| Some guidance required 16:04 - Jan 10 with 8371 views | Reus30 |
I think I have been clear over the past 12 months plus about my working situation.
I had a meeting with a counterpart who is very close with the big boss and he made some very strange comments about my position within the business.
Basically he ruined my christmas by making me fear for my job.
Now, this sort of weird behaviour where it seems I am being pushed out has continued to the point where I am getting very angry about it - I feel it is intentional. On several occasions this week, I thought about requesting a meeting with the big boss straight up to ask wtf is going on. Just to add, me and the BB have a good working relationship albeit it has been a bit strained recently.
I have had a thought, if this is the case (and I do think it is), is it wise of me to have a discussion and request redundancy and PILON and just move on?
To be honest, life has drastically changed over Xmas and I really considering just packing up and moving away from my current situation. My support system is now non-existent and I just think, I need a break - take the money, get on a plane and calm tf down.
So TWTD, would you just go for it and shoot straight and try and get a payout? Should be another to live off for 5 months as a statutory minimum. [Post edited 10 Jan 16:04]
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| Some guidance required on 20:09 - Jan 10 with 2421 views | WeWereZombies |
https://www.gov.uk/employment-tribunals
'You can make a claim to an employment tribunal if you think someone has treated you unlawfully, such as your employer, a potential employer or a trade union.
Unlawful treatment can include:
unfair dismissal
discrimination at work
breach of contract
unauthorised deductions from your pay' |  |
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| Some guidance required on 20:44 - Jan 10 with 2393 views | SmithersJones |
| Some guidance required on 20:09 - Jan 10 by WeWereZombies |
https://www.gov.uk/employment-tribunals
'You can make a claim to an employment tribunal if you think someone has treated you unlawfully, such as your employer, a potential employer or a trade union.
Unlawful treatment can include:
unfair dismissal
discrimination at work
breach of contract
unauthorised deductions from your pay' |
This is true, but a tribunal will also ask what steps have been taken to resolve the matter within the company. |  | | |
| Some guidance required on 21:41 - Jan 10 with 2357 views | DJR |
| Some guidance required on 18:51 - Jan 10 by Hugoagogo_Reborn |
Excellent summary of other posts and pearls of wisdom of your own, there, Churchers. |
Yep. Top post. |  | | |
| Some guidance required on 07:59 - Jan 11 with 2298 views | Reus30 |
Thank you to everyone for your comments, they are all greatly appreciated 🙏.
Just a note, it's not been as long as 10 years but I realised my answer may have doxed myself so I adjusted it.
As noted, maybe I am putting two and two together and getting 17 with my clouded judgment but my gut just tells me something is awry.
First things first today, CV and start on the old network/job board.
When back on Monday, just listen, take notes of anything concerning and be patient. Once the time is appropriate, I will raise a concern with the boss without the mention of redundancy. As commented, it will probably kill any leverage but if I just play this sensibly and remain calm, hopefully things will work out ok.
I do really appreciate everyone's thoughts, really helped clear my mind and put something in place and I will take everything on board. Thank you. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 10:27 - Jan 11 with 2258 views | Churchman |
| Some guidance required on 07:59 - Jan 11 by Reus30 |
Thank you to everyone for your comments, they are all greatly appreciated 🙏.
Just a note, it's not been as long as 10 years but I realised my answer may have doxed myself so I adjusted it.
As noted, maybe I am putting two and two together and getting 17 with my clouded judgment but my gut just tells me something is awry.
First things first today, CV and start on the old network/job board.
When back on Monday, just listen, take notes of anything concerning and be patient. Once the time is appropriate, I will raise a concern with the boss without the mention of redundancy. As commented, it will probably kill any leverage but if I just play this sensibly and remain calm, hopefully things will work out ok.
I do really appreciate everyone's thoughts, really helped clear my mind and put something in place and I will take everything on board. Thank you. |
And finally before leaving you in peace:
If you are going to spend time on this today, make sure you take a complete break from it tomorrow.
You do not have to do anything Monday or any other day until you are prepared and ready. Watch, listen, be professional. Patience. Even if you are ablaze inside, they don’t have to see that.
If or when you meet your boss, remember you will be asking to meet him. It is your meeting. Meetings are like books. They have a start (introduction), middle and end. An agenda. So be clear on what you want to achieve from it. You can even map out what responses you might get before it. Bit like chess. It’ll help you feel in control. It’ll be you asking the questions.
Whatever you do, remain calm and organised. You might have a burning desire to clobber him or just call him every name under the sun. Nothing to be gained in that. You are in control. Remain so. If you are sideswiped with an unexpected question or comment, you can always buy time with ‘I’ll have a think about it’, ‘I’ll come back to you’ etc.
There is no ‘hopefully’. Things will work out. The trick is to get them to work out in a way that’s best for you. You are employed for a reason. If they cannot see your value, that’s their loss. And that’s where behind the scenes CV, looking at opportunities in your working world or even consider changing careers is so important. All these things are your cards, not theirs.
It can be quite lonely going through this sort of thing and sometimes it’s hard to believe there will be a good outcome when times are tough in the workplace. But many people have to deal the sort of thing you are going through and things do work out ok. The trick is to do your best to make them work out to your advantage.
Good luck and don’t forget to switch off! Even if that’s raging over ITFC screwing up the FA Cup 3rd round as we usually do in cup competitions. |  | | |
| Some guidance required on 10:33 - Jan 11 with 2242 views | DJR |
| Some guidance required on 07:59 - Jan 11 by Reus30 |
Thank you to everyone for your comments, they are all greatly appreciated 🙏.
Just a note, it's not been as long as 10 years but I realised my answer may have doxed myself so I adjusted it.
As noted, maybe I am putting two and two together and getting 17 with my clouded judgment but my gut just tells me something is awry.
First things first today, CV and start on the old network/job board.
When back on Monday, just listen, take notes of anything concerning and be patient. Once the time is appropriate, I will raise a concern with the boss without the mention of redundancy. As commented, it will probably kill any leverage but if I just play this sensibly and remain calm, hopefully things will work out ok.
I do really appreciate everyone's thoughts, really helped clear my mind and put something in place and I will take everything on board. Thank you. |
Try also to make a post-dated note of what has gone on up to now. As long as not too much time has passed, it's often not difficult to do this. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 11:10 - Jan 11 with 2216 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
| Some guidance required on 17:01 - Jan 10 by BloomBlue |
Not sure about asking for redundancy. Things maybe different at your company, but when I worked (many,many years ago) if someone asked for redundancy we said no, and just kept f**king them off. The idea being, if someone was asking for redundancy they're already at that stage of really thinking about leaving so keep plssing them off, and they will resign, saving the company a redundancy package. |
I would assume you spent a lot on constructive dismissal compensation.
Advice to the OP if you are going down that route (or might do) keep as much evidence as possible of all interactions that are persuading you to leave. |  |
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| Some guidance required on 13:44 - Jan 11 with 2191 views | Ryorry |
| Some guidance required on 07:59 - Jan 11 by Reus30 |
Thank you to everyone for your comments, they are all greatly appreciated 🙏.
Just a note, it's not been as long as 10 years but I realised my answer may have doxed myself so I adjusted it.
As noted, maybe I am putting two and two together and getting 17 with my clouded judgment but my gut just tells me something is awry.
First things first today, CV and start on the old network/job board.
When back on Monday, just listen, take notes of anything concerning and be patient. Once the time is appropriate, I will raise a concern with the boss without the mention of redundancy. As commented, it will probably kill any leverage but if I just play this sensibly and remain calm, hopefully things will work out ok.
I do really appreciate everyone's thoughts, really helped clear my mind and put something in place and I will take everything on board. Thank you. |
As well as all the excellent advice to date, I'd just add that
1. Your very writing of the OP shows that you're unhappy & stressed at work.
2. Leaving an unhappy & stressful workplace can be a massive relief (voice of experience, did so from one toxic local social services office - guess what, 30 (thirty) years later happened to bump into someone working there now who told me that it's still the same - toxic! Perennial lack of funding/resources & consequent understaffing doesn't help. (Albeit your situation may not be as bad).
3. Situation can be used as a springboard to go on to different, or much better ones if you want. Life path fork.
4. So you hold the cards :) |  |
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| Some guidance required on 20:00 - Jan 11 with 2099 views | BlueandTruesince82 |
| Some guidance required on 16:33 - Jan 10 by Reus30 |
So go for the approach? I don't even know if this is theoretically on the table.
To be honest, it's such a weird situation. I won't go into too much delete as I don't want to dox incase but with each passing day, responsibilities are shifting and some of the behaviour is making me angry to the point of me wanting to explode with rage (which I think might be the purpose of it).
If I approach, my cards have been shown in that case and they may push further underhand tactics to get me out without any sort of payout. But if I don't ask wtf is going on, I'm sat here in limbo more and more annoyed and unproductive. |
Start keeping a log, dates, times exactly what ms said. Any instance of such behaviour and anything that can support it.
If it comes to the worst and you end up pursuing constructive dismissal this will be helpful |  |
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| Some guidance required on 17:51 - Jan 12 with 1975 views | flykickingbybgunn |
| Some guidance required on 10:27 - Jan 11 by Churchman |
And finally before leaving you in peace:
If you are going to spend time on this today, make sure you take a complete break from it tomorrow.
You do not have to do anything Monday or any other day until you are prepared and ready. Watch, listen, be professional. Patience. Even if you are ablaze inside, they don’t have to see that.
If or when you meet your boss, remember you will be asking to meet him. It is your meeting. Meetings are like books. They have a start (introduction), middle and end. An agenda. So be clear on what you want to achieve from it. You can even map out what responses you might get before it. Bit like chess. It’ll help you feel in control. It’ll be you asking the questions.
Whatever you do, remain calm and organised. You might have a burning desire to clobber him or just call him every name under the sun. Nothing to be gained in that. You are in control. Remain so. If you are sideswiped with an unexpected question or comment, you can always buy time with ‘I’ll have a think about it’, ‘I’ll come back to you’ etc.
There is no ‘hopefully’. Things will work out. The trick is to get them to work out in a way that’s best for you. You are employed for a reason. If they cannot see your value, that’s their loss. And that’s where behind the scenes CV, looking at opportunities in your working world or even consider changing careers is so important. All these things are your cards, not theirs.
It can be quite lonely going through this sort of thing and sometimes it’s hard to believe there will be a good outcome when times are tough in the workplace. But many people have to deal the sort of thing you are going through and things do work out ok. The trick is to do your best to make them work out to your advantage.
Good luck and don’t forget to switch off! Even if that’s raging over ITFC screwing up the FA Cup 3rd round as we usually do in cup competitions. |
Good words.
Also remember that there are employment solicitors out there. Spending half an hour with one might be useful.
Last year my sister was being hounded out of her job. The bloke offered her £4k to leave.
After taking legal advice and a couple of letters she left with £27k.
Good luck to you. |  | | |
| Some guidance required on 14:49 - Jan 13 with 1888 views | Reus30 |
Mini update: My presence is requested tomorrow morning for a brief P&C discussion.
I will soon have the clarity I need maybe. I certainly feel much better today after a good Saturday updating all my LinkedIn and searches, CV etc so again, appreciate all the notes and wise words. Sometimes you just need that alternative set of eyes to just get level headed.
Planning for my side as we speak but we will see if the meeting is actually relevant to what is expected. It could be something about heating for all I know! But I am addressing my concerns tomorrow (in a calm, sensible, well thought out manner) regardless. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 15:03 - Jan 13 with 1875 views | TractorWood |
| Some guidance required on 14:49 - Jan 13 by Reus30 |
Mini update: My presence is requested tomorrow morning for a brief P&C discussion.
I will soon have the clarity I need maybe. I certainly feel much better today after a good Saturday updating all my LinkedIn and searches, CV etc so again, appreciate all the notes and wise words. Sometimes you just need that alternative set of eyes to just get level headed.
Planning for my side as we speak but we will see if the meeting is actually relevant to what is expected. It could be something about heating for all I know! But I am addressing my concerns tomorrow (in a calm, sensible, well thought out manner) regardless. |
No specific advice other than to say you are doing all the right stuff and you feel in a good place given the circumstances.
Good luck. |  |
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| Some guidance required on 10:36 - Jan 14 with 1760 views | flykickingbybgunn |
| Some guidance required on 14:49 - Jan 13 by Reus30 |
Mini update: My presence is requested tomorrow morning for a brief P&C discussion.
I will soon have the clarity I need maybe. I certainly feel much better today after a good Saturday updating all my LinkedIn and searches, CV etc so again, appreciate all the notes and wise words. Sometimes you just need that alternative set of eyes to just get level headed.
Planning for my side as we speak but we will see if the meeting is actually relevant to what is expected. It could be something about heating for all I know! But I am addressing my concerns tomorrow (in a calm, sensible, well thought out manner) regardless. |
Keep calm. Never, ever, lose your rag. No matter how much your are provoked.
Good luck | | | |
| Some guidance required on 14:12 - Jan 14 with 1665 views | Reus30 |
Probably a final update for now.
Firstly, I really really really cannot thank everyone enough for their input. It really means a lot and it certainly helped.
The original request for the meeting was not intended to be about me personally, it was actually someone else being released from their position (which sucks!).
However, I had a clear plan in mind and couldn't go on any further without bringing it to the table so I planned out and said my piece. I explained what had occurred pre-xmas and asked straight out (polite, assertive but professional) should I be concerned about my current position.
Long story short - no. There are concerns about my workload and my department as a whole but I was advised that I am wanted and I do good work. Unfortunately that means no payout for me but a job is better than no job I guess.
After listening to the response, I gave reciprocal feedback saying I wanted to stay and we have a lunch offer with some other senior management in the diary. I am no longer trusting so I will be weary of anything said and conscious of what I say.
Obviously the situation is still toxic and lord knows what will happen to some of my colleagues so I am just noting everything down and continuing on my hunt for pastures new. Maybe something positive will come later in 2025 but for now, just keep my head down and let's see what happens.
There's me hoping I would have enough money to hop on a plane and spend time globe trotting! | | | |
| Some guidance required on 14:17 - Jan 14 with 1652 views | The_Flashing_Smile |
| Some guidance required on 14:49 - Jan 13 by Reus30 |
Mini update: My presence is requested tomorrow morning for a brief P&C discussion.
I will soon have the clarity I need maybe. I certainly feel much better today after a good Saturday updating all my LinkedIn and searches, CV etc so again, appreciate all the notes and wise words. Sometimes you just need that alternative set of eyes to just get level headed.
Planning for my side as we speak but we will see if the meeting is actually relevant to what is expected. It could be something about heating for all I know! But I am addressing my concerns tomorrow (in a calm, sensible, well thought out manner) regardless. |
What's a P&C discussion? |  |
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| Some guidance required on 16:29 - Jan 14 with 1604 views | Pinewoodblue |
Had assumed he meant PnC (people & culture) |  |
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| Some guidance required on 16:33 - Jan 14 with 1587 views | Reus30 |
Sorry, private and confidential.
Too many acronyms - bad habit. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 16:35 - Jan 14 with 1582 views | blueasfook |
| Some guidance required on 16:33 - Jan 14 by Reus30 |
Sorry, private and confidential.
Too many acronyms - bad habit. |
Don't let them fob you off with empty promises. Ask for a timeline for anything they may promise you. If they are reticent and dont promise you anything, then that's your cue to ship out. |  |
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| Some guidance required on 17:02 - Jan 14 with 1556 views | DJR |
| Some guidance required on 14:12 - Jan 14 by Reus30 |
Probably a final update for now.
Firstly, I really really really cannot thank everyone enough for their input. It really means a lot and it certainly helped.
The original request for the meeting was not intended to be about me personally, it was actually someone else being released from their position (which sucks!).
However, I had a clear plan in mind and couldn't go on any further without bringing it to the table so I planned out and said my piece. I explained what had occurred pre-xmas and asked straight out (polite, assertive but professional) should I be concerned about my current position.
Long story short - no. There are concerns about my workload and my department as a whole but I was advised that I am wanted and I do good work. Unfortunately that means no payout for me but a job is better than no job I guess.
After listening to the response, I gave reciprocal feedback saying I wanted to stay and we have a lunch offer with some other senior management in the diary. I am no longer trusting so I will be weary of anything said and conscious of what I say.
Obviously the situation is still toxic and lord knows what will happen to some of my colleagues so I am just noting everything down and continuing on my hunt for pastures new. Maybe something positive will come later in 2025 but for now, just keep my head down and let's see what happens.
There's me hoping I would have enough money to hop on a plane and spend time globe trotting! |
I think that's a good outcome because it means you don't have to act in haste, with things not being under your control. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 17:15 - Jan 14 with 1522 views | SmithersJones |
| Some guidance required on 14:12 - Jan 14 by Reus30 |
Probably a final update for now.
Firstly, I really really really cannot thank everyone enough for their input. It really means a lot and it certainly helped.
The original request for the meeting was not intended to be about me personally, it was actually someone else being released from their position (which sucks!).
However, I had a clear plan in mind and couldn't go on any further without bringing it to the table so I planned out and said my piece. I explained what had occurred pre-xmas and asked straight out (polite, assertive but professional) should I be concerned about my current position.
Long story short - no. There are concerns about my workload and my department as a whole but I was advised that I am wanted and I do good work. Unfortunately that means no payout for me but a job is better than no job I guess.
After listening to the response, I gave reciprocal feedback saying I wanted to stay and we have a lunch offer with some other senior management in the diary. I am no longer trusting so I will be weary of anything said and conscious of what I say.
Obviously the situation is still toxic and lord knows what will happen to some of my colleagues so I am just noting everything down and continuing on my hunt for pastures new. Maybe something positive will come later in 2025 but for now, just keep my head down and let's see what happens.
There's me hoping I would have enough money to hop on a plane and spend time globe trotting! |
Glad it went well. The assurance that you’re valued and they’re happy with your work is more than just empty words. It basically makes it very difficult for them to have a conversation later down the line saying “your work hasn’t been up to scratch for a while”. Assuming “they” were authorised to give an opinion (and it sounds like they were if they’re also discussing someone else’s dismissal) then the clock is at zero. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 21:17 - Mar 14 with 903 views | Reus30 |
| Some guidance required on 17:02 - Jan 14 by DJR |
I think that's a good outcome because it means you don't have to act in haste, with things not being under your control. |
It was a good outcome at the time but boy has it all hit the preverbal fan.
I have taken onboard every comment on here and incredibly appreciative. I am not going to lie but the last two months have been a workplace nightmare. I have let it bleed into my personal life and I let it nearly take everything away from me; it's too much and it isn't going to change. Tried time off, tried meditation, tried to focus my energy elsewhere but no dice. Just poor management attitudes, no humanisation of colleagues and everyone is miserable.
It's the most toxic environment I have witnessed in the workplace. On two occasions in the past month, I just walked out to either sit in the park or go home to sit in a dark corner. I have documented as much as I possibly can and I have saved all my relevant HR and contractual documents.
So I handed in my notice this week and the clock has started. I don't have a job lined up, I have a small backup to carry me through if I don't get a job before my clock runs out but I have spoken to the people around me and they are all supportive. I am terrified because of a mortgage and responsibilities but I felt free just unloading it and getting the support I need. I can't wait to put this in the past and just shake off this stain of bs. And I can't wait to take something on that is meaningful work again and be passionate and enjoy work.
Sorry, just wanted to relieve myself. Feels so good. It's like just sticking two fingers to people who deserve it. *exhales* I will be seeing what I can do about employment law as maybe I have a case but to be honest, I just want to be free. | | | |
| Some guidance required on 21:32 - Mar 14 with 882 views | redrickstuhaart |
| Some guidance required on 21:17 - Mar 14 by Reus30 |
It was a good outcome at the time but boy has it all hit the preverbal fan.
I have taken onboard every comment on here and incredibly appreciative. I am not going to lie but the last two months have been a workplace nightmare. I have let it bleed into my personal life and I let it nearly take everything away from me; it's too much and it isn't going to change. Tried time off, tried meditation, tried to focus my energy elsewhere but no dice. Just poor management attitudes, no humanisation of colleagues and everyone is miserable.
It's the most toxic environment I have witnessed in the workplace. On two occasions in the past month, I just walked out to either sit in the park or go home to sit in a dark corner. I have documented as much as I possibly can and I have saved all my relevant HR and contractual documents.
So I handed in my notice this week and the clock has started. I don't have a job lined up, I have a small backup to carry me through if I don't get a job before my clock runs out but I have spoken to the people around me and they are all supportive. I am terrified because of a mortgage and responsibilities but I felt free just unloading it and getting the support I need. I can't wait to put this in the past and just shake off this stain of bs. And I can't wait to take something on that is meaningful work again and be passionate and enjoy work.
Sorry, just wanted to relieve myself. Feels so good. It's like just sticking two fingers to people who deserve it. *exhales* I will be seeing what I can do about employment law as maybe I have a case but to be honest, I just want to be free. |
Speak to mortgage co early. Invite a payment holiday. Dont wait until its a problem.... | | | |
| Some guidance required on 13:49 - Mar 15 with 735 views | Hugoagogo_Reborn |
| Some guidance required on 21:17 - Mar 14 by Reus30 |
It was a good outcome at the time but boy has it all hit the preverbal fan.
I have taken onboard every comment on here and incredibly appreciative. I am not going to lie but the last two months have been a workplace nightmare. I have let it bleed into my personal life and I let it nearly take everything away from me; it's too much and it isn't going to change. Tried time off, tried meditation, tried to focus my energy elsewhere but no dice. Just poor management attitudes, no humanisation of colleagues and everyone is miserable.
It's the most toxic environment I have witnessed in the workplace. On two occasions in the past month, I just walked out to either sit in the park or go home to sit in a dark corner. I have documented as much as I possibly can and I have saved all my relevant HR and contractual documents.
So I handed in my notice this week and the clock has started. I don't have a job lined up, I have a small backup to carry me through if I don't get a job before my clock runs out but I have spoken to the people around me and they are all supportive. I am terrified because of a mortgage and responsibilities but I felt free just unloading it and getting the support I need. I can't wait to put this in the past and just shake off this stain of bs. And I can't wait to take something on that is meaningful work again and be passionate and enjoy work.
Sorry, just wanted to relieve myself. Feels so good. It's like just sticking two fingers to people who deserve it. *exhales* I will be seeing what I can do about employment law as maybe I have a case but to be honest, I just want to be free. |
I'm so pleased for you. You've made the right decision. No amount of money is more important than your mental and physical health, or your relationships with your friends and loved ones.
I've walked from a job with nothing else lined up, and it can be scary, but it will come good in the end. If the toxic employers admitted they were pleased with your work and application, then a good employer will easily see that in you.
Best wishes for the job hunting, and I'd advise only going down the tribunal route if you feel it won't negatively impact your health. |  | | |
| Some guidance required on 19:53 - Mar 15 with 655 views | football |
| Some guidance required on 21:17 - Mar 14 by Reus30 |
It was a good outcome at the time but boy has it all hit the preverbal fan.
I have taken onboard every comment on here and incredibly appreciative. I am not going to lie but the last two months have been a workplace nightmare. I have let it bleed into my personal life and I let it nearly take everything away from me; it's too much and it isn't going to change. Tried time off, tried meditation, tried to focus my energy elsewhere but no dice. Just poor management attitudes, no humanisation of colleagues and everyone is miserable.
It's the most toxic environment I have witnessed in the workplace. On two occasions in the past month, I just walked out to either sit in the park or go home to sit in a dark corner. I have documented as much as I possibly can and I have saved all my relevant HR and contractual documents.
So I handed in my notice this week and the clock has started. I don't have a job lined up, I have a small backup to carry me through if I don't get a job before my clock runs out but I have spoken to the people around me and they are all supportive. I am terrified because of a mortgage and responsibilities but I felt free just unloading it and getting the support I need. I can't wait to put this in the past and just shake off this stain of bs. And I can't wait to take something on that is meaningful work again and be passionate and enjoy work.
Sorry, just wanted to relieve myself. Feels so good. It's like just sticking two fingers to people who deserve it. *exhales* I will be seeing what I can do about employment law as maybe I have a case but to be honest, I just want to be free. |
Just picking up on this - sorry to read the issues, but I am a firm believer that things will work out for the better.
I was made redundant two years ago - like you there were signs and I really wasn't happy.
I got a payout, but annoyingly it was my position being made redundant not me, so I got heavily taxed on my payout (still not forgiven them for that!).
I was petrified, I won't lie. Having recently become single my first thought was how the hell will I keep a roof over the kids heads and pay the bills
I initially started contracting then was offered a role permanently. Although I am now moving on again, the being made redundant (I probably woudl have left if not) was the best thing that could happen - I am happier, have better work life balance, less stress and dread of going in the office and to top it off earn a lot more money than I did before.
The moral is that sometimes you need to make tough choices but things will work out. At the ned of the day, as I tell my team - you work to live, not live to work!
Good luck and hope all works out well | | | |
| Some guidance required on 20:03 - Mar 15 with 636 views | Nutkins_Return |
| Some guidance required on 21:17 - Mar 14 by Reus30 |
It was a good outcome at the time but boy has it all hit the preverbal fan.
I have taken onboard every comment on here and incredibly appreciative. I am not going to lie but the last two months have been a workplace nightmare. I have let it bleed into my personal life and I let it nearly take everything away from me; it's too much and it isn't going to change. Tried time off, tried meditation, tried to focus my energy elsewhere but no dice. Just poor management attitudes, no humanisation of colleagues and everyone is miserable.
It's the most toxic environment I have witnessed in the workplace. On two occasions in the past month, I just walked out to either sit in the park or go home to sit in a dark corner. I have documented as much as I possibly can and I have saved all my relevant HR and contractual documents.
So I handed in my notice this week and the clock has started. I don't have a job lined up, I have a small backup to carry me through if I don't get a job before my clock runs out but I have spoken to the people around me and they are all supportive. I am terrified because of a mortgage and responsibilities but I felt free just unloading it and getting the support I need. I can't wait to put this in the past and just shake off this stain of bs. And I can't wait to take something on that is meaningful work again and be passionate and enjoy work.
Sorry, just wanted to relieve myself. Feels so good. It's like just sticking two fingers to people who deserve it. *exhales* I will be seeing what I can do about employment law as maybe I have a case but to be honest, I just want to be free. |
Fair play to you man! Sounds horrific but just the fact you have had to walk out and sit in a park shows this was getting serious for your mental health and you have done the right thing and you've owned it.
Good luck in the job hunt. Even if you have to take something to settle down go for it. If it allows you some stress free time then go for it. | |
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