.
Today was the visit for the immediate results. |
Well, fingers crossed for him. Hope you all get the time you need. | |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 09:55 - May 8 with 2023 views | DebsyAngel |
Really sorry to hear this and just don't know what to suggest.
Anything that makes him happy for the time he has left - a few things off his bucket list (if he has one) (and when lockdown may ease) and just spending as much time as you can with him.
I feel really sorry for you and your family, and can only send my sympathy and best wishes. |  | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 10:02 - May 8 with 2021 views | Terra_Farma |
Big love | | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 10:38 - May 8 with 1990 views | longtimefan |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:38 - May 7 by Churchman |
I went through the same situation with the misses some years ago. It is hard. There’s a ‘semi detached’ feeling to it which is hard to describe.
For me it was very much let her do what she feels she needs to do. Be there for her. Suggest without insisting. Listening. Without overdoing it, make sure she knows that whatever she needs from you, you will sort it. Make sure there is food in the house and do the basics she’d normally do if her time is take up with stuff. That sort of thing.
That worked for me and in reverse a few years ago when my mum died. There was stuff I needed her to do which she did without question. She suggested stuff when I asked and dealt with things when I was away, was there with wise advice when I needed it - basically supported me. A team effort.
You will know what you are doing. You will know what to say and what to do. I felt exactly the same way as you when my father in law was ill and I don’t wish it on anyone. But you will get through it. |
Wise words which I can only echo after the experience of my wife losing her ex-miner father to emphysema, just six months after the birth of our first child. It was a horrible experience, but as Churchman says, a team effort really works and eventually gets you through to the other side. | | | |
| Cancer is a cnt on 10:49 - May 8 with 1978 views | BlueBadger |
Hear, bloody hear.
My mum's currently on the early stages of some pretty hardcore treatment for a(caught thankfully early) pancreatic tumour.
It can f**k off even more than nazi punks can f**k off. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 10:51 - May 8 with 1974 views | bluelagos |
| Cancer is a cnt on 21:38 - May 7 by Churchman |
I went through the same situation with the misses some years ago. It is hard. There’s a ‘semi detached’ feeling to it which is hard to describe.
For me it was very much let her do what she feels she needs to do. Be there for her. Suggest without insisting. Listening. Without overdoing it, make sure she knows that whatever she needs from you, you will sort it. Make sure there is food in the house and do the basics she’d normally do if her time is take up with stuff. That sort of thing.
That worked for me and in reverse a few years ago when my mum died. There was stuff I needed her to do which she did without question. She suggested stuff when I asked and dealt with things when I was away, was there with wise advice when I needed it - basically supported me. A team effort.
You will know what you are doing. You will know what to say and what to do. I felt exactly the same way as you when my father in law was ill and I don’t wish it on anyone. But you will get through it. |
Such nice words.
Churchman highlights the importance of simply being there for your partner.
And don't forget about your own welfare. Sure this place will be a friendly ear if you need it. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 11:17 - May 8 with 1951 views | BiGDonnie |
Sh*tty news, brother. All the best. |  |
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| Cancer is a cnt on 12:03 - May 8 with 1921 views | JamestownPrince |
Hope he gets plenty of quality time and can enjoy it.... | | | |
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