| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone 18:51 - Jan 21 with 9999 views | Swailsey |
For seemingly no reason?
A fairly good friend (not amazing but reasonable, who I have known for 15 years) suddenly stopped replying to my messages and then when I asked if everything was ok, I was blocked on WhatsApp.
I honestly can’t think of any logical reason for this, and whilst it’s slightly upsetting, it’s also quite hard not to self-reflect to the point of insanity. Maybe they have something else going on in their life? Maybe they were overwhelmed? Are these legitimate reasons?
All very strange. [Post edited 21 Jan 18:52]
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 18:56 - Jan 21 with 6238 views | WicklowBlue |
Yes exactly the same here. One of my best friends from Secondary School used to hang out have beers every weekend for years. Then suddenly he stopped all contact no reason given, defriended me on all socials wouldn't reply back.
However, he had gone down the rabbit hole in terms of wifi, electromagnetic stuff etc. Haven't heard a thing from him for 7 plus years real shame. [Post edited 21 Jan 18:57]
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 18:57 - Jan 21 with 6212 views | Dubtractor |
Do they leave matches early maybe?
More serious answer, no not happened to me, but if it did I would also try analyse what had happened to the point of insanity. Can imagine it has probably occupied more of your brain space than is healthy. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 18:59 - Jan 21 with 6176 views | dickie |
Do you have any mutual friends you could ask if it's happened to them to? (or if they have an idea why it's happened) |  | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:00 - Jan 21 with 6174 views | gainsboroughblue |
I've had similar. Not been blocked and they would read my messages, just would never reply or initiate any further contact.
When I finally caught up with them, turned out they just needed space away from people in general and things are ok again now, this was 2/3 years ago.
Do you know for sure they have blocked you? They may have just disabled the app and just need some head space. It's always difficult to tell and the uncertainty is bound to get you overthinking things. Feel free to pm me. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:01 - Jan 21 with 6144 views | Ryorry |
A third party spreading fake info, whether genuine misinformation or deliberate/malicious?
Not nice, whichever. Any mutual friends able to gain more insight? |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:02 - Jan 21 with 6110 views | bournemouthblue |
I have a distant friend who had done that and it was a bit sinister too
She has cut off all her friends, far closer than me, has been pleading people for money and she has been spending her evenings sending credits to TikTokers |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:19 - Jan 21 with 5925 views | Wacko |
Chances are it's nothing personal against you.
Happened to me and the guy was struggling career-wise and wanted (reluctantly) to leave the industry / community we were part of so cut off everyone - including those way closer to him than me | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:20 - Jan 21 with 5917 views | Hugoagogo_Reborn |
Yes. I asked what was wrong, got no response. Told them if I offended them in any way I was sorry. They replied "apology accepted" then ignored me for a year. Still no idea what happened, but extended an olive branch and said we could just draw a line and start again, and now things have improved.
It's not as it was, but it's better, and I'd rather restore the relationship than get hung up on the whys and wherefores. I did struggle with the rejection for a while, though. In the end, it was a good lesson in resilience for me. Hopefully you will get a bit of personal growth from it too, if nothing else. X |  | | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:47 - Jan 21 with 5639 views | Churchman |
Don’t worry about it. It happens.
I had a very close friend for a number of years. One day she stopped calling, refused to answer the phone to me (pre internet) and that was that. I wondered for a long time why, but came to realise that people do things for all sorts of reasons that are usually nothing to do with oneself.
It’s just part of life’s journey. |  | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:52 - Jan 21 with 5581 views | GavTWTD |
Yes, by 2 different people. One of them did it a few times with no real reason and a feint apology. I say no real reason, I'm sure they had one, but just needed a break. Wasn't an issue with me. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 20:51 - Jan 21 with 5276 views | cressi |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:52 - Jan 21 by GavTWTD |
Yes, by 2 different people. One of them did it a few times with no real reason and a feint apology. I say no real reason, I'm sure they had one, but just needed a break. Wasn't an issue with me. |
Friends with a bloke over 30yrs worked with him football etc.
He moved away but came this way to see his family and we would meet up for a beer then he stopped replying to texts so I gave up trying after a bit I don't worry as I don't believe I did anything to upset them I don't know or understand what goes through their minds but hey ho | | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 20:58 - Jan 21 with 5190 views | greyhound |
I had this happen to me year before last. Its mentally extremely tough. I found it affecting me in all sorts of ways. I went to the gym with this lad daily, spoke on the phone every night for hours, had 2 businesses set up with him and then one day nothing.
He had been round mine the previous day for coffee and cakes and i was feeling in a bit of a bad spot anyway and felt like I may have been a bit non responsive and always question whether that did it.
Anyway long story short, I still write to him monthly across various channels in the hope he will one day reply, send him the odd pic of where I am, when I have a good time or difficult time I write it and send to him. He never reads it, I don't know why I do it, but when he used to be in contact thats where all my answers were.
It sounds extreme but I was so angry and I understood so little about it that I needed a distraction, so I started going to church to find a different group of people and because I felt I needed to learn forgiveness. Its resulted in a really amazing new friendship group of blokes obsessed by football, and gives me 1 hour a week to reflect on things in a different space. Church isn't for everyone and I'm certainly no strict follower of jesus, but I've turned a bad situation into something which I genuinely believe has made me mentally better | | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:05 - Jan 21 with 5124 views | Swailsey |
Wow. A really enlightening thread. Thank you for sharing your stories. I’m sorry so many of you have gone through that, and I appreciate you opening some of those wounds so to speak. [Post edited 21 Jan 22:18]
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:06 - Jan 21 with 5115 views | Lord_Lucan |
It's a weirdo thing to do.
My wifes brother did it to their mum and dad.
Completely bonkers.
If you want to cut ties then have the balls to explain why.
Fruitcakes. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:09 - Jan 21 with 5088 views | Ryorry |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:47 - Jan 21 by Churchman |
Don’t worry about it. It happens.
I had a very close friend for a number of years. One day she stopped calling, refused to answer the phone to me (pre internet) and that was that. I wondered for a long time why, but came to realise that people do things for all sorts of reasons that are usually nothing to do with oneself.
It’s just part of life’s journey. |
Had similar once, friend living abroad. Turned out she was developing dementia, very sad. | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:16 - Jan 21 with 5031 views | greyhound |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:09 - Jan 21 by Ryorry |
Had similar once, friend living abroad. Turned out she was developing dementia, very sad. |
I have realised over time that in my case the other party may be seriously depressed and have gotten into a bit of a muddle. I even tried contacting directly through his dad and was assured he was trying to get him to speak to me. Nothing.
I often wonder when I'll stop feeling a bit lost from it all. I've had my support network offer to drive me to the guys house to have a bit of a group chat about it face to face, I've always declined because I never see what good it will do. It just maintains a mystery that has so many outstanding questions. He's good mates with Harry Clarke funnily enough and I often wonder if they still speak. | | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:34 - Jan 21 with 4867 views | Ryorry |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:16 - Jan 21 by greyhound |
I have realised over time that in my case the other party may be seriously depressed and have gotten into a bit of a muddle. I even tried contacting directly through his dad and was assured he was trying to get him to speak to me. Nothing.
I often wonder when I'll stop feeling a bit lost from it all. I've had my support network offer to drive me to the guys house to have a bit of a group chat about it face to face, I've always declined because I never see what good it will do. It just maintains a mystery that has so many outstanding questions. He's good mates with Harry Clarke funnily enough and I often wonder if they still speak. |
It does leave you feeling bereft I agree - you don’t have the chance to say goodbye. My friend and her husband (who had died a few years previously) and who were a bit older than me and ex, but younger friends of my parents, had stood in sort of loco parentis for me at our wedding, as my dad was in hospital with cancer, unable to travel, and my mum wasn’t willing to leave him.
So it felt particularly poignant, we’d been close, and she and I were the only two of the six of us still living at that time. Life can be hard. | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:36 - Jan 21 with 4836 views | gainsboroughblue |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:06 - Jan 21 by Lord_Lucan |
It's a weirdo thing to do.
My wifes brother did it to their mum and dad.
Completely bonkers.
If you want to cut ties then have the balls to explain why.
Fruitcakes. |
I'm with you there. I find it happens more within family dynamics than friendships. Both my dad and late mum's families were notorious for that sort of crap. Soon came cap in hand when they wanted something though. | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:39 - Jan 21 with 4782 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 19:52 - Jan 21 by GavTWTD |
Yes, by 2 different people. One of them did it a few times with no real reason and a feint apology. I say no real reason, I'm sure they had one, but just needed a break. Wasn't an issue with me. |
I should imagine it makes it even more difficult when you run a football site with them too. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:43 - Jan 21 with 4709 views | Nthsuffolkblue |
Can't think it has happened to me but I have had a lot of friends over the years with differing degrees of closeness that changes over time. I am not great at keeping up friendships when lives no longer coincide as they once did. If someone makes a special effort to do so, I try to reciprocate that but sometimes lives go in different directions.
I wouldn't worry about it. There must be reasons but do you need to know what they are? I get the feeling you are worried it is something you have done but if that's the case and they aren't going to tell you then you will never know. You can't do anything about something you don't know about.
Work on the relationships that matter to you now and be prepared to pick up the relationship if things change sometime in the future is my advice. | |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:47 - Jan 21 with 4653 views | greyhound |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:34 - Jan 21 by Ryorry |
It does leave you feeling bereft I agree - you don’t have the chance to say goodbye. My friend and her husband (who had died a few years previously) and who were a bit older than me and ex, but younger friends of my parents, had stood in sort of loco parentis for me at our wedding, as my dad was in hospital with cancer, unable to travel, and my mum wasn’t willing to leave him.
So it felt particularly poignant, we’d been close, and she and I were the only two of the six of us still living at that time. Life can be hard. |
Good grief this makes my experience seem like a drop in the ocean im so sorry to read this.
Been a really enlightening thread this and slightly healing as well. I kind of thought it was a fairly unique situation mainly because I could personally never imagine doing it to anyone myself. | | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone (n/t) on 22:00 - Jan 21 with 4541 views | PhilTWTD |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 21:39 - Jan 21 by Nthsuffolkblue |
I should imagine it makes it even more difficult when you run a football site with them too. |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 22:13 - Jan 21 with 4392 views | TractorWood |
Interesting thread.
I had a great friendship with someone growing up. We were really close from ages 5 to 18. He then went to uni and we drifted apart. I made an effort for a few years to stay in touch but he would read it and never replied.
Like a few others have said, I just got to the point where I felt like I was shouting into an empty room. He seems to have done the same to everyone else from his childhood. He hasn't been spotted or heard from in years. |  |
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| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 22:16 - Jan 21 with 4333 views | ArnoldMoorhen |
There has been a trend in therapy circles for clients to identify those who create toxicity and then cut them off.
This has then spilled over into bloggers, vloggers, internet chat groups etc.
A worrying trend, in my opinion, is the rise of unregulated, laughably "qualified" Life Coaches. I am aware of some who "help" people to "identify" toxicity in their lives. As Stewart Lee would say "For money". And of course, if somebody cuts off their support network then they become more dependent on the coach. And book more sessions.
It's very similar to how cults work. Membership of a cult (religious or political) may also be a possibility here.
That (cultural emphasis generally, or therapist or life coach relationship) might explain why it has happened. Also note the possibility of some "New Year, New Me!" motivation due to the timing. | | | |
| Has anyone ever been completely cut off by someone on 23:40 - Jan 21 with 4000 views | Europablue |
I have a friend who lives in another country, but we'd be in pretty frequent contact. We used to play online games quite regularly. When I was going through tough times he was someone I could talk to without it feeling like calling to talk.
Later things weren't going very well for him and he seemed pretty depressed. I was building a house and he was feeling trapped where he lived.
He was busy one week, then he was busy all the time and didn't respond to my messages. He didn't cut me off or block me, but he was just ignoring me.
I had a suicide in the family, so I was really worried about him and his frame of mind. I felt quite helpless and brought back a lot of bad feelings and really upset me. He didn't respond for months, then finally he responded apologizing for being bad at keeping in touch. He said he was feeling fine now, and there wasn't really a reason that he hasn't been in touch, just that he'd been busy. I get it, because if I don't respond to messages right away, I build up the response into a really big job that I will get round to and never do.
I would imagine that quite often there isn't a particular slight on you, then again it could even be things going well for you in some way that reflects painfully on their deficiency. | | | |
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