| What the fck is wrong with swearing? 11:22 - Oct 8 with 1010 views | bluelagos |
That thread is quite an eye opener, lots of valid opinions but underlying it is a belief that kids swearing is wrong?
Why is it? If we are quite at ease at adults using industrial language why would it bother us if kids do too?
It may not fit our image of sweet little kids but at the end of the day it's just a child acting in a grown up manner, which it seems to me is what we want them to do...
So what's the issue? Struggling to see why anyone would let it worry them. |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:28 - Oct 8 with 826 views | Herbivore |
F*** off you busy c***. |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:30 - Oct 8 with 812 views | bluelagos |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:28 - Oct 8 by Herbivore |
F*** off you busy c***. |
Are you 10? | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:33 - Oct 8 with 795 views | IH_KGF |
Its when police officers tell people to stop swearing that it gets me, so patronising. Like they've never heard a swear word before.
I don't like hearing kids swear though, its funny on the odd occasion, but said with any hate or meaning and its not nice. |  | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:33 - Oct 8 with 790 views | EddyJ |
Intent is so much more important than the word used:
"I'm going to break your leg"
"You deserve to have your leg broken"
"You are a tw@t"
"How are you doing, me old c()nt?"
IMO, these statements get less offensive as you go down. The first expresses a violent threat. The second expresses a sentiment that you would be happy with violence, even if you did not perpetrait it. The third is a negative, but not threatening statement. The final one uses a rude word in a non-negative context.
I would not be upset if my children used 3 or 4 in an appropriate context. I would be very upset if they said 1.
This is why sexual swear words (f()ck, c()nt etc...) have become more acceptable over time and discriminatory swear words (ni88er, fa88ot, sp@stic etc...) have become less acceptable. The latter group have an in-built context which is inherently offensive. The former do not. [Post edited 8 Oct 11:38]
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:34 - Oct 8 with 790 views | belgablue |
I remember sitting on the school bus once, I was about 7 or so. When we pulled into one of the stops, I stuck my middle finger up to a mum whose daughter was in my class. I'll never forget the look of horror on her face. She was also a vicar so probably made it worse. I had no idea at the time, but looking back it's one of the funniest things I've ever done. |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:35 - Oct 8 with 778 views | redrickstuhaart |
It is often a form of adult aggression, as well as being sexualised. Exposing children to that is emotionally harmful.
People doing these things In front of young kids are displaying a big red flag in terms of their understanding of boundaries and ability to nurture and be child focused in how they care for them. | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:38 - Oct 8 with 772 views | bsw72 |
I didn't want my kids behaving in a grown up manner, not until they were in their mid to late late teens.
That's why they are kids and not grown ups? [Post edited 8 Oct 11:38]
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:39 - Oct 8 with 750 views | bluelagos |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:35 - Oct 8 by redrickstuhaart |
It is often a form of adult aggression, as well as being sexualised. Exposing children to that is emotionally harmful.
People doing these things In front of young kids are displaying a big red flag in terms of their understanding of boundaries and ability to nurture and be child focused in how they care for them. |
But apart from that.
(Cheers for a point, well made) | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:43 - Oct 8 with 714 views | DJR |
I can't say I am a fan of adult swearing either, and try to avoid doing it as much as I can.
If nothing else, constant swearing lessens the impact of what is being said to be point it becomes meaningless, as in the case of the not very funny (to my mind) Australian sketch on the current Mitchell and Webb series. [Post edited 8 Oct 11:45]
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:44 - Oct 8 with 697 views | eireblue |
The ability to use language and to drop the perfect word with perfect timing is something that all good humans should aspire to, if Shakespeare can fat shame, the f**k I ain’t gonna hold back, when the situation arises. |  | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:45 - Oct 8 with 685 views | Zx1988 |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:33 - Oct 8 by IH_KGF |
Its when police officers tell people to stop swearing that it gets me, so patronising. Like they've never heard a swear word before.
I don't like hearing kids swear though, its funny on the odd occasion, but said with any hate or meaning and its not nice. |
It's so stupid.
"If you don't stop swearing, I'll arrest you under the Public Order Act."
Bluntly, if you're upset/offended/hurt by swearing, you probably shouldn't be a police officer. | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:47 - Oct 8 with 677 views | bluelagos |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:43 - Oct 8 by DJR |
I can't say I am a fan of adult swearing either, and try to avoid doing it as much as I can.
If nothing else, constant swearing lessens the impact of what is being said to be point it becomes meaningless, as in the case of the not very funny (to my mind) Australian sketch on the current Mitchell and Webb series. [Post edited 8 Oct 11:45]
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Don't disagree ref too much profanities, but then why let it worry you?
If it's normalised, why be upset by it? It's just what it is. | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:48 - Oct 8 with 670 views | DJR |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:47 - Oct 8 by bluelagos |
Don't disagree ref too much profanities, but then why let it worry you?
If it's normalised, why be upset by it? It's just what it is. |
I didn't say it worries me.  | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:50 - Oct 8 with 664 views | cressi |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:44 - Oct 8 by eireblue |
The ability to use language and to drop the perfect word with perfect timing is something that all good humans should aspire to, if Shakespeare can fat shame, the f**k I ain’t gonna hold back, when the situation arises. |
I swear. But there is a time and a place the company you are with I don't say certain words in front of my grandchildren who are under 10
Not that he will but I wouldn't if the vicar came round for tea.
Now a bunch of blokes in a different setting is completely different but just my view weigh up ur audience. | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:20 - Oct 8 with 565 views | iamatractorboy |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:43 - Oct 8 by DJR |
I can't say I am a fan of adult swearing either, and try to avoid doing it as much as I can.
If nothing else, constant swearing lessens the impact of what is being said to be point it becomes meaningless, as in the case of the not very funny (to my mind) Australian sketch on the current Mitchell and Webb series. [Post edited 8 Oct 11:45]
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Similar to how I feel about it. Swearing should be for emphasis, not as a substitute for other words. I just tune it out if someone is constantly swearing. Not because I'm offended, but because the impact is dulled to the point that it barely registers. Now if my dear old mother swears... she REALLY means it, and you know something is up. | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:24 - Oct 8 with 548 views | bluelagos |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:20 - Oct 8 by iamatractorboy |
Similar to how I feel about it. Swearing should be for emphasis, not as a substitute for other words. I just tune it out if someone is constantly swearing. Not because I'm offended, but because the impact is dulled to the point that it barely registers. Now if my dear old mother swears... she REALLY means it, and you know something is up. |
I knew I was in proper trouble when my mum used my middle name...then I knew I was for the high jump! | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:33 - Oct 8 with 501 views | MattinLondon |
I don’t have any issue with swearing and I swear fairly often - but not in front of my young kids. And I don’t like it when people swear loudly in front of them.
I know that this is my issue but I don’t want my young’uns to grow up and act like an adult before their time. To me the grown-up world is scary - social media, hatred based on skin colour and mindless arseholes. And to me swearing is one of those small things which reminds me that they will grow up very quickly.
Not that long ago my youngest burst into tears because he couldn’t comprehend why there are homeless people on the streets ‘why don’t their mummies and daddies help them? And it upset him.
I want them to stay innocent for as long as it’s reasonable. To find excitement in very small thing, to believe in Father Christmas and not to have anything to worry about out apart from what game to play next.
I know that I’m going all over the place in my reply and I apologise. But swearing or being exposed to a lot of it is just another reminder that the adult world can be s**t. |  | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:52 - Oct 8 with 384 views | J2BLUE |
You need to respect your audience. As people have mentioned, with your mates the c word can be a term of endearment.
In front of kids or my nan I am turning it down to zero.
There's a few desperate to be offended like they are about everything. A few on here must be literal angels as they are so virtuous.
Like everything else there's a time and a place for swearing. |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:52 - Oct 8 with 381 views | Bent_double |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:43 - Oct 8 by DJR |
I can't say I am a fan of adult swearing either, and try to avoid doing it as much as I can.
If nothing else, constant swearing lessens the impact of what is being said to be point it becomes meaningless, as in the case of the not very funny (to my mind) Australian sketch on the current Mitchell and Webb series. [Post edited 8 Oct 11:45]
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I watched an episode of that new Michell and Webb series with my sister and brother-in-law a few weeks ago - both Aussie citizens now - don't think they were impressed by it at all, infact it quickly got boring and a little embarassing.
Maybe that's the point they were trying to make? |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:53 - Oct 8 with 375 views | IH_KGF |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:33 - Oct 8 by MattinLondon |
I don’t have any issue with swearing and I swear fairly often - but not in front of my young kids. And I don’t like it when people swear loudly in front of them.
I know that this is my issue but I don’t want my young’uns to grow up and act like an adult before their time. To me the grown-up world is scary - social media, hatred based on skin colour and mindless arseholes. And to me swearing is one of those small things which reminds me that they will grow up very quickly.
Not that long ago my youngest burst into tears because he couldn’t comprehend why there are homeless people on the streets ‘why don’t their mummies and daddies help them? And it upset him.
I want them to stay innocent for as long as it’s reasonable. To find excitement in very small thing, to believe in Father Christmas and not to have anything to worry about out apart from what game to play next.
I know that I’m going all over the place in my reply and I apologise. But swearing or being exposed to a lot of it is just another reminder that the adult world can be s**t. |
that said, i roared with laughter the other day when my 13 year old opened the freezer and a few bits fell out.... her words "what knobhead put these away then, probably dad!"
it absolutely done me, as used exactly as choice words should be :) | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:54 - Oct 8 with 366 views | baxterbasics |
I know that swearing can be an effective part of communication when used carefully and intelligently, but when someone can't string a sentence together without effing and jeffing it does give the impression of being inconsiderate and illiterate and is often used in place of articulating ideas or feelings in a mature manner. I'd prefer kids learn to speak a certain standard of English before they start introducing it into their vocab.
Certainly it loses it's impact when used in everyday speech. |  |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:54 - Oct 8 with 366 views | nrb1985 |
I always considered posting this on here to gauge reaction about whether I was in the wrong but along these lines, in the Sarmiento saints game this is what happened to me.
I was seated in north upper, so clearly not the family stand. I very rarely swear but do get passionate about my footy and my team.
Not proud of it but I bellowed out the C word twice. Once when I thought their goal was offside and I think the other was second half for their sending off and it was directed towards Russell Martin on the bench.
At that point, a woman turned round to me - gave me both barrels. I was clearly not some stone island wearing wannabe (I’m 40!) and it was really the game to end all games and everyone got passionate in their different ways - mine was less than ideal granted.
That said - I actually don’t think I did any thing wrong. I was in the north upper. It happened twice only and shouldn’t have drawn such a reaction from said woman. I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with odd expletive, provided you’re not in the family enclosure or around kids (I wasn’t) and it’s not persistent. Twice in my view isn’t!!! | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:56 - Oct 8 with 356 views | Herbivore |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:54 - Oct 8 by baxterbasics |
I know that swearing can be an effective part of communication when used carefully and intelligently, but when someone can't string a sentence together without effing and jeffing it does give the impression of being inconsiderate and illiterate and is often used in place of articulating ideas or feelings in a mature manner. I'd prefer kids learn to speak a certain standard of English before they start introducing it into their vocab.
Certainly it loses it's impact when used in everyday speech. |
F*** off, clean shirt. | |
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| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 13:01 - Oct 8 with 316 views | DJR |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 12:24 - Oct 8 by bluelagos |
I knew I was in proper trouble when my mum used my middle name...then I knew I was for the high jump! |
With my mum, it was her look! | | | |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 13:04 - Oct 8 with 310 views | Ryorry |
| What the fck is wrong with swearing? on 11:45 - Oct 8 by Zx1988 |
It's so stupid.
"If you don't stop swearing, I'll arrest you under the Public Order Act."
Bluntly, if you're upset/offended/hurt by swearing, you probably shouldn't be a police officer. |
I think that expectation by police officers is more a thing of them wanting/expecting those they pull up to show restraint and respect for their role/office - not least as a way of decreasing tension and tempers, thereby reducing the likelihood of things becoming heated & potentially physical.
Whether they deserve the respect is of course another matter, but on the one occasion I was pulled over, I felt it was in my own best interests to be incredibly polite and respectful! |  |
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