| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? 12:56 - Feb 5 with 13409 views | Illinoisblue |
This should lighten the mood and make us forget about relegation woes. I’ve always had the age of 75 as a good target to aim for. And that any years beyond that would be a bonus. But I’m 52 now and 75 seems too close for comfort. So have revised target up to 80. Dad went early at 66 but mum is solid and healthy still, and her mum lasted until 92 so hopefully got those genes.
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:32 - Feb 5 with 2022 views | Swailsey |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:31 - Feb 5 by J2BLUE |
What sort of book? About a hero called Swailsey, a much loved member of a football forum who discovered true happiness at the age of 36 and nine tenths before living happily and healthily until the age of 92 and dying peacefully the day after watching Ipswich complete the treble at Wembley? |
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| Not really, but.... on 16:33 - Feb 5 with 2024 views | Bloots |
....once I reach my 30s I guess I might.
Live and let live until then! |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:37 - Feb 5 with 2001 views | positivity |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:31 - Feb 5 by J2BLUE |
What sort of book? About a hero called Swailsey, a much loved member of a football forum who discovered true happiness at the age of 36 and nine tenths before living happily and healthily until the age of 92 and dying peacefully the day after watching Ipswich complete the treble at Wembley? |
can i request a slight tweak; change "after watching Ipswich complete the treble at Wembley?" to "after watching Ipswich complete the treble at Wembley *again*?"
don't fancy waiting that long into my hundreds for that! |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:39 - Feb 5 with 1991 views | soupytwist |
Yes, I'm 56 and like you always thought of 75 as a good target to aim for. That feels alarming close and there are still a lot of things I want to do.
My father died in his mid-70s of cancer. Several on his father's side also died of cancer, a couple quite early but then that could be partly due to the standard of treatment available at the time.
My mother is still alive and well at 79 so hopefully I've got more of her genes. Not sure I'm prepared to give up drinking and dairy just yet, like she did a while back. She spent years in her youth smoking though, and I've never smoked, so I've hopefully got some health brownie points in the bank.
Reading that Brian Murphy died after developing a pain in his back around three weeks beforehand, which turned out to be cancer in his spine and shoulders, I've become even more paranoid than ever that something terrible is up whenever I feel something painful somewhere. |  | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:40 - Feb 5 with 1964 views | Churchman |
My parents lived long lives into their 90s though their quality of life was poor in later years.
However, they looked after themselves far better than I have so my expectations are somewhat less! But that’s ok. I am conscious of enjoying the now, try to appreciate life. I see it as not what I can’t do (I’m in my 60s) but what I can.
For example, despite being physically ok, this year was my last ski holiday after 32 trips to Europe, US and Canada. It was something that I was passable at, but given how lucky I’ve been with injuries and what my capabilities are now, I’ve called time. That’s fine, I shall do something else. And that’s how I see everything. Work? Retired. I didn’t have to, I chose to. Having a choice in things in what I do next is something I prize and is key to me.
Death itself? I’ve seen it and come close to it so no, I’m not afraid of it beyond a certain minimal percentage. Nor do I think on it much. I’ve been fortunate to live a long and mostly good life so if it ends tomorrow, fair enough. My true dread is infirmity and immobility, physical and or mental. I’d rather leave the stage than go through that. [Post edited 5 Feb 16:57]
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:42 - Feb 5 with 1953 views | LA_Tractor_Boy |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:24 - Feb 5 by J2BLUE |
Not really. I think more about my nan and my parents.
On a related note I do think about getting older and sometimes at work I sit there in my office and think this is absurd. There must be more to life than sitting here doing this. Then I always wonder what a caveman would think of the concept of customer service and wonder how the human race got to this point and what would be the worst thing that happened if I just closed my laptop and walked away. [Post edited 5 Feb 20:27]
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I often think that I'm wasting my life doing a bullsh*t corporate job.
But I'm too risk averse to change career, as I'm 52, earn a decent wage and have financial responsibilities. Sometimes I think redundancy would be a blessing, as it would force my hand to do something more rewarding. | | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:47 - Feb 5 with 1905 views | ronnyd |
My Mum made 101 and Dad 99. My brother is 88 but receiving palliative care, the various cancer drugs he was taking have become ineffective. I was 80 in December so it's something to ponder. I just think when it's my time, that's it! Not going to fret about it. | | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:52 - Feb 5 with 1873 views | textbackup |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:24 - Feb 5 by J2BLUE |
Not really. I think more about my nan and my parents.
On a related note I do think about getting older and sometimes at work I sit there in my office and think this is absurd. There must be more to life than sitting here doing this. Then I always wonder what a caveman would think of the concept of customer service and wonder how the human race got to this point and what would be the worst thing that happened if I just closed my laptop and walked away. [Post edited 5 Feb 20:27]
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Funny you say that, was a call at work today about a reorg, people unsure if their roles will remain… 50% of the office up and left, the rest sat about doing very little.
In a normally ‘busy’ office. Mad how one bit of news and nobody is that bothered/busy/important |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:53 - Feb 5 with 1868 views | essexpaul64 |
Not anymore. I’m now 60 and ten years ago i went for a routine operation. All went well until the following day when i had a cardiac arrest, and was in a coma for a week. This left me with hypoxic brain injury with long term memory issues, five years later i had a stroke (unassociated with cardiac arrest). I am now medically retired and living as best i can. Life can be a struggle, but i do everything that i can. Death has no fears after my previous encounter. Just enjoy life as best you can. |  | | |
| Not really, but.... on 17:06 - Feb 5 with 1797 views | Illinoisblue |
| Not really, but.... on 16:33 - Feb 5 by Bloots |
....once I reach my 30s I guess I might.
Live and let live until then! |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:25 - Feb 5 with 1742 views | Libero |
I’m 36 and lately I have started considering this, purely because my son has high support needs and with recent world events I wonder what kind of world I may be leaving him in.
I also have a number of chronic health issues that don’t appear to relent, often when struggling with particularly bad spells I think about the rapid decline over the past half a decade and wonder where I’ll be in the next half a decade or so.
haha, cheerful stuff, this! |  | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:30 - Feb 5 with 1715 views | DJR |
I am now 65, and what I tend to do is look ahead, say, 15 years to when I would be 80 (if I survive) and at the same time look back 15 years, realising things that happened then seem so recent..
I first did this sort of thing when I was 45, thinking I might be only halfway through my life and so might (if lucky) have the same time left to live. Sadly, the fraction increases the older I get. Indeed, even things that happened in the 70s don't seem that long ago. [Post edited 5 Feb 17:33]
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:34 - Feb 5 with 1696 views | Tangledupin_Blue |
I've been thinking about such things.
2 years ago I turned 70. Enough reason there to consider ones immortality.
That year I had developed a tiny spot on my cheek. I itched one day and, absent-mindedly, raised a finger and scratched it causing it to bleed. It took a while for the bleeding to stop but it did so eventually. The tiny spot remained and with such a soft surface that a simple thing like pulling a tee-shirt over my head would rub the surface and cause the bleeding.
In November '23 it had grown to maybe a half cm across and looked like a pimple; continued to bleed with the slightest touch so was often a scab. I saw a doctor and it was diagnosed as a basal skin cancer, not uncommon among us oldies, and which turned out to be benign but would need removal - not serious. They put me on waiting list.
Last August ('24) I started coughing up blood. Just tiny amounts, the odd spot, but any amount is not good! Saw doctor who sent me for blood tests and x-rays and they found a chest infection. They put me on antibiotics for a week then sent me for further x-ray. The chest infection had cleared up but the new x-ray showed a pneumothorax (collapsed lung).
They sent me for a CT scan. Then the big news. I was told that "More likely than not" I had lung cancer. They gave me leaflets about lung cancer and they allocated a MacMillan nurse to be my 'go-to' for advice etc. Now they had my attention! They sent me to Colchester for a PET scan to verify the diagnosis.
The result of the PET scan was that there was 'no significant cellular activity', in other words no sign of lung cancer! The fear was unfounded. Big relief.
However...
The same PET scan showed that I had polyps on my bowel. Not uncommon in people of my age. They said that polyps can become cancerous and that they would need to be removed.
Monday, two days ago, I had a 2-hour colonoscopy in which they removed 6 polyps from my bowel and rectum and sent them for analysis.
Then yesterday they removed the basal skin cancer, by now an inch in diameter.
Next Tuesday I will have the stitches removed from my cheek then the following Monday 17th I will see chest specialist and, hopefully, find that the collapsed lung has cured itself. Then, within a few weeks the polyp analysis will hopefully be okay.
So...
Yes. I have thought about how long I may have. Especially when it was thought 'likely' that I had lung cancer and I was wondering whether Christmas would be my last; even, would I see the end of the football season?
I also realise that I have been extremely lucky. The chest problems, though potentially serious, have been dealt with in good order and led to another potentially life threatening problem being diagnosed at a very early stage and the possibility of developing bowel cancer has been nipped in the bud.
Final comments
1. If you think you have a problem get along to your doctor. The earlier you are diagnosed then the better your prospects of an effective treatment and good outcome.
2. Don't fear the treatment. I was full of trepidation before the colonoscopy. Fearing that it may be painful and undignified. The reality was that it is carried out by sympathetic professionals and causes only very mild discomfort. You don't even need to take your own lard. And you get a cup of tea and a biscuit 😊
Yes I have thought about how long I have. Hopefully a year or two yet! |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:37 - Feb 5 with 1684 views | IThinkItsChaplin |
“Why should I fear death? If I am, then death is not. If Death is, then I am not. Why should I fear that which can only exist when I do not?"
An ancient Greek quote which is overly simplistic as it doesn't take into account the experience of those left alive, but worth noting nonetheless. | | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:47 - Feb 5 with 1652 views | Leaky |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:39 - Feb 5 by soupytwist |
Yes, I'm 56 and like you always thought of 75 as a good target to aim for. That feels alarming close and there are still a lot of things I want to do.
My father died in his mid-70s of cancer. Several on his father's side also died of cancer, a couple quite early but then that could be partly due to the standard of treatment available at the time.
My mother is still alive and well at 79 so hopefully I've got more of her genes. Not sure I'm prepared to give up drinking and dairy just yet, like she did a while back. She spent years in her youth smoking though, and I've never smoked, so I've hopefully got some health brownie points in the bank.
Reading that Brian Murphy died after developing a pain in his back around three weeks beforehand, which turned out to be cancer in his spine and shoulders, I've become even more paranoid than ever that something terrible is up whenever I feel something painful somewhere. |
75, a mate of mine is still laying bricks at 75 [Post edited 5 Feb 17:51]
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:59 - Feb 5 with 1622 views | cressi |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 16:31 - Feb 5 by J2BLUE |
What sort of book? About a hero called Swailsey, a much loved member of a football forum who discovered true happiness at the age of 36 and nine tenths before living happily and healthily until the age of 92 and dying peacefully the day after watching Ipswich complete the treble at Wembley? |
Il be 64 in a week or two I want to die with a sexy lady on the vinegar stroke Not having my bum wiped in a nursing home losing my mind  | | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:01 - Feb 5 with 1621 views | Swailsey |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:47 - Feb 5 by Leaky |
75, a mate of mine is still laying bricks at 75 [Post edited 5 Feb 17:51]
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My dad’s still plumbing at 77! I worry for him. | |
| Who said: "Colin Healy made Cesc Fabregas look like Colin Healy"? | We miss you TLA |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:03 - Feb 5 with 1615 views | Dubtractor |
Sort of a related thought, I sometimes consider what age I would bank if guaranteed to reach it, i.e. definitely reach that age, but could die any day after that. Like deal or no deal, but more morbid.
70 is the answer I reach (49 now).
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:09 - Feb 5 with 1572 views | Fenland_Blue |
I hope to get to 83, so I can see the a return of Haleys Comet in 2061. |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:41 - Feb 5 with 1510 views | Leaky |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:01 - Feb 5 by Swailsey |
My dad’s still plumbing at 77! I worry for him. |
I'm still plumbing at 74. Fair play to your dad. Send him my best wishes. | | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:43 - Feb 5 with 1504 views | Eireannach_gorm |
My father died at 66 and I am aged 66 years so who knows? |  | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 19:22 - Feb 5 with 1460 views | Ryorry |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 17:37 - Feb 5 by IThinkItsChaplin |
“Why should I fear death? If I am, then death is not. If Death is, then I am not. Why should I fear that which can only exist when I do not?"
An ancient Greek quote which is overly simplistic as it doesn't take into account the experience of those left alive, but worth noting nonetheless. |
It's just the *manner* of it isn't it ...
Quickly & without too much pain - no problem - in fact I think of it as the Last Great Adventure. Nobody fully knows what happens next.
Having said that, I hope there's no afterlife unless there's reincarnation, cos I defo wouldn't want to spend an eternity alongside my Mum nagging me! |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 19:27 - Feb 5 with 1453 views | Blueastheycome |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 13:00 - Feb 5 by gainsboroughblue |
The only blood line I know of is my mum's. She died at 65 and her mum died at 55 and dad was 44.
At 52 this year, I feel I could be in the winter of my life. Cheery stuff eh.
I do think though that people generally stay younger longer these days and what is 50-60 now is nowhere near what it used to be, especially when I distinctly remember my Grandad being my age and was very much pipe, slippers, grey, looked what an 80 year old would look like now and only drank at the social club once a month. |
I agree with this.
I recall the time when my Nan was as old as my dad is now, and they are a million miles apart in everything. In fact, my Nan at 85 was exactly the same in my head at the same age she was 67 (the current age of my dad) |  | | |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 19:40 - Feb 5 with 1437 views | Wicksy |
68 and counting....
Still reasonably healthy - bike ride at least once a week, walk as much as I can - but you never know what's round the corner.Dad went at 84 but mum's still going strong - 95 in a couple of weeks so who knows?
Sometimes feel sorry for youngsters today - seems like they're inheriting a very messed up world |  |
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| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 20:00 - Feb 5 with 1376 views | Churchman |
| Do you ever think about how long you’ve got left? on 18:01 - Feb 5 by Swailsey |
My dad’s still plumbing at 77! I worry for him. |
Good for him Swailsey!! My dad was tilling the sod and doing the displays at Notcutts in Woodbridge until he was 80 after finishing his professional career. The health and longevity it gave him, along with peace from my mum going on at him, was about as beneficial as anything could be as unlike me, he enjoyed gardening! | | | |
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