| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… 15:52 - Apr 12 with 5459 views | MattinLondon |
…do you offer her your seat? For arguments sake, she doesn’t look pregnant or has any form of disability and she isn’t elderly.
I wouldn’t as I don’t see why someone who happens to be female should get preferential treatment. To be it’s just a form of sexism that states that women need special treatment and looking after.
The reason I ask is because a member of my team stated that they would expect a man should get-up for a woman - despite previously stating that both sexes should be treated equally.
Just wondered what your views were on this rather unimportant subject. |  | | |  |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 15:53 - Apr 12 with 2204 views | wkj |
I would just look out the window and pretend to be vacant. Standard public transport protocol. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 15:54 - Apr 12 with 2195 views | SitfcB |
Na |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 15:55 - Apr 12 with 2173 views | Darth_Koont |
Seems oddly sexist and patronising. And certainly not what women are asking for more generally. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:01 - Apr 12 with 2129 views | jeera |
Years ago I would have, when it was the accepted and oft expected protocol.
Also at that age you take any opportunity you can to get talking to a female.
Now I don't think I could be bothered.
Pregnant yes, elderly yes. Woman with young child, yes. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:06 - Apr 12 with 2100 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 15:55 - Apr 12 by Darth_Koont |
Seems oddly sexist and patronising. And certainly not what women are asking for more generally. |
But you would you open the car door on a date? | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:07 - Apr 12 with 2098 views | Ftnfwest |
Yes I would but clearly I'm a sexist s**t rather than just polite. Of course I could then be put into the horrendous position of her politely declining my offer. Sorry 'they'. |  | | |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:08 - Apr 12 with 2085 views | MattinLondon |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:01 - Apr 12 by jeera |
Years ago I would have, when it was the accepted and oft expected protocol.
Also at that age you take any opportunity you can to get talking to a female.
Now I don't think I could be bothered.
Pregnant yes, elderly yes. Woman with young child, yes. |
Totally agree with your last two sentences - but I would also get-up for a bloke with a young child as well. | | | |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:09 - Apr 12 with 2073 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:07 - Apr 12 by Ftnfwest |
Yes I would but clearly I'm a sexist s**t rather than just polite. Of course I could then be put into the horrendous position of her politely declining my offer. Sorry 'they'. |
At least with a train or a bus one could them throw themselves in front of the thing at the next stop to save living with the humiliation of being rejected. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:09 - Apr 12 with 2065 views | clive_baker |
For a woman? No, wouldn't even cross my mind. For a parent with young kids I would offer it to the parent or if the little un wants to sit down. but that would be regardless of if its a bloke or a woman.
Elderly, yes.
Pregnant, yes.
It's always a sticky one on the tube when you're not sure if someone is pregnant or just had a heavy Christmas under their coat. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:10 - Apr 12 with 2064 views | MattinLondon |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:07 - Apr 12 by Ftnfwest |
Yes I would but clearly I'm a sexist s**t rather than just polite. Of course I could then be put into the horrendous position of her politely declining my offer. Sorry 'they'. |
But why do you consider it polite to stand up for a visibly healthy and young(ish) woman but not a visibly healthy and young(ish) man? | | | |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:10 - Apr 12 with 2058 views | J2BLUE |
In the past yes. Now? Fook that, not going to risk the backlash. If anyone said anything I would tell them I have no idea what to do in an age where two similar people could be equally offended by the complete opposite. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:11 - Apr 12 with 2044 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:08 - Apr 12 by MattinLondon |
Totally agree with your last two sentences - but I would also get-up for a bloke with a young child as well. |
Well yes ok, but to be fair that wasn't in the original question.
What about a man [or woman] with a cushion up their jumper?
Personally I'm not falling for that one again. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:11 - Apr 12 with 2042 views | clive_baker |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:06 - Apr 12 by jeera |
But you would you open the car door on a date? |
I should've done that on my 2nd date with my now wife. I picked her up, we drove to wherever we were going, I park up next to a curb and she flinged the door open straight into a lamppost. Inside I was fuming, she was mortified and all I could say was 'don't worry about it, it's only a car'.
ONLY A P!SSING 6 MONTH OLD CAR!!!!
Can laugh about it now.
Edit: This is how angry I still am, I thought flinged was the past tense of fling. [Post edited 12 Apr 2022 16:14]
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:12 - Apr 12 with 2026 views | mutters |
No.
If she had a small child then I would offer as well. |  |
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| Is it a date with.... on 16:13 - Apr 12 with 2004 views | Bloots |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:06 - Apr 12 by jeera |
But you would you open the car door on a date? |
...a man or a woman?
Or neither?
Or both? |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:14 - Apr 12 with 2009 views | Ftnfwest |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:10 - Apr 12 by MattinLondon |
But why do you consider it polite to stand up for a visibly healthy and young(ish) woman but not a visibly healthy and young(ish) man? |
Sorry didn't realise age description. I meant any age 'woman' and the older gents purely out of good manners. They can always tell me to 'f off' if I've upset them. | | | |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:15 - Apr 12 with 2003 views | footers |
There are occasionally some people, female or otherwise, who don't need a seat (ie pregnant/elderly/what have you) who will huff and puff, acting all indignant that you don't offer it up. In these situations it is even more gratifying to have my arse ache through numbness on my lovely, lovely seat.
Big city life, innit. Makes ya a brute. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:16 - Apr 12 with 1998 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:11 - Apr 12 by clive_baker |
I should've done that on my 2nd date with my now wife. I picked her up, we drove to wherever we were going, I park up next to a curb and she flinged the door open straight into a lamppost. Inside I was fuming, she was mortified and all I could say was 'don't worry about it, it's only a car'.
ONLY A P!SSING 6 MONTH OLD CAR!!!!
Can laugh about it now.
Edit: This is how angry I still am, I thought flinged was the past tense of fling. [Post edited 12 Apr 2022 16:14]
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Yeah that's a testing situation.
I remember picking up this lass I was mad about in my car and she put her feet up on my dashboard.
I kept looking over for the whole journey and it was really winding me up. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:17 - Apr 12 with 1983 views | J2BLUE |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:16 - Apr 12 by jeera |
Yeah that's a testing situation.
I remember picking up this lass I was mad about in my car and she put her feet up on my dashboard.
I kept looking over for the whole journey and it was really winding me up. |
Similar situation where she wanted to smoke. I said no. She said i'll open the windows. I had no answer to that. She smoked. I seethed on the inside. Went nowhere. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:18 - Apr 12 with 1980 views | mutters |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:06 - Apr 12 by jeera |
But you would you open the car door on a date? |
Yes if it was convenient, i.e. I was on the same side as her. However, I wouldn't make a big deal about marching around the other side of the car declaring that she shouldn't touch the door as it's my job. Likewise with doors. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:19 - Apr 12 with 1968 views | footers |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:11 - Apr 12 by clive_baker |
I should've done that on my 2nd date with my now wife. I picked her up, we drove to wherever we were going, I park up next to a curb and she flinged the door open straight into a lamppost. Inside I was fuming, she was mortified and all I could say was 'don't worry about it, it's only a car'.
ONLY A P!SSING 6 MONTH OLD CAR!!!!
Can laugh about it now.
Edit: This is how angry I still am, I thought flinged was the past tense of fling. [Post edited 12 Apr 2022 16:14]
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Start taking the odd pound from her purse on the sly to repay the damage. | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:20 - Apr 12 with 1953 views | STYG |
The etiquette should rightly be to offer it to anybody who needs it more.
An elderly person, someone with disabilities, a pregnant woman or a man or woman with their children.
For anybody else, then no. Why would you?
I used to be as chivalrous as they came and in my ideal world that could still be the case, but there's a genuine risk that for every 4 women that accepted the offer, another 1 would take offence, whilst none of them should rightly be offended if I continue to sit in the seat, so why take the chance of upsetting anyone? |  | | |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:21 - Apr 12 with 1934 views | Hullblue |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:09 - Apr 12 by clive_baker |
For a woman? No, wouldn't even cross my mind. For a parent with young kids I would offer it to the parent or if the little un wants to sit down. but that would be regardless of if its a bloke or a woman.
Elderly, yes.
Pregnant, yes.
It's always a sticky one on the tube when you're not sure if someone is pregnant or just had a heavy Christmas under their coat. |
If I'm not sure I just stand up and walk off now. Don't look back. Then it's up to them. |  |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:22 - Apr 12 with 1922 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:18 - Apr 12 by mutters |
Yes if it was convenient, i.e. I was on the same side as her. However, I wouldn't make a big deal about marching around the other side of the car declaring that she shouldn't touch the door as it's my job. Likewise with doors. |
This needs some context.
If you're driving, i.e. picking her/ him/ whatever preference, for a date chances are you're not going to be on the same side of the car.
So no, I didn't have in mind a Starsky and Hutch style roll across the thing to beat her to it and open the door in order to impress her.
I was thinking more that you've just left the restaurant and got back to the car.
I would walk to her side side first and open the door out of courtesy. That's still normal, right? | |
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| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:24 - Apr 12 with 1908 views | jeera |
| You’re on a crowded bus or train and a woman gets on… on 16:21 - Apr 12 by Hullblue |
If I'm not sure I just stand up and walk off now. Don't look back. Then it's up to them. |
That's when Footers sees his chance and grabs the seat.
Beating the pregnant woman and the old boy to it! | |
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