| Monday morning checkin 08:15 - Feb 8 with 3738 views | bluelagos |
Pinched from Keno...
How we all doing/fèeling/coping today guys?
Bottom line, we are all a week closer to normality whenever that may be :-) |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:54 - Feb 8 with 1312 views | factual_blue |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:45 - Feb 8 by giant_stow |
Cheers mr. We are indeed getitng close to seeing if the school could help us out, but are holding off cos of the pandemic and not wanting to put upon the school. The weird thing is, he's absolutely petrified of us letting his teacher know there's a problem - he saves all of this stuff for us - to everyone else, he's a charming little lad. It would almost be like betraying or outing him, but if we can't get a home-solution that works, we may have to.
Anyway, sorry all - too personal probably, but just needed a little chance to let it out. |
You let it out all you want.
I don't have any answers, but speaking to the school sounds like the way forward. They will, I'm sure, have encountered this sort of Jekyll and Hyde stuff before.
Good luck. |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:54 - Feb 8 with 1311 views | footers |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:52 - Feb 8 by factual_blue |
Hmmmm....... |
Coming from Lowestoft the bar of success is already set pretty low. The fact that I don't still wear velcro shoes is testament to my parents' parenting skills. |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:55 - Feb 8 with 1304 views | giant_stow |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:49 - Feb 8 by Ryorry |
Congrats to Hatch & sympathies to Ulla above!
Personally, getting fed up with life seeming to be no more than an endless succession of problems needing to be dealt with. Hey ho, many others are far worse off I know - massive sympathies to burnt out NHS & care staff, stressed out other keyworkers, and those cooped up in flats with kids & no outdoor space. Also those who've lost loved ones of course.
Meanwhile, heard a hugely useful & fascinating prog on BBC World Service this morning from 04.32-05.00 am, on how de-stressing & meditation is proving (following clinical study) to boost the immune system, esp against viruses, and particularly so if practiced just before and after Covid vaccination -
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3cszv70 |
looks interesting - ta. |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:56 - Feb 8 with 1302 views | giant_stow |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:49 - Feb 8 by clive_baker |
Sorry to hear that Ullaa.
Can't claim to know what it's like to parent a kid of 7 as my daughter is much younger, but the fear of letting his teacher know sounds encouraging to me. He certainly must know the difference between right and wrong, so it's in there somewhere. Perhaps he's just testing the boundaries as to what he can get away with and with whom.
Hope things improve for you soon. |
Yeah, you're bang on about right and wrong. Its always been a relief that he's not like this with anyone else. | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:57 - Feb 8 with 1302 views | giant_stow |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:54 - Feb 8 by factual_blue |
You let it out all you want.
I don't have any answers, but speaking to the school sounds like the way forward. They will, I'm sure, have encountered this sort of Jekyll and Hyde stuff before.
Good luck. |
"Jekyll and Hyde" - perfect description. Cheers factors. | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:58 - Feb 8 with 1300 views | Fixed_It |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:34 - Feb 8 by giant_stow |
After a weekend of battling Ullaa jr's behaviour, we're tired. The swearing and spitting are getting a little wearing - the kicks and punches don't yet hurt, so less annoying.
We're stuck - we don't know whether to come down hard or go softly softly and having tried both, we're not much the wiser.
There was a glimmer yesterday though. After a particularly grim session of spitting in my face and calling me effing this and that (he's 7), I sent him to his room for two hours and he actually stayed, depsite much crying. It's almost like he wanted to be kept on a tighter leash.
Felt rough doing it and he cried loudly and long. Tbh, it's getting to the point where we're half expecting a knock on the door from the social - I wouldn't blame our neighbours if they did make a call, given what they must be hearing day in day out.
Anyway, maybe coming down on him harder and sooner may help. "Zero Tollerance" if you like... Can hardly believe that's where we are as parents, but its seems like the last place left. |
Buy him an Ipswich shirt and bin the yellow and green monstrosity, and all will be fine...
Seriously, stick with it. It can be hard being a parent sometimes, but set out your groundrules and don't waver is the best advice I can give. And make some you and him time - go for walks, plenty of exercise etc. You'll be fine in the long run - he's just testing you out. Give in and you'll regret it. Stick to your guns, calmly, and he'll be much happier and better adjusted as a result. |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 11:58 - Feb 8 with 1303 views | bluelagos |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:47 - Feb 8 by footers |
Worked for my parents and I came out all right. |
Had some insightful conversations when I was teaching. First parents evening...
How is little xx behaving?
Yeah, all good.
You know if he misbehaves you can beat him?
Sorry? I can't hit the pupils, even if I wanted to
No, it's ok, just beat him, you have my permission, beat him.
Erm, yeah, ok, thanks for that...
Luckily parental attitudes have largely moved on from when we were kids even if the odd one is still "old school". | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:02 - Feb 8 with 1283 views | DropCliffsNotBombs |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:34 - Feb 8 by giant_stow |
After a weekend of battling Ullaa jr's behaviour, we're tired. The swearing and spitting are getting a little wearing - the kicks and punches don't yet hurt, so less annoying.
We're stuck - we don't know whether to come down hard or go softly softly and having tried both, we're not much the wiser.
There was a glimmer yesterday though. After a particularly grim session of spitting in my face and calling me effing this and that (he's 7), I sent him to his room for two hours and he actually stayed, depsite much crying. It's almost like he wanted to be kept on a tighter leash.
Felt rough doing it and he cried loudly and long. Tbh, it's getting to the point where we're half expecting a knock on the door from the social - I wouldn't blame our neighbours if they did make a call, given what they must be hearing day in day out.
Anyway, maybe coming down on him harder and sooner may help. "Zero Tollerance" if you like... Can hardly believe that's where we are as parents, but its seems like the last place left. |
Pm'd you mate |  | | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:04 - Feb 8 with 1277 views | footers |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:58 - Feb 8 by bluelagos |
Had some insightful conversations when I was teaching. First parents evening...
How is little xx behaving?
Yeah, all good.
You know if he misbehaves you can beat him?
Sorry? I can't hit the pupils, even if I wanted to
No, it's ok, just beat him, you have my permission, beat him.
Erm, yeah, ok, thanks for that...
Luckily parental attitudes have largely moved on from when we were kids even if the odd one is still "old school". |
Was that over here or in Nigeria?
But yeah, it's incredible how much things have changed recently. I'm a relative spring chicken compared to some of you lot but still got the slipper or put in the shoe cupboard if I was naughty. Grandad used to use the belt as well on occasion, albeit not very hard.
My dad was a bit more strange with his punishments, which I think were a symptom of boredom and personal frustration more than good parenting. Returning home from school one day he'd taken off all the doors, barring the front, back and bathroom doors, in the house and locked them in the shed. Why? Because someone had left one ajar that morning, one of his pet peeves. Same thing happened with lightbulbs.
But thankfully he didn't hang around much after that. | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:05 - Feb 8 with 1275 views | hoppy |
Good thread, Lagos, but I still think he should be moving these to a Friday...
Then we could indulge in a bit of “Keno Friday Check-in”, or KFC for short... |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:09 - Feb 8 with 1263 views | bluelagos |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:04 - Feb 8 by footers |
Was that over here or in Nigeria?
But yeah, it's incredible how much things have changed recently. I'm a relative spring chicken compared to some of you lot but still got the slipper or put in the shoe cupboard if I was naughty. Grandad used to use the belt as well on occasion, albeit not very hard.
My dad was a bit more strange with his punishments, which I think were a symptom of boredom and personal frustration more than good parenting. Returning home from school one day he'd taken off all the doors, barring the front, back and bathroom doors, in the house and locked them in the shed. Why? Because someone had left one ajar that morning, one of his pet peeves. Same thing happened with lightbulbs.
But thankfully he didn't hang around much after that. |
Surrey!
A primary in a working class area of urban deprivation.
(Surrey has a few, not many)
Some of the parents were proper rough - remember breaking up a fight at a school disco. Parents, not kids ffs.
Nigeria - I was doing the accounting - did a PGCE mid career before returning to the numbers. Really enjoyed it to be fair. | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:09 - Feb 8 with 1266 views | itfcjoe |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:45 - Feb 8 by giant_stow |
Cheers mr. We are indeed getitng close to seeing if the school could help us out, but are holding off cos of the pandemic and not wanting to put upon the school. The weird thing is, he's absolutely petrified of us letting his teacher know there's a problem - he saves all of this stuff for us - to everyone else, he's a charming little lad. It would almost be like betraying or outing him, but if we can't get a home-solution that works, we may have to.
Anyway, sorry all - too personal probably, but just needed a little chance to let it out. |
Don't try and be a hero, without sounding too blunt (it's not the intention) you clearly need some help with this - just trying to dig in and sort it out by yourself is likely going to fail.
I understand the need to not want to take advantage of the school and things like that, but they are there to help kids that end up vulnerable because they can't/won't work in a home schooling environment
I hope you don't find that this post oversteps the mark, but these seem serious behavioural issues - there isn't going to be one solution that solves them and you guys need to take help where it is available as no easy answers. Sure you will be far from the only ones feeling the pinch in this pandemic as it will mess up lots of peoples heads in different ways - suffering in silence helps no one |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:12 - Feb 8 with 1241 views | J2BLUE |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:34 - Feb 8 by giant_stow |
After a weekend of battling Ullaa jr's behaviour, we're tired. The swearing and spitting are getting a little wearing - the kicks and punches don't yet hurt, so less annoying.
We're stuck - we don't know whether to come down hard or go softly softly and having tried both, we're not much the wiser.
There was a glimmer yesterday though. After a particularly grim session of spitting in my face and calling me effing this and that (he's 7), I sent him to his room for two hours and he actually stayed, depsite much crying. It's almost like he wanted to be kept on a tighter leash.
Felt rough doing it and he cried loudly and long. Tbh, it's getting to the point where we're half expecting a knock on the door from the social - I wouldn't blame our neighbours if they did make a call, given what they must be hearing day in day out.
Anyway, maybe coming down on him harder and sooner may help. "Zero Tollerance" if you like... Can hardly believe that's where we are as parents, but its seems like the last place left. |
Tell him if he doesn't behave you'll make him support Ipswich. The threat of supporting a club with a squad a mere shadow of their glory years, who have underachieved for over a decade and have no hope of competing at teir desired level any time soo-...hang on, he's an Arsenal fan isn't he? |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:13 - Feb 8 with 1239 views | monytowbray |
Bored. |  |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:14 - Feb 8 with 1230 views | bluelagos |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:12 - Feb 8 by J2BLUE |
Tell him if he doesn't behave you'll make him support Ipswich. The threat of supporting a club with a squad a mere shadow of their glory years, who have underachieved for over a decade and have no hope of competing at teir desired level any time soo-...hang on, he's an Arsenal fan isn't he? |
Threatening him with being an Ipswich fan? Poor little sod is struggling as it is! | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:15 - Feb 8 with 1225 views | J2BLUE |
| Monday morning checkin on 11:09 - Feb 8 by hatch |
Thanks all - took guidance from Marcus Evans. When everything is looking sh*t and the future is bleak - commit someone to a long-term contract.... |
Lets hope the next pandemic doesn't mess up your break clauses.
Congrats! | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:16 - Feb 8 with 1219 views | J2BLUE |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:13 - Feb 8 by monytowbray |
Bored. |
Me too. Fancy a 27 page argument you vegan cock? | |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:20 - Feb 8 with 1209 views | Keno |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:16 - Feb 8 by J2BLUE |
Me too. Fancy a 27 page argument you vegan cock? |
vegan cock
is that an oxymoron? |  |
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| A coxymoron? (n/t) on 12:22 - Feb 8 with 1202 views | Bloots |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:20 - Feb 8 by Keno |
vegan cock
is that an oxymoron? |
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| "The sooner he comes back the better, this place has been a disaster without him" - TWTD User (July 2025) |
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| A coxymoron? (n/t) on 12:32 - Feb 8 with 1178 views | Keno |
| A coxymoron? (n/t) on 12:22 - Feb 8 by Bloots |
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that may just be your best ever post | |
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| Nah, I did one..... on 12:35 - Feb 8 with 1177 views | Bloots |
| A coxymoron? (n/t) on 12:32 - Feb 8 by Keno |
that may just be your best ever post |
....in 2016 that got 3 upvotes.
What a day that was. | |
| "The sooner he comes back the better, this place has been a disaster without him" - TWTD User (July 2025) |
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| your second proudest moment? (n/t) on 12:40 - Feb 8 with 1160 views | Keno |
| Nah, I did one..... on 12:35 - Feb 8 by Bloots |
....in 2016 that got 3 upvotes.
What a day that was. |
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| Monday morning checkin on 12:42 - Feb 8 with 1155 views | Ryorry |
| Monday morning checkin on 12:09 - Feb 8 by bluelagos |
Surrey!
A primary in a working class area of urban deprivation.
(Surrey has a few, not many)
Some of the parents were proper rough - remember breaking up a fight at a school disco. Parents, not kids ffs.
Nigeria - I was doing the accounting - did a PGCE mid career before returning to the numbers. Really enjoyed it to be fair. |
Sure everyone knows, but just to underline it - doesn't have to be in a working class or urban deprivation area, nor "proper rough" parents for child abuse to take place. Sadly. |  |
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| Nah, I did one..... on 12:47 - Feb 8 with 1146 views | hoppy |
| Nah, I did one..... on 12:35 - Feb 8 by Bloots |
....in 2016 that got 3 upvotes.
What a day that was. |
I remember that one.
It was a Tuesday.
It was raining. | |
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| Nah, I did one..... on 12:49 - Feb 8 with 1142 views | DropCliffsNotBombs |
| Nah, I did one..... on 12:35 - Feb 8 by Bloots |
....in 2016 that got 3 upvotes.
What a day that was. |
Ah yeah, about that, think I accidentally upvoted rather than downed. Will go back and amend. | | | |
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