| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app 14:33 - Dec 17 with 7932 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
Should men compliment/chat up women?
The context is an Amazon delivery driver asking a woman he was delivering a parcel to if she's single as she's beautiful.
The majority on there (essentially nosey neighbours with an app) want him strung up, police involved, sacked etc. (during a pandemic, nice!) While I can understand the woman felt intimidated and vulnerable, it'd be a sad world we live in if a guy can't tell a woman he fancies her with a view to a date etc. Are we left with dating apps as the only acceptable way to meet people now?
Hard for me as a man, though, to understand what it's like being harassed by sleazy blokes trying it on. Particularly in an employee/customer situation.
It's a tricky one IMO.
Certainly, years ago, it seemed most couples met through work. I imagine that's massively down now for fear of losing your job at a disciplinary hearing!
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:37 - Dec 17 with 1443 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:25 - Dec 17 by hoppy |
You can't trust the adverts...
So which side of the fence did you fall on - were your housemates very giggly? |
Can't talk now, have spuds to peel. | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:37 - Dec 17 with 1443 views | Keno |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 17:31 - Dec 17 by StochesStotasBlewe |
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What's her TWTD username? |  |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:40 - Dec 17 with 1439 views | footers |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:30 - Dec 17 by jeera |
Yes, cos none of us have ever fancied our chances with a barmaid after a few drinks have we! |
There's one I'm still dreaming about to this day. Sigh.
But in my uni dayz, my then missus was a barmaid and fck me, whenever I used to go and pick her up after work there were still blokes trying to crack on when she was clearing up. Clearly they were drunk or they'd have better taste. But it annoyed this correspondent anyhow. [Post edited 17 Dec 2020 18:40]
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:42 - Dec 17 with 1427 views | Dubtractor |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:36 - Dec 17 by The_Flashing_Smile |
Wow. I think that says more about the area you live in. Ours is mostly lost cats, petty complaints about roadworks and the police reporting on crime. The police are quite amusing on ours actually, saying things like "we apprehended a couple of ne' de wells." |
Yeah, but you live in that trendy London don't you?
I live in Ipswich, a place that recently elected Tom fookin Hunt. I live in quite a nice part of town too. [Post edited 17 Dec 2020 18:45]
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:44 - Dec 17 with 1420 views | jeera |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:40 - Dec 17 by footers |
There's one I'm still dreaming about to this day. Sigh.
But in my uni dayz, my then missus was a barmaid and fck me, whenever I used to go and pick her up after work there were still blokes trying to crack on when she was clearing up. Clearly they were drunk or they'd have better taste. But it annoyed this correspondent anyhow. [Post edited 17 Dec 2020 18:40]
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Oh don't get me wrong, none of us like seeing drunk blokes trying to chat up barmaids.
It looks sleazy when other people do it, almost every time without exception.
Except when we've done it ourselves, it's a completely different thing altogether! |  |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:45 - Dec 17 with 1414 views | StochesStotasBlewe |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:37 - Dec 17 by Keno |
What's her TWTD username? |
Baberghtaughtcheeks. |  |
| We have no village green, or a shop.
It's very, very quiet.
I can walk to the pub. |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:46 - Dec 17 with 1414 views | footers |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:44 - Dec 17 by jeera |
Oh don't get me wrong, none of us like seeing drunk blokes trying to chat up barmaids.
It looks sleazy when other people do it, almost every time without exception.
Except when we've done it ourselves, it's a completely different thing altogether! |
She loved me, jeera. She really did.
I could tell from her frosty look and blunt answers.
Such a tease. | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:52 - Dec 17 with 1391 views | Darth_Koont |
I haven’t read the rest of the thread but wanted to give my first reaction.
Yeah, I think it’s dodgy. There are ways of showing a woman that you are attracted (basically a bit of flirting) but going direct so early on a woman’s doorstep where she lives seems too far.
If she was flirting back then maybe ... but still that’s the point you’d have to get to. And even then I’d say you can ask the same question without actually asking the question. |  |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:54 - Dec 17 with 1377 views | SpruceMoose |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:46 - Dec 17 by footers |
She loved me, jeera. She really did.
I could tell from her frosty look and blunt answers.
Such a tease. |
When she pulled out the bear repellant and sprayed it in your eyes... that's when you knew it was love.
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:55 - Dec 17 with 1371 views | footers |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:54 - Dec 17 by SpruceMoose |
When she pulled out the bear repellant and sprayed it in your eyes... that's when you knew it was love.
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And I'd only asked for a pint of Broadside.
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:59 - Dec 17 with 1356 views | Keno |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:45 - Dec 17 by StochesStotasBlewe |
Baberghtaughtcheeks. |
my money was on it being J2 | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:01 - Dec 17 with 1355 views | J2BLUE |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:52 - Dec 17 by Darth_Koont |
I haven’t read the rest of the thread but wanted to give my first reaction.
Yeah, I think it’s dodgy. There are ways of showing a woman that you are attracted (basically a bit of flirting) but going direct so early on a woman’s doorstep where she lives seems too far.
If she was flirting back then maybe ... but still that’s the point you’d have to get to. And even then I’d say you can ask the same question without actually asking the question. |
When I worked in retail one woman took an unhealthy interest in me. I wouldn't have minded but she looked like one of the orcs out of Lord of the Rings. |  |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:02 - Dec 17 with 1345 views | Plums |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:20 - Dec 17 by Dubtractor |
As an aside to this thread, I recently created an account on Nextdoor for our local area, and after 2 weeks deleted it. Such a hate filled platform - like all of the racists and xenophobes and narrow minded people from facebook news comments have gathered in one place. |
My mum told me she was on it after we’d had one of their creepy intro letters through the door, purporting to be ‘from’ a neighbour. A five minute search of its history and I was certain it was a platform I didn’t want anything to do with. |  |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:02 - Dec 17 with 1345 views | SpruceMoose |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:01 - Dec 17 by J2BLUE |
When I worked in retail one woman took an unhealthy interest in me. I wouldn't have minded but she looked like one of the orcs out of Lord of the Rings. |
You should have gone for it J2! Even if you thought she was out of your league she might have taken pity on you! | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:03 - Dec 17 with 1343 views | Seablu |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:54 - Dec 17 by SpruceMoose |
When she pulled out the bear repellant and sprayed it in your eyes... that's when you knew it was love.
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Reminds me of that appalling old joke.
‘Why do I cry whenever I’m having sex with a gorgeous woman?’
‘That’s the pepper spray, dude’ |  | | |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:04 - Dec 17 with 1341 views | Keno |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:01 - Dec 17 by J2BLUE |
When I worked in retail one woman took an unhealthy interest in me. I wouldn't have minded but she looked like one of the orcs out of Lord of the Rings. |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:07 - Dec 17 with 1330 views | J2BLUE |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:02 - Dec 17 by SpruceMoose |
You should have gone for it J2! Even if you thought she was out of your league she might have taken pity on you! |
There wasn't enough alcohol in the world at the time.
Some of the women were hit on relentlessly. One was told by some man that he was going to marry her one day. *cringe* | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:11 - Dec 17 with 1316 views | Seablu |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:04 - Dec 17 by Keno |
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‘I haven’t stroked my pussy for days Captain Peacock...I don’t know where he’s got to’ | | | |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:12 - Dec 17 with 1314 views | SpruceMoose |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:07 - Dec 17 by J2BLUE |
There wasn't enough alcohol in the world at the time.
Some of the women were hit on relentlessly. One was told by some man that he was going to marry her one day. *cringe* |
I was reading an account the other day of a waitress over here who was asked by a male customer to remove her mask because he wanted to see how pretty she was. She did it because she felt so put on the spot. | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:12 - Dec 17 with 1307 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 18:52 - Dec 17 by Darth_Koont |
I haven’t read the rest of the thread but wanted to give my first reaction.
Yeah, I think it’s dodgy. There are ways of showing a woman that you are attracted (basically a bit of flirting) but going direct so early on a woman’s doorstep where she lives seems too far.
If she was flirting back then maybe ... but still that’s the point you’d have to get to. And even then I’d say you can ask the same question without actually asking the question. |
I think you agree with me that it's not cut and dried. We've only heard one side. I think it's an area where you'd need to be careful, and respectful, it's just the talk of sacking and/or police I thought a bit OTT. I don't know what their exchanges beforehand were, and that would make a huge difference. | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:14 - Dec 17 with 1299 views | jeera |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:12 - Dec 17 by The_Flashing_Smile |
I think you agree with me that it's not cut and dried. We've only heard one side. I think it's an area where you'd need to be careful, and respectful, it's just the talk of sacking and/or police I thought a bit OTT. I don't know what their exchanges beforehand were, and that would make a huge difference. |
What if she had been flirting and this is just a cover because her husband got an inkling!
I think there's a hint of married men on here feeling a bit insecure to be honest!! | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:15 - Dec 17 with 1295 views | m14_blue |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:01 - Dec 17 by J2BLUE |
When I worked in retail one woman took an unhealthy interest in me. I wouldn't have minded but she looked like one of the orcs out of Lord of the Rings. |
Which one?
Are we talking Uruk or bog standard Mordor? |  | | |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:15 - Dec 17 with 1293 views | J2BLUE |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:12 - Dec 17 by The_Flashing_Smile |
I think you agree with me that it's not cut and dried. We've only heard one side. I think it's an area where you'd need to be careful, and respectful, it's just the talk of sacking and/or police I thought a bit OTT. I don't know what their exchanges beforehand were, and that would make a huge difference. |
Literally the only thing we've learnt from this thread is that we don't have enough information. | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:16 - Dec 17 with 1288 views | Keno |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:14 - Dec 17 by jeera |
What if she had been flirting and this is just a cover because her husband got an inkling!
I think there's a hint of married men on here feeling a bit insecure to be honest!! |
what is she had answered the door with just a towel wrapped round her and asked the unsuspecting amazon driver if he needed to 'relief himself' | |
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| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:19 - Dec 17 with 1285 views | jeera |
| Big debate raging on our local Nextdoor app on 19:01 - Dec 17 by J2BLUE |
When I worked in retail one woman took an unhealthy interest in me. I wouldn't have minded but she looked like one of the orcs out of Lord of the Rings. |
I've not been taking this seriously I admit.
But you have a point there, it's horrible when someone you find unattractive shows an unhealthy interest in you and gives just a tiny insight for what it must be like for attractive women who get this crap all the time.
My past two next door neighbours have both made too many comments for my liking and I've politely but firmly made it clear I would rather die.
One was a gay man in his 60s, smashing fella but camp as you like and entirely up front about everything.
His replacement is supposedly female, but frankly more of a man than I'll ever be.
It's hardly a compliment! | |
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