| Thoughts 13:43 - Oct 15 with 7446 views | IH_KGF |
A lovely couple we know are getting married, and we (as a family) have been invited to their special day.
Both are extremely passionate vegans, their life, fair play.
The menu is only vegan options. I'll eat anything. The children however, of the 2 options to pick from aren't going to be touched.
We've asked them if it would be ok if they picked something off the non vegan menu (at the hotel) told straight up no.
Now, i get their position, however on our own wedding day some years back WE ensured that their dietary needs were full catered for, paying extra for them to have something not on the menu. (the only people out of 80/90 that were vegans)
To ensure the peace is kept we've said to not bother with ordering food for the kids, and before/after the food we'll take the kids away from the main event to get them something to fill their tummy's... told that isn't an option.
As I see it;
- our kids not wanting that food is OUR problem
- we've offered a suggestion to them save money
- we've taken the worry away from them
- but they are basically saying they must order food from the vegan menu, not eat it, and can't leave the room after to get food that they would like.
Starting to think i might not bother going at this rate... but the great minds of TWTD might be able to tell me otherwise.
Oh, and its strictly alcohol free, not free as in drink all you want, free as in not a drop! |  | | |  |
| Thoughts on 15:40 - Oct 15 with 987 views | Reuser_is_God |
I’d tell them to shove it. |  |
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| Thoughts on 15:41 - Oct 15 with 988 views | Ryorry |
This couple btw - are they Town fans and likely to read TWTD forum ..?  |  |
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| Thoughts on 15:52 - Oct 15 with 954 views | DJR |
At least it's not a Valencian wedding with a traditional paella.
The neighbour at the place I visit in Spain was invited by the Spanish family across the road to have such a paella which is made with snails.
He thought he was doing well by surreptitiously placing the snails in a plastic bag at his feet under the table only for his host to think he was enjoying it so much that he put more on his plate. [Post edited 15 Oct 15:53]
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| Thoughts on 15:52 - Oct 15 with 956 views | IH_KGF |
| Thoughts on 15:41 - Oct 15 by Ryorry |
This couple btw - are they Town fans and likely to read TWTD forum ..? |
Women hates football.... her bloke, I don't dare mention who the male would favour if asked (although, never actually goes)
So, Vegan, no beer, and he'd favour "them" - excellent day | | | |
| Thoughts on 16:02 - Oct 15 with 915 views | FrimleyBlue |
Vegans and Don't drink
How on earth do they have a wedding guest list! |  |
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| Thoughts on 16:13 - Oct 15 with 890 views | mutters |
| Thoughts on 15:36 - Oct 15 by Ryorry |
Vegan food tends to be high in fibre, which many with Crohns/UC just can't handle, esp in flare up, without it triggering very serious symptoms.
Personally, any fruit, coconut + veg like tomatoes, peppers, beetroot, raw salads, any member of the cabbage family can trigger a flare up which may then last up to 2 years, again with symptoms that can't be ignored. |
Got it, thanks for the info.
Would venues ask about these types of things these days when asking for dietary requirements? Must be so hard to accommodate everyone.
Last wedding I went to was probably 10 years ago and all I remember was that instead of a wedding cake they had multi layered pork pie 😂 |  |
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| Thoughts on 16:36 - Oct 15 with 849 views | Pinewoodblue |
| Thoughts on 15:02 - Oct 15 by IH_KGF |
12 and 10. They get it, right little piss takers if I'm honest, they really really don't care.
Its annoyed me far more, and I'll have plenty of grub!
I'm actually looking forward to seeing the kids laughing about the situation as we are sat around the table. wicked sense of humour! |
Good ages old enough to understand but able to make light of the situation. You will have to be careful they don’t take it too far.
You do realise it will, for them, be a topic of conversation for years to come. |  |
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| Thoughts on 16:45 - Oct 15 with 840 views | LevelTheLand |
It does sound as though they are being a tad unreasonable, but surely they'd be okay with you bringing some snacks for the kids provided the snacks were vegan? There's plenty of stuff available, and a lot of snacks they probably already eat which is vegan.
Vegan sausage roll
Quorn/La Vie ham style sandwich
Crisps/popcorn
Fruit
Kids don't go hungry, friends vegan wedding isn't affected. |  | | |
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| Thoughts on 16:50 - Oct 15 with 827 views | The_Romford_Blue |
Am I reading this correctly? They’ve affectively banned you from feeding your starving children and would happily see your littluns not eat for the day?
Selfish pr*cks. I’d sack the wedding straight off and never speak to them again. Awful. |  |
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| Thoughts on 16:51 - Oct 15 with 810 views | FrimleyBlue |
| Thoughts on 16:50 - Oct 15 by The_Romford_Blue |
Am I reading this correctly? They’ve affectively banned you from feeding your starving children and would happily see your littluns not eat for the day?
Selfish pr*cks. I’d sack the wedding straight off and never speak to them again. Awful. |
I've order a KFC Family sharing bucket from just eat to arrive during the speeches | |
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| Thoughts on 16:51 - Oct 15 with 814 views | EdwardStone |
| Thoughts on 15:39 - Oct 15 by Reuser_is_God |
Well it’s not a vegan beef wellington is it? It’s just a vegan wellington. |
I'm imagining an old rubber boot filled with lentils and a few veggies
Tastefully decorated with a sprig of holly and a bit of tinsel, natch |  | | |
| Thoughts on 16:57 - Oct 15 with 784 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 16:51 - Oct 15 by FrimleyBlue |
I've order a KFC Family sharing bucket from just eat to arrive during the speeches |
Oooooohhhhhh you are awful but I like you!  | |
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| Thoughts on 17:03 - Oct 15 with 762 views | ronnyd |
Wow, that is total intransigence on their part, especially as you catered for them at your bash. I know it's easy for me to say as they aren't my friends but i would say "thanks but no thanks". |  | | |
| Thoughts on 17:09 - Oct 15 with 749 views | The_Romford_Blue |
We had an ultra militant vegan on here once. A well known poster. Famously told me on a 15 page thread that ‘I’ve just shown my also-vegan girlfriend this thread and she 100% agrees with me’ which was of course as obvious as it was funny.
I don’t think even he would agree with the bit about not feeding your children away from the rest of the wedding. Anyone that would expect kids to go hungry because of their beliefs is frankly an a**hole in my view. | |
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| Thoughts on 17:25 - Oct 15 with 709 views | giant_stow |
| Thoughts on 17:09 - Oct 15 by The_Romford_Blue |
We had an ultra militant vegan on here once. A well known poster. Famously told me on a 15 page thread that ‘I’ve just shown my also-vegan girlfriend this thread and she 100% agrees with me’ which was of course as obvious as it was funny.
I don’t think even he would agree with the bit about not feeding your children away from the rest of the wedding. Anyone that would expect kids to go hungry because of their beliefs is frankly an a**hole in my view. |
oh blimey you've done now. mind you, it'll be nice to see Callis again. |  |
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| Thoughts on 17:53 - Oct 15 with 655 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
My first thought was to tell your kids to eat up and not be so fussy/kids are starving in Africa etc.
But it does sound like this couple are being OTT and unreasonable. So I can see both sides.
I'm not vegan or veggie but have eaten in restaurants for those and been surprised at how amazing that food can be. So your kids might suprise themselves (especially if the place is known for doing good veggie/vegan meals). I assume they haven't had a lot of this stuff so are just assuming it'll be horrible rather than actually knowing. It could actually be a decent lesson for them. |  |
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| Thoughts on 18:05 - Oct 15 with 637 views | bluelagos |
How old are your kids? If they are reaching an age where they can be trying to eat other things - I'd probably try and use it as an opportunity to educate them about the need to conform (yep I did say that) - a useful life skill - as refusing food can be seen as quite rude in many circumstances/places.
If they are younger - can you sneak in some bits to make it a bit more edible for them - maybe not a burger - but some ketchup if they have a sweet tooth?
As for the bride and groom - I guess if they 100% see "meat is murder" (I don't) then why would they compromise? It is their day and if you like them then I'd do all I could do make their day special.
To effectively boycott a wedding because of the food options - come on, look at the bigger picture yourself. It may not be what you want but it's not your wedding at the end of the day.
(my twopenneth and am relaxed others have different opinions) |  |
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| Thoughts on 18:07 - Oct 15 with 632 views | Herbivore |
What I'm taking from this is it's a bad idea to invite kids to weddings. |  |
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| Thoughts on 18:17 - Oct 15 with 613 views | WeWereZombies |
So no specific prohibitions on a bit of argy bargy and chatting up the bridesmaids (only if they consent of course) during the evening then ? I'd forget the food and drink and concentrate on those... |  |
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| Thoughts on 19:55 - Oct 15 with 534 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 18:05 - Oct 15 by bluelagos |
How old are your kids? If they are reaching an age where they can be trying to eat other things - I'd probably try and use it as an opportunity to educate them about the need to conform (yep I did say that) - a useful life skill - as refusing food can be seen as quite rude in many circumstances/places.
If they are younger - can you sneak in some bits to make it a bit more edible for them - maybe not a burger - but some ketchup if they have a sweet tooth?
As for the bride and groom - I guess if they 100% see "meat is murder" (I don't) then why would they compromise? It is their day and if you like them then I'd do all I could do make their day special.
To effectively boycott a wedding because of the food options - come on, look at the bigger picture yourself. It may not be what you want but it's not your wedding at the end of the day.
(my twopenneth and am relaxed others have different opinions) |
"To effectively boycott a wedding because of the food options - come on, look at the bigger picture yourself."
Sorry, but to me the bigger picture would be that if this couple are so intolerant, or on such an agenda that they're not even prepared to 'allow' a 10 yr old out of the room to eat alternatively - at a wedding where your *guests* are supposed to be enjoying themselves - then perhaps they're not so lovely that I want to keep them as friends ... | |
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| Thoughts on 20:04 - Oct 15 with 508 views | BlueandTruesince82 |
Dont go. Disown them.
An alcohol free wedding is a terrible idea, no one is going to dance when sober.
Veganism is fine but should not be forced on people, especially children.
You say they are a lovely couple. I say the mask is slipping snd their true colours are just being revealed. |  |
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| Thoughts on 20:07 - Oct 15 with 500 views | BlueandTruesince82 |
| Thoughts on 14:04 - Oct 15 by IH_KGF |
I remember when she turned, sat in my house as I ate my dinner, and said "would you butcher (dogs name) for that plate of food?"
Went and got a pint of milk to drink in front of her after that. Then politely asked that she never questions what i eat unless in her home. Thinking about it, this is 10 years in the making isn't it! |
This further underlines my point above. Seems the mask had been slipping for 10 years | |
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| Thoughts on 21:14 - Oct 15 with 446 views | Clapham_Junction |
| Thoughts on 19:55 - Oct 15 by Ryorry |
"To effectively boycott a wedding because of the food options - come on, look at the bigger picture yourself."
Sorry, but to me the bigger picture would be that if this couple are so intolerant, or on such an agenda that they're not even prepared to 'allow' a 10 yr old out of the room to eat alternatively - at a wedding where your *guests* are supposed to be enjoying themselves - then perhaps they're not so lovely that I want to keep them as friends ... |
Are they really not prepared to allow someone to leave to go and eat? This seems hard to believe. I read the OP as saying that not ordering something is not an option (which might be the case if the venue says that the number of attendees = the number of meals), not that they can't leave.
(although I would question whether any of it is true, as TBH it just looks like an anti-vegan wind-up) |  | | |
| Thoughts on 21:53 - Oct 15 with 395 views | Ryorry |
| Thoughts on 21:14 - Oct 15 by Clapham_Junction |
Are they really not prepared to allow someone to leave to go and eat? This seems hard to believe. I read the OP as saying that not ordering something is not an option (which might be the case if the venue says that the number of attendees = the number of meals), not that they can't leave.
(although I would question whether any of it is true, as TBH it just looks like an anti-vegan wind-up) |
I might have got it wrong, but that's what I took the OP saying in their opener "before/after the food we'll take the kids away from the main event to get them something to fill their tummy's... told that isn't an option." ... to mean.
I wouldn't be fussed about the alcohol-free aspect though, as for all we know either one or both of the couple might be recovering alcoholics, and it's perfectly possible to enjoy a booze-free wedding, as someone pointed out earlier. | |
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| Thoughts on 22:28 - Oct 15 with 349 views | vapour_trail |
Blimey. That’ll need some livening up.
Take a bag of pills, you’ll make a killing. |  |
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