| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? 00:05 - Nov 30 with 8376 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
Basically I offered a man I know a room for a week or so back in the summer when he got evicted and he's been here for a few months living rent free and taking the absolute pxss. It's making me so down but my biggest gripe is I just can't get a say on anything. He's so dominant in his manner of conversation that he just takes over with his louder voice. I have so much to say he won't let me bloody talk.
Typical example earlier, Pleasurewood Hills came up in conversation. I was going to tell him an anecdote about a mildly amusing story about when I went there as a kid and I started 'i went to Pleasurewood Hills when I was about 10...' and before I could continue he stopped me in my tracks, hijacked the conversation then proceeded to talk for ten minutes about the time HE went to Pleasurewood Hills and what HE done. It's sending me crazy and I just want peace, or at the very least someone to give me the courtesy of listening to what I have to say.
Have I made sense? Do any of you guys know people who do this or is it just me? They are the worst people. It's so rude and frustrating. Oh and one more thing. He has a mate who is exactly the same and is lacking just as much in conversation etiquette. When he comes round and the 2 of them are talking it's like listening to 2 dogs bark at each other |  | | |  |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:10 - Nov 30 with 4405 views | MattinLondon |
Is it like these two dogs barking at each other?
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:19 - Nov 30 with 4379 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:10 - Nov 30 by MattinLondon |
Is it like these two dogs barking at each other?
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It really is. When 2 people who are only prepared to talk and not listen then this is the result lol. Seriously tho it's driving me mad. Even if I tried to talk to him about it he would interrupt then go on for an hour about himself.
When you're anxiety is through the roof it's HELL on earth. It seems for the issues I have with mental health/addiction the best cure for me is sat alone by myself in silence. Even when I don't want to talk he is talking at me about absolute nonsense.
Oh and yes I'm expecting the accusations that I'm a troll. Simply block me if you think so (this happened last time I tried talking). There's no need to abuse me, I just wanted to vent | | | |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:24 - Nov 30 with 4368 views | Double_Dutch |
He's not a real mate now is he, if he was, he would have offered to telephone your doctors surgery and order your recent prescription for you, the receptionist would not have known what hit her! |  | | |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:25 - Nov 30 with 4362 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:24 - Nov 30 by Double_Dutch |
He's not a real mate now is he, if he was, he would have offered to telephone your doctors surgery and order your recent prescription for you, the receptionist would not have known what hit her! |
Tbf to him he actually did call them on my behalf when I had my issues last week and collected them for me
Edit: besides which he's not a mate, just an old boy I know who's fallen on hard times [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 0:27]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:34 - Nov 30 with 4314 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:29 - Nov 30 by MattinLondon |
You a troll? Why would people think that?
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If I was a troll who wanted bites I wouldn't be telling people to block me and ignore me if they think I'm on a wind up. Just block me, no need to reply if it's just hurtful stuff [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 0:35]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:34 - Nov 30 with 4313 views | Enigma_Blue |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:25 - Nov 30 by MalcolmMeatballHead |
Tbf to him he actually did call them on my behalf when I had my issues last week and collected them for me
Edit: besides which he's not a mate, just an old boy I know who's fallen on hard times [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 0:27]
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Why would you let someone who isn't a mate stay with you rent free? Especially someone who has a dominating personality that won't let you get a word in edge ways when you have mental health issues? |  | | |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:41 - Nov 30 with 4277 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 00:34 - Nov 30 by Enigma_Blue |
Why would you let someone who isn't a mate stay with you rent free? Especially someone who has a dominating personality that won't let you get a word in edge ways when you have mental health issues? |
Mental health stops me from doing a lot of things that I should do and makes me do a lot of things that I shouldn't. If you know you know. I'm being walked all over and don't have the bo**locks to stick up for myself. Nerves are all over the place and no word of a lie I haven't eaten for 3 days as my appetite has just gone due to how my life is.
Not looking for 'bites' or even help. It just feels good to let it out so cheers [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 0:50]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:02 - Nov 30 with 4243 views | jeera |
Tell him you need the money so are planning on renting out the spare room in the new year.
No rush to move out, say something like the 2nd week of Jan to get himself sorted with somewhere. |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:06 - Nov 30 with 4236 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:02 - Nov 30 by jeera |
Tell him you need the money so are planning on renting out the spare room in the new year.
No rush to move out, say something like the 2nd week of Jan to get himself sorted with somewhere. |
Your advice is appreciated. Problem is it's a council flat so Im not allowed to rent any rooms out (subletting). However, I don't think what the current situation is is something the council will look on fondly so potentially I could lose my flat over this. This is a nightmare honestly
*Edit: I'm not even gaining from it. The only thing he pays for is his own food. Imagine anxiety makes you too scared to ask for help with bills from someone who is not paying rent, electric, gas, WiFi or water- yeh that's me. What a life to live eh? [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:11]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:20 - Nov 30 with 4202 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
Gonna go for a walk down the river. Love walking but much prefer it this time of night. Alone, on a bench looking out towards Harwich watching the ships go out. As I say, not after bites or answers to my insanely lonely and miserable life. Just wanted to vent and you know what it has helped so cheers to those who read the post and either understand where I'm coming from or didn't feel the need to abuse me.
Can't reiterate yet again I'm serious and need help (not from you guys, as I said I just wanted to vent some frustration). I'm an idiot but I won't ever troll about mental health. That's sick and if you doubt me but are one of those people who share stuff on social media about people should speak out when desperate then have a word with yourselves
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:23 - Nov 30 with 4192 views | Illinoisblue |
You should start a blog and provide photos of your amazing life. |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:27 - Nov 30 with 4185 views | jeera |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:06 - Nov 30 by MalcolmMeatballHead |
Your advice is appreciated. Problem is it's a council flat so Im not allowed to rent any rooms out (subletting). However, I don't think what the current situation is is something the council will look on fondly so potentially I could lose my flat over this. This is a nightmare honestly
*Edit: I'm not even gaining from it. The only thing he pays for is his own food. Imagine anxiety makes you too scared to ask for help with bills from someone who is not paying rent, electric, gas, WiFi or water- yeh that's me. What a life to live eh? [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:11]
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Then there's your answer.
Tell him you're not supposed to have him there, which you probably aren't, so he needs to make other arrangements before you lose your home.
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:42 - Nov 30 with 4165 views | gainsboroughblue |
Has this guy not presented as homeless to the local council? Or registered on the housing list? I think giving him over the course of a summer is plenty in terms of help,
it's now in totally taking the p1ss territory and you'll have little chance of getting him out the closer you get to Christmas.
Council may also take a dim view if you are seen to be having a a lodger, unless you have sought permission.
Get him to fill his details on here.
https://www.gatewaytohomechoice.org.uk/ |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:52 - Nov 30 with 4145 views | MalcolmMeatballHead |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:42 - Nov 30 by gainsboroughblue |
Has this guy not presented as homeless to the local council? Or registered on the housing list? I think giving him over the course of a summer is plenty in terms of help,
it's now in totally taking the p1ss territory and you'll have little chance of getting him out the closer you get to Christmas.
Council may also take a dim view if you are seen to be having a a lodger, unless you have sought permission.
Get him to fill his details on here.
https://www.gatewaytohomechoice.org.uk/ |
Thanks for the reply. Really can't go into the intricacies but he sold me a sob story that his private landlord didn't like him so evicted him but it's only a matter of weeks before the council re-home him. Believe it or not I'm a decent bloke and done the natural thing- offer him a roof for a few weeks til his house is ready
3 months on it's emerged his ex landlord didn't like him cos he owed thousands in rent arrears. This is bad because you cannot get social housing if you have rent arrears, which he is adamant that he doesn't owe and has no intention of paying back. It's like checkmate, it's never gonna get resolved
I guess he's stuck here for the long term. Seriously I just wanna run away. Have you heard that term cuckooing? I can't say no more I'm on edge enough as it is [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:55]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:57 - Nov 30 with 4129 views | gainsboroughblue |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:52 - Nov 30 by MalcolmMeatballHead |
Thanks for the reply. Really can't go into the intricacies but he sold me a sob story that his private landlord didn't like him so evicted him but it's only a matter of weeks before the council re-home him. Believe it or not I'm a decent bloke and done the natural thing- offer him a roof for a few weeks til his house is ready
3 months on it's emerged his ex landlord didn't like him cos he owed thousands in rent arrears. This is bad because you cannot get social housing if you have rent arrears, which he is adamant that he doesn't owe and has no intention of paying back. It's like checkmate, it's never gonna get resolved
I guess he's stuck here for the long term. Seriously I just wanna run away. Have you heard that term cuckooing? I can't say no more I'm on edge enough as it is [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:55]
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In that case, get in touch with these people. They are very helpful.
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 02:20 - Nov 30 with 4093 views | jeera |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:52 - Nov 30 by MalcolmMeatballHead |
Thanks for the reply. Really can't go into the intricacies but he sold me a sob story that his private landlord didn't like him so evicted him but it's only a matter of weeks before the council re-home him. Believe it or not I'm a decent bloke and done the natural thing- offer him a roof for a few weeks til his house is ready
3 months on it's emerged his ex landlord didn't like him cos he owed thousands in rent arrears. This is bad because you cannot get social housing if you have rent arrears, which he is adamant that he doesn't owe and has no intention of paying back. It's like checkmate, it's never gonna get resolved
I guess he's stuck here for the long term. Seriously I just wanna run away. Have you heard that term cuckooing? I can't say no more I'm on edge enough as it is [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:55]
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"only a matter of weeks before the council re-home him".
Well that's completely made up and is the sort of thing only said by people who have no idea how the whole housing system works.
A single bloke with no obvious health concerns is not going to get housed by any council in this land. Not without being on some waiting list for a very long time.
Someone, somewhere is telling fibs. | |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 03:02 - Nov 30 with 4072 views | Kropotkin123 |
Reminds me of a time I went to Pleasurewood Hills as a kid. I went on the Cannonball Express, which was awesome. Then went Funky Flyers. I was amazed by all the birds of paradise and sea lions. You would think the mini pirate ships and mini twizzlers would make you forget about all of that, but it was one awesome overall experience. The weather was good and I had Ice cream and then... |  |
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| Yes, a lot of people do on 08:25 - Nov 30 with 3681 views | Swansea_Blue |
and they’re called wives  |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:41 - Nov 30 with 3451 views | ArnoldMoorhen |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 01:52 - Nov 30 by MalcolmMeatballHead |
Thanks for the reply. Really can't go into the intricacies but he sold me a sob story that his private landlord didn't like him so evicted him but it's only a matter of weeks before the council re-home him. Believe it or not I'm a decent bloke and done the natural thing- offer him a roof for a few weeks til his house is ready
3 months on it's emerged his ex landlord didn't like him cos he owed thousands in rent arrears. This is bad because you cannot get social housing if you have rent arrears, which he is adamant that he doesn't owe and has no intention of paying back. It's like checkmate, it's never gonna get resolved
I guess he's stuck here for the long term. Seriously I just wanna run away. Have you heard that term cuckooing? I can't say no more I'm on edge enough as it is [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 1:55]
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If this is your real situation, then, yes, it does sound a lot like you are being "cuckooed" and exploited. If so, feel free to Private Message me on here and I will do what I can to find you support. You will need it. The links that Gainsborough has provided are a good place for you to start, though.
If you are a troll then you have crossed a line. | | | |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:44 - Nov 30 with 3440 views | Zx1988 |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:41 - Nov 30 by ArnoldMoorhen |
If this is your real situation, then, yes, it does sound a lot like you are being "cuckooed" and exploited. If so, feel free to Private Message me on here and I will do what I can to find you support. You will need it. The links that Gainsborough has provided are a good place for you to start, though.
If you are a troll then you have crossed a line. |
Came here to say precisely this.
If your situation is as described, it may be worthwhile speaking with your housing officer at the Council, as this goes far beyond 'subletting' and is more along the lines of him taking advantage of a vulnerable individual. [Post edited 30 Nov 2022 10:46]
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:44 - Nov 30 with 3441 views | stickymockwell |
I only read this guff to see if there are any good replies. Come on TWTD's collective we need to do better than this.
Malcolm you need to do better too. I love a good troll but you're not SBMH |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 11:03 - Nov 30 with 3374 views | clive_baker |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:44 - Nov 30 by stickymockwell |
I only read this guff to see if there are any good replies. Come on TWTD's collective we need to do better than this.
Malcolm you need to do better too. I love a good troll but you're not SBMH |
I don't think he's a troll, and given his apparent current plight I would say it's better to assume he's legit. |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 11:24 - Nov 30 with 3297 views | TalkingBlues |
Get your coat on and have a nice long walk, the exercise will do you a power of good. |  |
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| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 11:25 - Nov 30 with 3286 views | blueasfook |
| Does anybody have aquaintances like this? on 10:41 - Nov 30 by ArnoldMoorhen |
If this is your real situation, then, yes, it does sound a lot like you are being "cuckooed" and exploited. If so, feel free to Private Message me on here and I will do what I can to find you support. You will need it. The links that Gainsborough has provided are a good place for you to start, though.
If you are a troll then you have crossed a line. |
I sincerely hope this guy is not a troll. I like to think he is genuine but who knows! |  |
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